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Cathy Porter-Maynard (#47009361)
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"But don't forget the pioneers!
Brave heroes and heroines!
Their graves shall yet be found,
And monuments shall mark their dust,
As sacred earth and ground."

SOURCE: Mr. Wally Garchow.

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nancy ashley
Hiawatha Asylum for Insane Indians
thank you so much for all the research you have done on the unfortunate people who were incarcerated, and for telling the truth of how horribly they were treated.
Added by nancy ashley on Apr 29, 2015 9:44 AM
Wilma Gilstrap
Isaac Mills
I have just photographed and added it to Isaac Mills Memorial at the Roseville Bethel Cemetery. If you will check the memorial, you will see that the last name is not legible. I am awaiting your response as to whether Isaac's middle initial is "D". If so, since the cemetery is not that large, we can be almost certain that it is his tombstone.

Thanks and Regards,
Wilma Gilstrap
Added by Wilma Gilstrap on Apr 26, 2015 3:01 PM
Iriss Hill
Re: Hall/Overstreet/Dabney
Thank you for taking the time and effort to leave such a thoughtful message regarding my research, etc. on a mutual lineage. I loved searching and learning about them, creating memorials and linking. I was also happy to share the info for others related and interested.
Added by Iriss Hill on Apr 21, 2015 2:34 PM
Effie A.Voorus 69381990
Have added additional photo of Effie to memorial.
Added by Derwin on Mar 17, 2015 11:55 PM
John Laughlin 71367598
Have added 2 portraits of Laughlin to memorial and removed group potrait (which I posted) of Laughlin with 2 unidentified men. Laughlin was my maternal great grandfather.
Added by Derwin on Mar 03, 2015 8:07 PM
Kay Baldwin
Weaver line
Clement Weaver and Rebecca Holbrook 10th great grandparents.

Sgt. Clement Weaver and Mary Freeborn 9th gr. grandparents.

Elizabeth Weaver
Your 8th great grandmother
Birth 1645 in Newport, Rhode Island
Death 1697 in Cold Springs, Bucks, Pennsylvania

Spouse: Rev Thomas Dungan. Your 8th great grandfather
Birth 13 February 1635 in St Martin, Westminster, London, England. Death 1 Feb 1688 in Cold Springs, Bucks County, Pennsylvania.

Sarah Dungan. Your 7th great grandmother
Birth 1678 in Portsmouth, Newport, Rhode Island
Death 29 May 1760 in Northampton, Bucks, Pennsylvania
And Spouse:
James Carrell. Your 7th great grandfather
Birth 1666 in Rathmullen, Ulster, Ireland
Death 10 Feb 1720 in Warminster, Bucks, Pennsylvania

Lydia Carrell. Your 6th great grandmother
Birth 1710 in Warminster, Bucks, Pennsylvania
Death 1751 in Warrington, Bucks, or Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
And Spouse: Robert Tomkins. Your 6th great grandfather.
Birth 17 May 1710 in Warminster or Warrington, Bucks, Pennsylvania, United States
Death 1757 in Warrington, Bucks, Pennsylvania.

Sarah A Tompkins or Thompkins. Your 5th great grandmother
Birth 3 Mar 1743 in Warminster, Bucks, Pennsylvania, United States
Death 1818 in Felicity, Clermont, Ohio, United States.
And Spouse: Jacob Jones. Your 5th great grandfather
Birth 24 Mar 1742 in Bucks, Pennsylvania, United States
Death 1817 in Felicity, Clermont, Ohio, United States.

Susanna Jones. Your 4th great grandmother
Birth 24 May 1774 in Maryland
Death 11 Nov 1849 in Sinclair, Morgan, Illinois, United States
And Spouse: Robert (Col.) Robertson. Your 4th great grandfather. Birth 18 Aug 1772 in King George, Maryland, N American Colony, England or Frederick, Frederick, Maryland
Death 23 March 1840 in Sinclair, Morgan, Illinois, USA.

Elizabeth Robertson. Your 3rd great grandmother
Birth 15 Oct 1795 in Bourbon, Kentucky, United States
Death 9 Nov 1865 in Cass, Illinois, USA alt. Morgan County.
And Spouse: James Jr. Garner III. Your 3rd great grandfather
Birth 7 Oct 1792 in Rockingham, North Carolina, United States
Death 11 Sep 1862 in Philadelphia, Cass, Illinois, United States.

Susan Garner. Your 2nd great grandmother.
Birth 17 Apr 1818 in Clark County, Indiana, United States
Death 26 Jan 1886 in Virginia, Cass, Illinois, United States
And Spouse: Jonas Fox. Your 2nd great grandfather
Birth 11 Jan 1806 in Loudon County, Virginia, United States
Death 25 Aug 1893 in Morgan, Illinois, United States.

