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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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Waterbury Ward
RE: Spring family in Old Pine Grove Cemetery
You're Welcome!
Added by Waterbury Ward on Nov 22, 2014 6:25 PM
Carolyn Rowland Coady Schrauben
Thomas Francis McGarry
Tim & Grace: Thank you so much for the information and for linking Thomas to his parents. I really appreciate your help and the time you spent. Sincerely Carolyn Coady Schrauben
Added by Carolyn Rowland Coady Sch... on Nov 22, 2014 3:01 PM
Ben G
RE: McManus Family in Forest City Cemetery
I do not remember specifically examining the Robertson side of the stone (I do know the name is engraved), but the four small stones on the McManus side are Kerry, Norma, Percy & Sadie. Next time I am back that way I will try to remember to check for Carrie.
Added by Ben G on Nov 22, 2014 12:56 PM
Sharon Wood
Hi Tim,
Volunteered to help Judy & Doug Drake to place people in the right sections in Balcom Cemetery. Have done this to Tuttle on my own. Tuttle has section signs. I believe I only have 2 sections left but probably won't get them done this year. There is a map for Balcom. Will try to get one for Tuttle. Early winter here so that takes care of my project.

Added by Sharon Wood on Nov 22, 2014 11:02 AM
Carolyn Rowland Coady Schrauben
Nettie Belding McGarry
I am trying to find (84989187)Nettie's husband, Patrick Henry McGarry. He was my Great-Great Grandmothers brother. Her name was Mary Ann McGarry Coady (31155965) He, Patrick died 10-21-1924 in Jacksonville, Dival, Florida. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks. Carolyn
Added by Carolyn Rowland Coady Sch... on Nov 11, 2014 12:49 PM
Melanie Taylor
Orvis Sweet
Thank you for posting this information. Orvis
Sweet is my grandmother's brother (Alice Eliza Sweet.) The familylore included stories of Civil War heroes, including Orvis and his father, Haviland.
Added by Melanie Taylor on Nov 08, 2014 8:58 AM
Noreen Peary Hammond
Ethel M. Perkins Story
Memorial # 31068719
I believe you intended to enter Owen K. Story and Ethel M. Perkins marriage as 31 Oct 1949 NOT 1849. I know sometimes our fingers get a mind of their own. The following is from

Marriage Record of Owen K. STORY & Ethel PERKINS

Name of Groom: Owen K. STORY
Groom's Place of Residence: Washburn, Me.
Name of Bride: Ethel PERKINS
Possible Alternate Name of Bride: Ethel NASH [View alternate record]
Bride's Place of Residence: Skowhegan, Me.
Marriage Date: Monday, 31 Oct. 1949
Marriage Certificate Number: Not available

Thanks for all the information you have provided

Added by Noreen Peary Hammond on Oct 27, 2014 5:42 PM
Research Digger
Hi! My name is Pat and I have been researching the McManus Clan, I see you entered John McManus on here but with no death date. I believe his wife was Catherine Madden. Catherine would have been my great great Aunt. I found a death record for her that she died in 1881 and was buried in Forest City Cemetery. Their son John, Jr. and his decendants are buried in Mt. Pleasant and Forest City according to Findagrave. I called the Forest City Cemetery and they have no record of Catherine. They had six children. John Sr. was a soldier at Fort Scammel. It is very confusing as to why some of John Jr's children are buried in both cemeteries. Looking for some help here. You can call me at 203-888-7940 and I can explain things better....I hope! Thank you ever so much.
Added by Research Digger on Oct 27, 2014 11:33 AM
Bonnie Kies
RE: TEC4 - Army
Thanks Tim glad to hear it. That is one of the things I miss about being here. Used to go to Vermont to visit my cousin and ride around looking at the leaves. Thanks Bonnie :)
Added by Bonnie Kies on Oct 21, 2014 11:02 AM
Bonnie Kies
Horace Eugene McIntire
Can I ask what the TEC4 means on his stone? Bonnie :)
Added by Bonnie Kies on Oct 20, 2014 8:23 PM
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