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First, my deepest thanks to those who have kept my spirits up by being supportive friends and who have honored my dear ones so faithfully.|
I still find myself trying to focus on the theme of rebirth, and trying to shake the gloom of close losses in the past few years.
Our Romberger Family Association founder, the gent who found our original immigrant ancestor and his family home in Germany, a friend and genealogical mentor has passed. Thank you if you can honor Dr. John A. Romberger. The day we laid Dr. John to rest, another Doctor left us - my dear godfather, Dr. Edwin R. Baldrige. Since then my silversmith teacher, some of my favorite school teachers, and guiding figures from my church have also passed. It sort of feels like my mentors are all taking flight.
I'm finding using the site difficult right now. Some people have found it very therapeutic after a loss. Unfortunately, it has the opposite effect on me; I see all the losses of my fellow contributors, and it makes me feel terrible. I see your now-gone loved ones, and in a small way I re-live the loss of my loved ones. I think my feelings are still too close to the surface to be so easily stirred.
If you have a moment, would you kindly visit Randall Buckley? This is our friend Paula's brother.
If you are wondering whom else to visit, perhaps you'd kindly look in on my dearest.
If you have a moment, would you please send prayers to fellow contributor Ann H?
And if you have another moment, please consider leaving a token for our fellow contributor, White Light.
Picture use: You are welcome to use pictures for personal use, but I do NOT consent for their use online or on commercial or paid sites. FindAGrave is about sharing what you know, and I will not have my good will co-opted and monetized. I saw some of my pics stolen from here and put on ancestry.com and I am taking action to correct this.
Transfers and suggestions: Forgive me, but experience has been a harsh teacher. I used to be very cool about transferring, but I've had about enough of being easy about this. I'll gladly transfer the memorials of anyone not related or without meaning to me in a heartbeat, and I have hundreds to give away. But on family, I'm adopted, working on both birth and adopted families. I have a lot of family to cover, possibly double the size of yours, and I have not articulated my relationship to the subject of every memorial for privacy reasons. Rather than quibble, I would be gladder still to improve a memorial with your suggestions sent via SAC. Let's do the right thing and make the memorial accurate, suitable and a reflection of that person's life. You can put the improved memorial in a "virtual cemetery" without needing ownership of it, as I have done with relatives that other contributors have added to the site. I can add links or the info you wish, and you are welcome to add pictures.
On the other hand, if the memorial is one I have added by chance or the subject is no one related to me or is one to whom I have no attachment, I will offer to transfer instantly.
FindAGrave memorials are online representations of real graves, not trading cards. I don't collect them for numbers and am frankly relieved to see them go to family if they have no connection and meaning to me. There are relatives of mine another contributor has memorialized on the site that I do not "own" and have not asked for, content that I have added the info I have, and linked them to their kin.
"Many African societies divide humans into three categories; those still alive on earth, the sasha, and the zamani. The recently departed whose time on earth overlapped with people still here are the sasha, the living-dead. They are not wholly dead, for they still live in the memories of the living, who can call them to mind, create their likeness in art, and bring them to life in anecdote. When the last person to know an ancestor dies, that ancestor leaves the sasha for the zamani, the dead. As generalized ancestors, the zamani are not forgotten but revered. Many can be recalled by name. But they are not living-dead. There is a difference." -- from "Lies My Teacher Told Me" by James Loewen
So perhaps the progression of the living to the sasha to the zamani cannot be helped, but we record here those we knew, both sasha and zamani, and leave some record of them. And if they are sashas to us, perhaps our record keeps them sashas longer as we offer our first hand accounts of them.
It bothers me that time passes, because I sense my friends and family members moving out of sight as they pass through the celestial plan, or whatever you like to call it. I am just conscious that our grip on those we know and love is constantly eroding. I think this is why I have been drawn to FindAGrave; I can't stop people from dying, but I can stop them from being forgotten, and can see the lives of people other contributors feel the same about, those they don't want to shift out of focus as time clouds memories and people who knew others pass on. Here, at least, we can freeze them in time and recount all that made them good or special.
Your visits to my loved ones mean a lot to me. They mean my folks here are not forgotten, and honor people I really loved or respected or took the time to research, so thank you. I enjoy honoring people remembered on Find a Grave, and do take the time to read bio info on memorials. I appreciate knowing about the people other folks want remembered.
Every memorial entered here has been done with respect and good intent, in the hopes dear ones will not be forgotten. Any concerns, additions and so on are most welcome here on this page.
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|bluebell||A Question About Morris Ettinger|
Yes, isn't that a completely wonderful photo? I love it. I have left you a note on the edit tab of one of the Ettinger memorials you manage. That note contains my email address. Would you mind sending me an email and I will happily tell you everything I know about this man. Thanks for writing.---bluebell
Added by bluebell on Apr 24, 2015 6:07 PM
|DORRIS SICKELS SMITH||MFB|
Don't let this person tell you what to do, she is everyone's cousin on earth, just ask her.
|S Hamilton Clemow||RE: Phil is yours...|
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I would really hope that your Grandpa got the chance to know my uncle---and vice versa because your Grandpa sounds like a really great guy too (and I'm sure they would have gotten along very well)! I guess it would also "connect us" in a small way! You could never imagine how wonderful my uncle was and how very lucky we were to have him as such a special part of our family! By the way, I'm truly happy that you got the chance to know your Grandpa and experience his love for you (which will never end)! I just added a picture to the memorial---just in case you would like to see it!
Thank you so much once again!
|John Pagini||Jacob Bennett|
Thanks for the information about Jacob Bennett's death. Very interesting. Will add to narrative on this site.
|Suzanne Moore PhD||Kitty|
According to my father, now deceased, Kitty was adopted by his Uncle who lived in Oneida. My father called her Kitty. I have nothing more than his recollection of her as a well-mannered youngster. I know nothing further about her or the Bennett family.
|Denny Shumway||RE: thank you|
my pleasure and my passion to help others find their lost ones
Iam very sorry to tell you, but according to Find A Grave rules, your memorial listed in the subject line has to be taken down.
You have done a very good job, but if you go to the memorial number at the heading of this note you will see that this memorial was created first.
I created neither of these , but rules are rules ,
|Strings Of Heart||Many thanks|
Thinking of you & the many, many flowers you have left for my loved ones. I am forever grateful for your kindness. I do not visit this site often as it has not helped the healing process for me, but I thank you for letting me know you care by stopping by to visit.
Again, thank you so very much!
|Dan Oh||RE: Robert Gilmore 1956|
refresh my memory on son's name and stuff, March 1979. Did I already look for that?
Added by Dan Oh on Mar 30, 2015 3:01 PM
|Dan Oh||Robert Gilmore 1956|
Note from the Registrar of Wills, Chester County:
"We have three Robert Gilmores, no middle initial on any. 1931, 1935 and 1942 – no 1956."
-- so your family story of his money going to the church can not be documented.
Added by Dan Oh on Mar 30, 2015 8:22 AM
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