James Garner Fox. Your great grandfather
Birth 11 Jan 1844 in Virginia, Cass, Illinois, United States
Death 13 Jul 1917 in Jacksonville, Morgan, Illinois, United States.
And Spouse: Martha Frances Wyatt. Your great grandmother
Birth 21 April 1848 in Newmansville, Cass, Illinois, USA
Death 10 January, 1922 in Virginia, Cass, Illinois, United States.

That gets me back to descending from th Fox line as before.

Eager to hear back from you!!

Added by Kay Baldwin on Mar 01, 2015 4:32 PM
Kay Baldwin
RE: Logue Family Connections
Here is my info as it stands right now for my connections to the Logue and Jobe families:

Believe Both William Logue and Enoch Jobe Jr. or Sr. may have served in the Revolutionary War . . . and I would like to get enough documentation to prove that for DAR. I already am a member but would like to add patriots.

William Logue (1760 - 1778). Born in Maryland or Pennsylvania. Died ???? Young. is my 5th great grandfather.

4th great grandfather: William Marrs Logue (1778 - 1839) Born in Virginia and died in Warren County, Tennessee. Son of Martha ? And son of William Logue. Wife Hannah Jobe, daughter of Enoch Jobe Jr. Hannah, also born in Virginia and died in Tennessee, and daughter of Lucretia or Lucrecy.

Oliver Logue (1803 - 1874). Born in Barren County, Kentucky
and died in Cass County, Illinois. Son of Hannah Jobe and
son of William Marrs Logue

Mary Arminda (Armanda) Logue (1826 - 1914). Born in Oct. 1826 in Warren County, Tennessee and died in Cass County, Illinois Oct. 1914. Daughter of Rebecca Cole and
daughter of Oliver Logue.

Martha Frances Wyatt (1848 - 1922). Born and died in Cass County, Illinois. Daughter of John M. Wyatt and
daughter of Mary Arminda (Armanda) Logue

John Roy Fox (1883 - 1930) born in Cass County, Illinois.
Died in Greeley or Howard County, Nebraska. ( neighboring counties). Son of James Garner Fox and son of Martha Frances Wyatt.

John Garner Fox (1916 - 1973) born in Sangamon Co., Illinois
Grew up in Greeley County, NE
Died in Red Cloud, Webster County, Nebraska.
son of John Roy Fox

Kay LaVonne Fox (me. Now Kay LaVonne Baldwin) Born in Grand Island, Nebraska. Now living in Bellevue, Nebraska.
Added by Kay Baldwin on Mar 01, 2015 4:09 PM
Kay Baldwin
RE: Logue family.
I saw this memorial:

Created by: Cathy Porter-Maynard
Record added: Feb 19, 2012
Find A Grave Memorial# 85174121

And wondered if you had any ties to this family? I am researching my families lineage and believe I'm a direct descendant of a Logue in this same family line.
Thank you for your time and for the work you do for Find A Grave!

Kay Baldwin
Added by Kay Baldwin on Feb 26, 2015 2:19 PM
re: May Stevens Nevada State Hospital Cemetery Memorial
Dear Cathy,
Your memorial tribute for May Stevens is achingly beautiful. Thank you for taking the time to research her story and to share it so lovingly on her memorial.

I am not related to May Stevens, nor did I know her; she died eleven years before I was born. But her story could have been my story. In 1968, when I was barely fifteen years old, I had a “breakdown” after going through a horrific series of traumas, and was put in the Nevada, Missouri State Hospital by my abusive parents. I spent almost two years there, the longest and hardest years of my life.

I have written a bit about this on a blog. Here is the link:

Last May, my husband and I drove over 600 miles from our home to the site where the state hospital used to be, before it was closed and torn down in the 1990s. The main Kirkbride building was the largest structure in the state of Missouri at the time of its construction, measuring over a mile in circumference. At the time of my incarceration, that massive building was packed to overflowing, as were the peripheral buildings that had been built to hold the overflow.

You are correct in saying that most people committed to that institution in May Stevens' era were never released. That sad fact had not changed even by the 1960s. Probably the main difference between my time and hers was the blanket use of powerful tranquilizers like Thorazine, which – contrary to popular belief – does not “treat” nor “help” mental illness, it merely makes the patient more docile and easy to manage, while simultaneously damaging their brain.

Shortly after my parents put me in the institution, I asked the ward doctor how soon I could go home. He matter-of-factly replied that, according to the current statistics of the time, 97% of the patients committed to that institution were never permanently released. If I were to remain longer than one year, he said, my odds of ever again being free would go down to less than 1%.

Seeing what must have been a look of shocked disbelief on my face, Dr. Conn told me to ask the other patients on the ward how long they had been there, if I doubted his word. I did ask, and the shortest answer I remember hearing was eight years, the average closer to twenty years and beyond.

I was not a criminal. On the contrary, I was quiet, shy, docile, and very eager to please. I had never harmed anyone, nor had I ever threatened to harm anyone (unless you count the cheating boyfriend I had threatened to slap when I was thirteen). I was a good kid! And yet, my life was over before I was old enough to drive.

