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Shirley Goingღ (#46913836)
 member for 8 years, 2 months, 30 days
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Bio Photo ~ ~ If you'd like a family memorial TRANSFER just ask. I'll transfer it to you if they are not my blood relation. ~ ~

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"THANK YOU" To Everyone Who Stopped By And Left A Kind Note And/Or Flower On one of My Family Memorials. They are greatly appreciated.
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So many people have said to me "don't you have better things to do with your time then drag up the past?" I tell all of you now, I do, but I don't.

My father, Duel Glen Going, was only 5 years old when he lost his father, Alonzo Stubblefield Going, to Typhoid. My grandmother, Pearl Cathern Holt-Going Phillips, then took her 4 children and moved to Oklahoma and there was very little contact between her and the "Going" family. Therefore, I never knew this family and very little was ever spoken of them.

My feelings are, in each family, someone is called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again. To tell the family story and feel that somehow the "old ones" know and approve. To me, doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before me.

I feel I am the story teller of the "GOING"(plus many more surnames)tribe. I feel I have been called as if it were by my genes. Those who have gone before me cry out to me: "Tell our story." So, I'm trying. In finding them, I somehow find myself.

For me, it started on a beautiful November day in the 1980's. I stood in front of my Grandfather Alonzo Going's grave in the Masonic Cemetery, Pocahontas, Randolph County, Arkansas, and asked him, and all the other family gravestones around him, "Who were you? Where did you come from? Why didn't I get to know you?" With tears streaming down both of my eyes, I looked up into a cloudless sky of blue and vowed, at that very moment in time, I would not stop until those questions were answered.


If you have time to visit one of my family members, it would be greatly appreciated.



Georgia Lee Cox Going

Duel Glen Going


Betty Jane Going Kelso

Helen Yvonne Going Wilson


Janice Elaine Kelso Olsen

Donna Yvonne Kelso

Cheryl Ann Kelso Clark

Joel Tavis Coffey


Alonzo Stubblefield Going

Pearl Cathern Holt-Going Phillips

John Avery Cox

Lucinda Eveline "Eva" Widener-Cox Johnson

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Jennifer Lillard
White, James and Laura
Thank you so much for photographing their headstones. I do appreciate it.
Added by Jennifer Lillard on Aug 30, 2015 5:20 PM
Hout Photos
Thank you so much for the Hout photos in Macey.
Added by beckyt on Aug 29, 2015 8:19 AM
Clifford L Hunsaker
Thank you for your time and effort in finding the grave site.

Added by seedsofcuriousity on Aug 09, 2015 12:41 PM
Donald Lloyd Pearce
Thank you for your time and effort in for looking grave site.

Added by seedsofcuriousity on Aug 08, 2015 10:11 AM
Edgar P Pearce
Thank You for your effort and time in looking for headstone.

Added by seedsofcuriousity on Aug 08, 2015 10:07 AM
Kevin Mansfield
RE: Thank You Kevin
Shirley, thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I think we understand each other and our motives here. Please let me know if there's ever anything I can do for you.
Added by Kevin Mansfield on Aug 01, 2015 10:44 AM
Thank you, Sweet Shirley. bb
Added by bebe on Jul 06, 2015 6:53 PM
RE: Beverly Johnson
I apologize. Thank you for bringing this to my attention. I have deleted the memorial.
Added by Pam on Jul 06, 2015 4:09 PM
RE: David Eve
Done. I had taken one just in case.
Added by josephus14 on Jul 05, 2015 7:43 AM
David Eve
David does not yet have a permanent marker. Next time I am in the area I will check again.
Added by josephus14 on Jul 04, 2015 6:07 PM
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