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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 13 years, 9 months, 8 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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wayne beam
Grave Photio
Thank you for photo it is appreciated
Added by wayne beam on Dec 06, 2014 6:01 AM
Bud Frohn
Acacia Memorial Park
Dear Marilyn,

Thank you for the photo of Karl von Spreckelsen and for finding out that his headstone has been ordered but has not arrived yet. I am very surprised that it hasn't. I really appreciate all the trouble you went to in doing that.

Bud Frohn
Added by Bud Frohn on Nov 27, 2014 8:27 PM
Vaughan Mavir
Cameron family Photo Requests
Thank you so much for the four Cameron family photo requests you have graciously undertaken, I have been helping a lady with her family genealogy and these gravestone photographs help to fill in the spaces that were in her research.
As a Find A Grave volunteer myself I know how time consuming it can be and again I wish to Thank you
Added by Vaughan Mavir on Nov 24, 2014 6:03 PM
Sherry Thurston-Orsetti
RE: Anna Marie Spichtig Luond
Thank you the photo is correct, thank you again for your time and dedication to find-a-grave. Sherry
Added by Sherry Thurston-Orsetti on Nov 09, 2014 11:38 AM
Donald Tuttle
Robert Casey Cantrell Jr
Thanks so much for the photo for Robert. He is an 8th cousin of mine if my research is correct back in New England.

Don Tuttle
Added by Donald Tuttle on Nov 08, 2014 7:01 AM
t. garlow
Thank you
Doug and Marilyn,
Thank you so much for the picture and location of my great aunt's husband's burial site. Charles Porterfield.
Added by t. garlow on Oct 25, 2014 12:00 PM
Lori Frisch
Samuel Clem
Thank you so very much for the awesome photograph and for taking the time out of your day! It is very much appreciated! The family was quite excited to see it!

Added by Lori Frisch on Oct 25, 2014 8:30 AM
Steve Trudgeon
RE: Marion Walter Cates
That's unfortunate but thanks for all your help and posting the photo of his gravesite.

Added by Steve Trudgeon on Oct 24, 2014 9:52 AM
Ira and Mayme Cotner
This not the correct Ira Cotner, they are buried in the New Hope Cemetery in San Diego, and have a photo of the headstone form another contributer.
Added by rkohls on Oct 24, 2014 9:23 AM
Thank You so very much....
I am deeply grateful for the picture you took of my Great Grandfather's headstone (memorial #58578597 Robinson). This was a blessing. Thank you again for all you do, and God bless you.
Added by faith on Oct 23, 2014 8:46 PM
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