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RootsLady-BYD (#48009561)
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Bio Photo Original Find-A-Grave member #46928674 [Aug 2007]

I've been a ROOTS lady for about 38 years and have always enjoyed helping others find their roots also. I transcribed the early Jasper County, Texas Marriage Records back in the 80's and donated them to the Southeast Texas Genealogical & Historical Society and was their editor for "Yellowed Pages" for a few years until family health issues stepped in the way.

My first "online" adventure was learning how to hand code html when I took the responsibility for 10 southeast Texas counties under the TXGenWeb Project and didn't have a clue about coding websites. It took some fast learning.

About 10 years ago I started hosting tombstone photos online and had about 14,000 back when hosting space was pretty expensive. After my Mom became ill and needed extensive care, my husband and I cared for her at our home for three years and I closed the hosting account during that time frame.

It's great to see the effort behind Find-A-Grave and I'm pleased to see there are so many "gravers" around the country. The "linking" system is wonderful for connecting families when properly used.

Thank God for computers, the internet & and digital cameras !! From spending hours & hours in courthouses, cemeteries & libraries to transcribing census records & visiting cemeteries in my jammies. GenLife is wonderful & rewarding.

Please leave public messages for additions, corrections, additional comments or transfer requests.

by Pat Conner Rice

Today I visited yesterday,
And walked among the graves
Of family and friends from long ago,
Whose memory had begun to fade.
The graves were unattended,
As were my thoughts of them.
When a vision of the ages past,
Brought back my sense of kin.
The vision showed the church lawn,
On a crisp summer day.
The table spread, the food prepared,
And friends who would break bread.
All my relatives were there- Both young and old........
Grandma and I walked hand and hand,
Sharing stories never told.
We laughed and cried and shared our thoughts.
And I found the friend I thought I'd lost.
As the sun began to fade...
The church bell rang out clear.
Grandma and the others slowly disappeared...
Today I visited yesterday,
And now the memory is strong -
Of the family from which I came AND NOW BELONG...

"Nothing is ended until it is forgotten".

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Mary Powledge
Thomas Middleton Hooks
Dear RootsLady Byd,

I am the Great-Great Granddaughter of Thomas Middleton Hooks, whose grave you have "hosted" (is that the correct term?). I am fairly new to and am over the moon about finding something out about him. Thank You so much.

Mary Engel-Powledge
Added by Mary Powledge on Oct 25, 2014 5:21 PM
Herman E Mims
Hi Barbara it's Brenda also from the PNG class of 66. Please link a cousin of mine to his parents for me. Herman E Mims #103893452 his father is Lee M Mims #29772462 and mother is Mary Julia "Mollie" Winn #29772463. I also sent additional information on him and his wife Blanche L Mims by way of the edits tab if you can check that out for me. If you need anything else on the Mims let me know as my great grandmother was Fredonia Elizabeth Mims Dyson a sister to Lee M Mims #29772462. Thank you in advance for all the help you do for our family history.
Have a great day! Brenda
Added by BATexan on Oct 01, 2014 10:42 PM
RE: Transfer Request
Thank you so much for doing the updates.
Added by CJ on Sep 14, 2014 11:55 AM
Transfer Request
Was wondering if you would transfer the following memorial to me?

Mamie Delena Sutton 103437581

Thank you so much.

My member number is #47413512
Added by CJ on Sep 09, 2014 6:05 PM
David W Morgan
Dorothy Chambers
Thanks for the photo.

I have discovered that Dorothy and I are probably 4th cousins thru the Markham family.

It's been a long time since the USGenWeb Project. It is good to see you again.

Added by David W Morgan on Aug 28, 2014 10:43 AM
RE: Betty Kaylor

Thank you. So happy to see you on findagrave. Bet you had lots to catch up. Thanks you too for all your hard work on findagrave. Love your photographs. Personally I like the name of the cemetery on the monument picture. I know of a lady who has been entered in the wrong cemetery and I think of her often. Tried to fix but was not successful.

Glad you are back. You have been missed.

