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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Bio Photo Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE will be added in the bio line of the memorials. I will not add rank to the name if they did not die in service to their country. All military gravestones when the person dies much later than there service does not have their rank in front of their name, it is after their name, therefore their rank will be in the bio line. I believe in memorializing their full life rather than the short time they served their country. They had lives other than serving their country & military service is but a small part of their lives but should be recognized for putting their lifes at risk to protect our country.

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Dale Faulkner
RE: Re: John Faulkner
Thank you. I just feel that I am respecting those that came before me.
Added by Dale Faulkner on Jul 26, 2014 2:18 PM
Clyte Ruckles
Hi Cheryl,
I'm doing some research for a friend and see that you have quite a lot of info, photo and connections for Clyte Ruckles. I was wondering if you are a relative. If so, my friend might want to connect with you for a chat. Clyte was her aunt.

Manzanita, OR
Added by KM2 on Jul 25, 2014 11:57 AM
Marcia Lynne vonGunden
Hello again Cheryl,
Thank you so very much for your prompt attention to what I considered a problem. I appreciate your help in getting it solved.
With sincerest regards,
# 47059326
Added by Marcia Lynne vonGunden on Jul 21, 2014 10:29 PM
Marcia Lynne vonGunden
Added by Marcia Lynne vonGunden on Jul 21, 2014 10:26 PM
Pauline Swallow
Thank you so much for the quick update of her memorial. I had originally added her memorial to Evergreen Washelli from her funeral program and death notice in the newspaper when I added her husband in Kelso. My father spoke at her funeral so I was really surprised when I stumbled on your memorial. I contacted the cemetery and they are the ones who provided the information about her being moved. Love the new edit feature that makes it so quick and simple to fix things like this.
Added by ChuckNorris on Jul 12, 2014 11:58 AM
Rebecca Sisson and William Gardner memorials
Hi Cheryl! I just wanted to commend you for the amazing work on the Gardner memorials! I can see that you pay great attention to detail and put more effort into connecting family members than most contributors. Thank you, Beth
Added by Beth on Jul 03, 2014 9:10 PM
Thomas Harleman
Memorial 64633107
This was my father. Thank you.
Added by Thomas Harleman on Jul 01, 2014 3:49 AM
Susanna Parrish Allen
Memorial 92911699
Hi girl..this is not the correct photo for the memorial?

Added by Susanna Parrish Allen on Jun 27, 2014 4:30 AM
RE: Re: Durkes Family
Thank you! I will check to see if they are listed. If not, I will add them, except one that is still living.
Added by bes3kids on Jun 26, 2014 9:11 PM
Lisa Arm Schweiger
Manerva Sippy Manley
I cannot locate the photo of the handmade marker with m. manley on it. Have you posted it? Thanks, Lisa
Added by Lisa Arm Schweiger on Jun 26, 2014 7:19 PM
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