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Morbid as it might sound, I have always been fascinated with forensics and cemeteries and such, particularly since the death of my first husband (the father of my children) in 2001 at the age of 33. |
My interest in metaphysics, the Other Side, and the paranormal/supernatural skyrocketed after his death, though I always had a strong interest in those areas. I had a reading with a medium in 2001 who knew nothing more than my first name, and she was at least 85% accurate when she described my (at the time) recently deceased first husband. It blew me away, and I have since been honing my own skills in spirit contact.
I live right across the street from a cemetery that was est. in 1875 and I find it fascinating to walk through there and read the tombstones, wondering about the people buried there and what kind of lives they lived. I often walk through the cemetery at night for exercise for about 45 minutes--most people hear that and are really freaked out, but I find it quite peaceful and it's almost a form of meditation for me.
I am 34 yrs old with an awesome husband, three great kids, and a stepdaughter. I am expecting my first grandchild in the fall of 2007.
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|Jackson Edward Wilson||RE: Thomas Lindsey Montgomery, Jr 1976-2013|
Good evening Jen,
First off, this is not just something I treat as a hobby. I do the work I do to ensure that some records last for posterity. Findagrave is a wonderful resource, and I am glad to be part of it.
Although your message was very kind, and I am sorry for your loss, I am most displeased with how you treated the situation. I prefer that memorials are in the care of family members, and am always happy to transfer so not sure why you thought this was the appropriate means to deal with this. I can sympathize with the mourning and understand that you were in grief, but you still should search the database before adding any records to avoid duplicates.
The way you treated this situation is somewhat offending to me Jen. Not only did you go against findagrave guidelines by duplicating a memorial page, but you then demand that I just up and delete mine so you can manage yours. I would've you rather just sent me a transfer request and it would have been much less a burden. The way you worded your message (rather intentional or not) was offensive to me with how it was expressed. Not trying to sound like a jerk, but it irritates me when I get requests in this manner.
Never-the-less I am still willing to work with you, and I do understand that this is the loss of your husband.
I will not remove the memorial page I created, but ask that you remove your duplicate. Once you remove your duplicate memorial, let me know and send me your member #. I then will be happy to transfer the first one created to your management. Then do as you please. This is not against you, and I would tell someone else the same. We all still need to follow findagrave guidelines and respect one another's work.
Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband, and despite the conflict am happy to work with you to resolve this.
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