That's why I did the only thing that seemed reasonable under the circumstances, I ran away at the first opportunity. When I was caught, I was punished by being strapped to a bed in solitary confinement for at least a week, with four-point restraints.

The third time I escaped, I managed to elude recapture for two days and my escape was broadcast on the news. That time when I was caught and brought back, a furious hospital administrator cursed me out, then ordered my immediate transfer to Maximum Security, where they kept the criminally insane. This ward was so dangerous that, with the exception of shift change, the nurse attendants rarely stepped outside the safety of their locked office.

I was a skinny and frail 15-year-old. I almost did not survive Maximum Security.

As horrible as my experience was, I was one of the lucky ones. Although there was no psychotherapy treatment done for the vast majority of the patients at this institution during my stay there, at least none for the vast majority of the patients I personally saw on a daily basis, when a newly graduated psychiatrist was hired to take over my ward during my second year there, he quickly decided that I was not mentally ill, and went to bat for me to secure my release. Thanks to the progressive thinking and tenacious courage of Dr. Fenster, I was given the opportunity to have a life. I married (more than once), had three children, worked for the 700 TV ministry for several years, went to nursing school and was elected class president, then wrote and published a novel.

Today I am a 61-year-old great-grandmother, happy in my life and grateful beyond words.

My fate could have so easily been no different than poor May Stevens, and the countless thousands of others who lived and died in the Nevada, MO, institution. I do wrestle at times with survivor's guilt, just as my Vietnam veteran husband wrestles with guilt because so many did not come back from the horror of combat.

Today, more than forty-five years later, the time I spent in the insane asylum still haunts me. I am writing a book about it, or trying to – writing this story is one of the hardest things I have ever done! But I think it's important for me to tell my story. I have searched online, looking for others like me, but I have yet to find a single fellow survivor of this asylum.

It is heartbreaking to me when I see how many of the Find a Grave memorials on the Nevada (Missouri) State Hospital Cemetery site say nothing whatsoever about the individual who lived and died there. It is equally hurtful for me to see the number of memorials where a distant relative of the deceased has written something along the lines of: "Nevada State Hospital also housed people who were not mentally ill, but who had a physical illness such as tuberculosis. My ancestor/relative died here of TB (or something similar), but he/she was not one of the mental patients."

Some of what I call these “denial memorials” use the fact that their relative's death certificate did not mention any mental illness, as “proof” that they were not one of the (dreadful!) mental patients. Thank you, Dear Cathy, for pointing out the fact that although May Stevens was diagnosed with depression and spent more than thirty years of her life here, none of that is mentioned on her death certificate!

Family denial only perpetuates the intensely painful, unfair, life-crippling STIGMA in our society against mental illness. This is why I appreciate your honest and COMPASSIONATE memorial so very much!

During my almost two year stay in this “hospital,” I never saw nor heard of any kind of patient other than the mentally ill or cognitively impaired. Furthermore, in my research for writing my book, I have yet to find a single *official* reference to this institution ever having been routinely or widely used for anything other than the warehousing of mental patients. While many of the mentally ill or cognitively impaired patients did have physical illnesses as well, and many of them undoubtedly ultimately died from their various physical ailments, these physical disorders were not the reason for their incarceration in this institution.

As your memorial for May Stevens truthfully notes, this institution was officially named “Lunatic Asylum No. 3” early in its history. Some time later the official name was changed to “State Hospital for the Insane, No. 3” – this was its name while I was there, only later was the name shortened to the more politically correct “State Hospital No. 3.” With the words “Lunatic” and “Insane” being part of its actual NAME, who are all these people kidding when they insist that their relative was in this institution for tuberculosis, etc., and no other reason?

As I am going through Find a Grave, leaving an angel memorial on each site, occasionally I come across a rare memorial which acknowledges that the person was, indeed, classified as mentally ill. But most of these truthful memorials communicate this fact in a terse, cold, and often shameful way, such by including a photograph of an old newspaper clipping reporting that the individual had been arrested and later “found guilty of insanity” in a court hearing, and then taken by the sheriff to the Nevada hospital, with not a single word of kindness or compassion anywhere on the memorial.

My heart aches when I see these things. I hate to think that someone may come along after I am dead and gone, and post about the worst, most painfully humiliating time in my life, on my online memorial! Again, Cathy, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your HONESTY and COMPASSION, two traits that are far too rare, in our society, when it comes to the topic of “mental illness.”

God Bless you, beautifully lady!
Added by Joy on Feb 21, 2015 2:48 PM
Effie A.Voorus 69381990
Wow! What a great deal of information you just added to Effie's memorial. My great grandmother, Elizabeth Dickey Laughlin (71367811) was the superintendent of schools in Pierre SD which is how she knew Effie.
Added by Derwin on Feb 21, 2015 1:05 PM
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