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Lola Cross (#46826038)
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Bio Photo I am a 67 year old woman who had three grown children. My youngest son, Troy Evan Patton was murdered by his abusive wife on January 28, 2006. A very dear friend added my son to the Find A Grave Site and I since then have sponsored it.

While visiting here one day I saw that there were 5 requests for photos from Laurel Hill Cemetery where my son is buried. My husband of 19 years and I searched the cemetery and found two of them. We have three to go and will continue to look for those.

With me, as I'm sure it is with others...I want my son's memory to live on and I want people to know his story. As grieving parents, we find it impossible to let go and will do anything possible to hold on to each and every memory we have of our child.

My daughter's little girl was only 6 months old when her Uncle Troy was murdered, but by her seeing the pictures of him that sit out at everyone's home and the funny stories we tell of him, she speaks of him just as if she knew him. That's what I want. I want everyone to feel like they knew my son.

My Son ~ Troy Evan Patton

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Elizabeth Truvillion
Troy Evan Patton
My name is Elizabeth i herd about what happened to Troy I'm so sorry about what happened to him he will be miss Dearly. My heart goes out to his family and friends if you need anything please let me now i prey for Troy and keep him in my heart and prey
Added by Elizabeth Truvillion on Dec 10, 2014 1:05 PM
My sympathy
I saw the program on TV tonight regarding your dear son, Troy. I live in Illinois as well, in Livingston County, and just wanted to let you know that I'm very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. God's blessings, Pam
Added by MidwestMom on Mar 15, 2014 10:56 PM
In Memory of my son Ronald and mother Piney
Piney McBride
Lola, Thank you for the beautiful note and token you left for my mother. She was a very special person. Mary
Added by In Memory of my son Ronal... on May 12, 2012 10:57 PM
Jennie Stilts (Pierson)
cathy picken (pierson)
thank you lola...
Added by Jennie Stilts (Pierson) on Jul 06, 2011 6:39 PM
kelly hammel
Lola, Thank you for the Pictures and letting me know about this! That was avery Sweet letter you wrote to Shannon ! you are a Wonderful Friend! I think about you alot and Hope Youre Doing Good ! love kelly
Added by kelly hammel on May 23, 2011 11:27 PM
Jennie Stilts (Pierson)
hi lola
thank you for your note on dad's site.. i appreciate it dearly.. jennie
Added by Jennie Stilts (Pierson) on May 22, 2011 8:10 PM
Stonecipher family
Lola, I have been thinking of you and I really appreciate the notes you wrote for my great-grandparents. I just want you to know that the house is still here, almost exactly like it was then, except that we changed the back porch into a laundry room and bath. I've lived here since I was 5 years old; we started remodeling after my great-grandmother passed away. The back porch, actually, became the floor of my chicken house--but other than chickens, gardens, and one rabbit, we are not much of a working farm anymore.

Most of the outbuildings are still around, even the outhouse (and yes, it's full of mice and spiders)--although the windstorm a few years back knocked over the corn crib, and we tore down the smoke house. The forest is just a beautiful as it ever was, and I grew up playing in it. I have always felt since I was a little girl that my great-grandmother was here, watching over us. I even had dreams that she was talking to me. It was this house, and being surrounded by the things they left behind--irons, broken plates, horseshoes, Aunt Hala's doll--that inspired me to become an archaeologist.

My dad asks me what will happen when they pass on, and I tell them I want to live here forever. I will just have to be patient to find a husband who respects my ancestors as much as I do.

Oh, and Aunt Emily still lives at the top of the hill. It's nice having her so close.
Added by Eden on Mar 24, 2010 11:15 AM
Henry Taylor
Lola, do you know where Henry Taylor is buried? I just found his parents in the Milltown Cemetery today (so exciting!) Here they are: Samuel Taylor and Elizabeth Mason

Also, I noticed you don't have a picture up for your mother. I have one of her with Monzelle Burell and my g-grandma Annie; would you like me to put it on her page for you?
Added by Eden on Mar 06, 2010 5:58 PM
RE: Grandma Marshall
Lola, I am sorry to hear that Emily passed away.

I don't have Uncle Raymond's obit either, but maybe I can find one on I found my g-g-g-grandfather's on there the other day, so it's not hopeless by any means.

I never knew my g-grandpa Edgar, and I was only two when Annie died so I don't remember her (though I have heard lots of wonderful stories). My goal is to interview my mamaw and everybody else about what they were like, and put it into a family scrapbook.

My aunt Emily does have a daughter named Peggy, but it's not the same Peggy Thompson that's on here.

I have already talked to my mamaw about writing you, and she said "Lola? Who's Lola?" I said, "You know, your cousin Lola, Uncle Sammy's daughter," and she said, "Oh, you mean Esther!" :) Anyway, yes, my mamaw just had the two sons, John and Gerald. Jerry is my dad.

So glad to be in touch with you!
Added by Eden on Feb 16, 2010 5:17 PM
Grandma Marshall
Hi Lola, when you get a chance, would you please link up Grandma Marshall with her parents? Evan is 47167429 and Anna is 47232458.
Added by Eden on Feb 16, 2010 10:24 AM
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