Added by Bettie on Jul 17, 2014 2:26 PM
Old Waco
Grave marker photos
Thanks so much for your dedication to Find-A-Grave and your great photographs!
Added by Old Waco on Jul 13, 2014 11:44 PM
Mo Memorials 2 Make
RE: your pictures
I am happy to hear about your method of doing things your way, before Find A Grave and I am thankful for your hard work and dedication. I understand you have/had a system to keep your records straight.

You didn't answer my questions in my email to you. Do you have a regular photo with out your additions added to the stone? If not and you can't remove it from the picture, then I can just request someone else go to the stone and take the photo. Just let me know please.


Karen Renee'
Added by Mo Memorials 2 Make on Jul 13, 2014 11:10 AM
Mo Memorials 2 Make
your pictures
Hi, I was just a bit curious and wondering why you put the name of the Cemetery and location, across the photos you take of people's tombstones? I just found and was at Pete Miller's Find A Grave Memorial# 29626536 and to me it takes away from the stone and does not leave the stone as purchased by the families. There is a specific spot on Find A Grave for that info and the photos should be just like it is, in the Cemeteries and as the families purchased.

People order photos to be taken of their loved one's to honor them to complete the Memorials.

Why do you and are doing this? Are you afraid of copyright issues? Which to me that wouldn't make sense, because it's not your property to copyright. So please let me understand why, you choose to do this please.

I also am wondering if you were asked to remove that added writing to a family's tombstone- would you do that?

I personally am not a fan of this idea. It shows haughtiness and possessiveness like "Look what I did!" This may not be how you intend it to look or be perceived but to me it is like graffiti and desecration to a tombstone and people should have a choice to have it or not!

I want you to know that I am not here to upset you or point fingers or offend you. I am just pointing out another side of how this effects others. This is my family and I would appreciate the added writing to be removed on Pete's stone please and thanks in advance.

People like to take these photos and carry them in many places, bibles, photo books etc. I want to be clear. I am not telling you what to do or how to do it! I am just sharing with you another side that you may never have thought of. You are the only one I have seen use this tactic and way of photographing the stones. Some may like it, as for me I do not!

I love the volunteers that help, do, give, are dedicated to families and the deceased loved ones. They are needed and appreciated but we are here to uplift our loved ones, and not turn the attention to a volunteer's work. There is a special place for that. Find A Grave was very efficient of thinking about that, before hand.

So please do not take this TEXT WRITTEN (text is always so coldddddd and dry and people take it wrong many times, but its never intended to hurt, maim or put another down)out of context. I just want to share with you another side of the coin.

My thinking reflects back to God. The scriptures tell us if we have done something for another, give money, feed a hungry person etc. We are to do it in silence, don't tell others, don't brag or boast about it. If we do this then we reap the rewards and take the glory away from the Lord. It's HIS, not ours and then in turn God will reward us. When and how we are rewarded, is unknown by me. I don't worry about that, cause I figure Jesus dying for the world's sins was the all time sacrifice and we owe so much to God and deserve nothing.

This was wayyyy, paraphrased, but I wanted to share with you. I hope and pray you are not offended and will truly think about this and make some choices for others to choose from. I don't want you upset or angry, because I stepped up and said something.
I just wanted to be upfront about it.

Thanks for all the work and dedication you do for many families. I just am asking for your additions to the tombstone to stop and be put in the proper and allocated place where Find A Grave has made for these things.

Thanks so much, and again, I am not upset, angry etc, just sharing and showing you another side to this coin, sorta speak. Find A Grave is an awesome place and if we all started doing these little changes/additions- Find A Grave would be chaos and not a calm, uplifting, honoring site for everyone's loved ones. If you disagree with me, and that could happen and it's totally okay, we all have our own opinions, we can ask Find A Grave what they think. Maybe they would have a solution or another place or software update for people to take off the writing or leave it on. I know for a fact, some folks will love it! That's what makes us American's- freedom to choose.

Thanks again, can't wait to hear from you to brainstorm with. Have a blessed weekend and be safe. Hugs, Karen Renee'
Added by Mo Memorials 2 Make on Jul 03, 2014 5:53 PM
Ray Flowers
Fauline Fulmer
Thank you for the updates on my great Aunt Fauline Fulmer. Could you please add her maiden name of Blankenship.
Thank you.
Added by Ray Flowers on Jun 29, 2014 10:11 PM
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