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Shirley Goingღ (#46913836)
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Bio Photo ~ If you'd like me to TRANSFER a Memorial of your family member that I've entered, just ask. I'll transfer it to you if they are not my blood relation. ~ ~

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"THANK YOU" To Everyone Who Stopped By And Left A Kind Note And/Or Flower On My Family Memorials. They are greatly appreciated.

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So many people have said to me "don't you have better things to do with your time then drag up the past?" I tell all of you now, I do, but I don't.

My father, Duel Glen Going, was only 5 years old when he lost his father, Alonzo Stubblefield Going, to Typhoid. My grandmother, Pearl Cathern Holt-Going Phillips, then took her 4 children and moved to Oklahoma and there was very little contact between her and the "Going" family. Therefore, I never knew this family and very little was ever spoken of them.

My feelings are, in each family, someone is called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again. To tell the family story and feel that somehow the "old ones" know and approve. To me, doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before me.

I feel I am the story teller of the "GOING"(plus many more surnames)tribe. I feel I have been called as if it were by my genes. Those who have gone before me cry out to me: "Tell our story." So, I'm trying. In finding them, I somehow find myself.

For me, it started on a beautiful November day in the 1980's. I stood in front of my Grandfather Alonzo Going's grave in the Masonic Cemetery, Pocahontas, Randolph County, Arkansas, and asked him, and all the other family gravestones around him, "Who were you? Where did you come from? Why didn't I get to know you?" With tears streaming down both of my eyes, I looked up into a cloudless sky of blue and vowed, at that very moment in time, I would not stop until those questions were answered.


If you have time to visit one of my family members, it would be greatly appreciated.



Georgia Lee Cox Going

Duel Glen Going


Betty Jane Going Kelso

Helen Yvonne Going Wilson


Donna Yvonne Kelso

Cheryl Ann Kelso Clark

Joel Tavis Coffey


Alonzo Stubblefield Going

Pearl Cathern Holt-Going Phillips

John Avery Cox

Lucinda Eveline "Eva" Widener-Cox Johnson

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Tammie Hinson
Thank you
So sweet of you to do this! Thank you so very much!
Added by Tammie Hinson on Dec 30, 2014 11:56 PM
Rob Keeney
Sylvester Keeney 65059163 transfer request
Hi Shirley,

Thought I'd ask if you'd mind transferring maintenance for Sylvester Keeney, Augusta Keeney, Alvie Lee Keeney and Allen C. Keeney over to me. Sylvester was my great uncle.

Thank you,

Rob Keeney
Added by Rob Keeney on Oct 21, 2014 5:08 PM
Sue Seeterlin Rice
Dewayne E Bell
Hi Shirley,

Just a gentle reminder of deleting one of 2 identical photos of Dewayne. I have a photo to add of his name on the Vietnam Wall. Cant add it because have reached the limit of allowed photos.
Thanks, Sue Rice
Added by Sue Seeterlin Rice on Oct 08, 2014 8:41 AM
Lena M
Troy F. Partain
Could you please transfer the memorial that you made for Troy Partian. I added his photos and the bio you used and I would like to be able to update our family and plot info. Thank you!
Added by Lena M on Sep 27, 2014 12:14 PM
Sue Seeterlin Rice
Edgar D Bell
Hi Shirley,

I found 2 photos the same on Edgar's memorial. Can you remove one so I can add a photo of the Vietnam Wall with his name on it? #19384700, you will also see a photo we took 2 years ago, My husband Mike Rice, was also in Vietnam and was honored by escorting his cousin home after he got killed. Tragic circumstances.

Hope you are well, and I still enjoy seeing your genealogy progress.

Sue Seeterlin-Rice
Added by Sue Seeterlin Rice on Sep 12, 2014 10:02 AM
31461450 AND 21520089
they only had two children they where John Benjamin and William Edgar the other two names you have listed where not theirs thank you
Added by BENNY ENNIS WHITE on Jul 31, 2014 2:49 PM
Mike Pippin
Virgie nee Carson Fagan
I am sending this to let you and the world know of some info I have discovered. Virgie Fagan's headstone gives her dod as Oct. 28, 1916 and from what I can tell anyone who has her within their trees has this date. Recently I found her Mo. death certificate under the name Virgie Phagan and it has the year as 1915. I also found her obit in Doniphan's Prospect-News in November 1915. So it seems her headstone is wrong.
Also this website has her daughter as May Fagan, born and died in May of 1916. If true, then she couldn't be Virgie's daughter. However, looking at the photo in her listing it looks like the headstone gives dod as 1912 or possibly 1913.
If you should look into this please relay your findings back to me.
With regards,
Mike Pippin, member # 47470534 and gr-nephew to Virgie Fagan.
Added by Mike Pippin on Jul 10, 2014 6:03 PM
Jenny Sanders
John Penn Sanders (Saunders)

I noticed there is a headstone for John Penn Sanders in Arkansas shown on Find-a-Grave which indicates there is no stone which is correct. This is my husband's Great Grandfather. When I showed him the picture he wanted me to ask if this is just for showing on the web-site or is there an actual stone in the Cemetary now with this information.

He is wanting to locate where John Penn is buried. (He also has family with the last name of Cox.)

In addition, I want to thank you for all you do with Find-a-Grave. We are still trying to find out what happened to my husband's Great-Great Grandfather, Jeremiah (John Penn's father) He seems to have disappeared after the 1880 census.
Jenny S. in Missouri

Added by Jenny Sanders on Jul 07, 2014 1:53 PM
Michael S. Lark
Carlyle Lark
Hey There...... I just kind of started looking over this website again so I'm kind of new. You added a picture of the Thayer cemetery on Carlyle H Lark's Memorial, He is my Grandfather (My Dad's Dad) How do I transfer that on to my control ?? Thanks, any help is much appreciated.
Added by Michael S. Lark on May 29, 2014 12:28 AM
Mary Yarber
Clifford England
You have the wrong man pictured as my uncle, Clifford England. He is the other man in the picture.
Mary Yarber
Added by Mary Yarber on May 05, 2014 5:49 PM
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