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Janet Muff (#46951416)
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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Thomas Adams
I have changed his age at death per your very clear gravestone photo....sometimes those numbers are tough to read.
Thanks for all you do,
Added by Sara on Jul 28, 2015 7:38 AM
RE: Edits
Good Morning Janet,

I'm still looking forward to having a cup of coffee and a great piece of strawberry-rhubarb pie with you.

The reason for the requests are to link them to earliest posted findagrave memorial for Samuel Adams, their father. In addition may I respectfully request that you upload the Great photo that you have taken of Samuel's headstone to his earliest memorial as well. Thank You!

My Best Regards.
"Charlie" Brown
Historian, Vermont SAR
Added by VTSSAR on Jul 26, 2015 8:11 AM
RE: Elisha Clark # 37128394
Hi Janet,

Sure, I understand. Would you mind adding the current memorial number for his mother, Thankful, in Elisha's bio? She is at 149465299. Someone else in the family may have more luck in finding her burial, and if they see there is already a memorial for her, they won't create a new one and miss the info that is already available on her and her family.

>> I've declined to link my memorial for Elisha Clark with his mother Thankful (Gates) Clark because her burial is unknown.
Added by Kay on Jul 23, 2015 7:00 AM
David Rice
Joel Simonds in VT
Just want to thank you for putting the find grave page for Joel Simonds in Rutland co VT, Memorial Number 60586508 I am a descendant of his half brother Joshua Simonds who ended up in Chenango County, NY Keep up the good work
Added by David Rice on Jul 20, 2015 5:23 AM
RE: Jonas Clark #44940064
RE: Jonas Clark #44940064
Hello Kay,

No, I didn't decide Theophilus was buried in the Smith Cemetery. He was already listed there; I simply supplied the name of his father. The creator is Nate Bramlett #46874243. Nate added the info in the bio for Theophilus.

I certainly do! I'm not asking you to link Jonas to Theophilus. But it would be nice if you could add a note about Theophilus, with the Find A Grave #105576098, in the bio for Jonas. In my opinion, adding the info there would make it LESS likely that someone else would create an additional memorial for Theophilus. In any case, I appreciate the great care you take in your work.

Best regards,
Added by Kay on Jul 18, 2015 11:05 AM
RE: Jonas Clark #44940064
Thanks for the info, Janet. If you don't get a reply from the creator of the other memorial, would mind mentioning in the bio section for Jonas that his is Theophilus Clark #105576098, although the burial location is not known at this time? Theophilus is in my husband's direct line (through Jonas's brother Nathaniel, # 28549171).

Best regards,
Kay #47019646
Added by Kay on Jul 17, 2015 2:29 PM
Jonathan Laing
Scottsville Cemetery

Hi, Yes I did manage to get to this cemetery but missed the Lyons that were buried there. If you happen to be there can you check for them.

Added by Jonathan Laing on Jul 06, 2015 8:28 AM
Loretta Johnson
RE: Hannah Tear
I am not sure why the tombstone says a different name. I was not the one who added it. I do know that the Hannah Tear is the one who I am looking for as Alphonso's Mother. Hannah had married Norman Tear (or Teer or Tier). I will need to search the cemetery when I'm over that way to see if I can find the actual stone & take a picture of it. Sorry, that I couldn't be of more help.
Added by Loretta Johnson on Jun 26, 2015 9:51 AM
nancy snow west
B. Hickok
Hi- Yes, this work sure has to be done correctly, or else. I'm 'dithering' about one over in Whitehall, NY. I contacted the cemetery to see where the person would be interred & was waiting for the ceremony before creating the page. He lived elsewhere, but is being buried in Whitehall with his wife. I had noted on hers I was awaiting actual cemetery before entering him. Meanwhile, someone else decided to post the obit from the paper & say 'cemetery unknown'. So, now I'm debating whether to make my own, or tell the guy the cemetery when the ceremony takes place on 7/2. He must have read the wife's obit, as he linked them. She was in our DAR Chapter, that's why I created hers. I was under the impression people weren't supposed to enter 'unknown' cemetery. Nancy
Added by nancy snow west on Jun 26, 2015 6:27 AM
nancy snow west
88439032 Benjamin Hickok
Hi Janet: Looking at the above number, the stone says HIEKOK, but the odd thing, when U look at the stones of his children, they clearly say HICKOK. Am working on locating DAR markers in the Rutland, VT cemeteries, so was looking at this listing. Don't know if U wish to change this; meanwhile, my list will say Hiekok/Hickok. No wonder geneaology requires detective work! Thanks once again for all you do for F/G. Nancy
Added by nancy snow west on Jun 25, 2015 8:08 AM
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