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Bonita Olmer (#46798970)
 member for 9 years, 11 months, 28 days
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Bio Photo When I was young, my mother had a shoe box and a shirt size gift box full of photos that she kept in the linen closet. Every so often, I would ask if we could get them out and go through them. We would sit at the kitchen table with the photos in a heap. My sisters and I would ask who the people were, and Mom would tell us about them. That was probably what first sparked my interest in genealogy.

I began actively digging for information to put my family tree together in 1981. My Aunt Frances Herbold had been at it for decades by that time. A lot of time and legwork was involved when she was doing her work. There was no Internet. She wrote scores of letters to people, asking for information. She must have spent hours and hours looking through old rolls of microfilm, which could easily cause a person to go blind or insane, or both. Aunt Frances, God bless her, furnished me with a bare bones genealogy to start with. When she passed away, my Uncle sent all of her genealogy materials to me.

Many years passed, and little by little my family tree grew. Then one day I was watching the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina on CNN. I was horrified to see the devastation, but what struck me most was that so many people had lost every picture, every slip and scrap of paper they ever had. I thought of all the family photos, letters and documents I had accumulated over the years. It was hard for me to imagine I could experience such a loss, but it got me started looking for a way to preserve and share these things with others who might be interested.

A short time later, I discovered findagrave. While I haven't posted everything, a large part of my family tree is here. Findagrave is a wonderful place to preserve and share information and photos and to honor those who came before us. That is the reason I do what I do here. I have also met a lot of new cousins here.

My husband and I live just north of Seattle, Washington. I have adopted Holyrood Catholic Cemetery as the one I work on almost exclusively now. I finished entering the names, burial dates and grave locations (from the Catholic Cemetery website) for all of the burials there in late February, 2012. Now I'm working on taking and posting grave photos. As of

May 21, 2013, 29%
August 29, 2013, 37%
September 14, 2013, 38%
October 2, 2013, 39%
October 18, 2013, 40%
November 9, 2013, 41%
December 1, 2013, 42%
January 8, 2013, 43%
January 25, 2014, 44%
February 10, 2014, 45%
February 28, 2014, 46%
March 10, 2014, 47%
March 21, 2014, 48%
March 31, 2014, 49%
April 10, 2014, 50%
April 20, 2014, 51%
April 28, 2014, 52%
May 8, 2014, 53%
May 16, 2014, 54%
May 26, 2014, 55%
June 6, 2014, 56%
June 22, 2014, 57%
July 7, 2014, 59%
July 23, 2014, 61%
July 27, 2014, 62%
August 4, 2014, 63%
August 11, 2014, 64%
August 21, 2014, 65%
August 30, 2014, 66%
September 5, 2014, 67%
September 14, 2014, 68%
September 25, 2014, 69%
October 3, 2014, 70%
October 12, 2014, 71%
October 19, 2014, 72%
October 27, 2014, 73%
November 4, 2014, 74%
November 13, 2014, 75%
November 21, 2014, 76%
November 29, 2014, 77%
December 7, 2014, 78%
December 24, 2014, 79%
January 3, 2015, 80%
January 15, 2015, 81%
January 30, 2015, 82%
February 11, 2015, 83%
February 19, 2015, 84%
February 28, 2015, 85% *
March 18, 2015, 86%
April 19, 2015, 87%
May 10, 2015, 88%
May 18, 2015, 89%
May 25, 2015, 90%
May 31, 2015, 91%
June 9, 2015, 92%
June 17, 2015, 93%
June 25, 2015, 94%
July 2, 2015, 95%
July 7, 2015, 96%
July 14, 2015, 97% (45,250)

of the memorial pages at Holyrood include grave photos or, when there is no visible marker, an area photo.

If you have suggestions or requests for transfers, please contact me using the "Edit" tab toward the top right hand corner of the person's memorial page. Making your request this way gives me all the information I need to fulfill your request. Please keep in mind that I will add any information or corrections you send me, but I will also credit you as the contributor of that information. I do this because I don't have time to confirm all the information people send to me, and the question, "Where did you get your information?" is answered right there on the page. If you don't have a findagrave ID, I will use your email address when crediting you as contributor of information.

I love taking grave photos at Holyrood. You can contact me directly if you would like for me to get a grave photo, or you can make your photo request from a person's memorial page. If you see an inferior grave photo that I have taken, feel free to ask me to try to get a better one, and I will.

For me, this is not about collecting a huge number of memorials. It is about trying to help people find their loved ones. I hate to think anyone is forgotten. It is, as I said before, about memorializing and honoring those who have gone before us. I would like nothing more than to see all memorial pages in the loving care of family or friends.

If I'm being honest though, I have to say my least favorite transfer request is: "Please transfer my relative." I have transferred to people based on this kind of request, and the result is less than satisfying. No information or photos are added; no family connections made; they do not respond to edit requests, and I wonder why the person thought they wanted to maintain the memorial page in the first place.

My favorite transfer request goes something like this: "So-and-so was a family friend. We lived next door to her for many years. She was like a second mother to me. I remember when... Birth Date: xxx; Birth Place: xxx; Maiden Name: xxx, etc. I have also added a photo of her." Transfer requests like this will be made in a heartbeat. I love learning something about every person in Holyrood (my adopted cemetery). I smile every time I think about the feisty little lady in Holyrood who stabbed her abusive husband in the neck, and the photo on her memorial page is a mug shot (although you can't tell at first glance). And there are others... so many others.

Names I am working on:

~ Every Herbold group I can find ~
Berardi ~ Nigro ~ Zeek ~ Ellis ~ Edgerton ~
Lytle ~ Olmer ~ Vassar/Vasser ~ Dowell ~
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Messages left for Bonita Olmer (1132)[Leave Message]
Kenneth Primeaux
Just a thank you.
Hi Bonita, Kennet Primeaux #48728641.
Have just read your bio and loved it, shows your drive for the unknown, almost forgotten and their store. Caring people as yourself, is the only reason this site is the best of its kind. I just want to
Thank you for the pictures that you have taken/submitted, the work that you have done and will do, to keep findagrave the best genealogy resource site, for everybody. Every piece counts, And is greatly appreciated by all.
I know that every person that came before me has put in hours of driving, taking picture, searching for information at library's, Court houses and entering their findings here.
So, Thank You again for all your work!
Added by Kenneth Primeaux on Jul 09, 2015 10:14 AM
Heike Howe
Thank you so much for your work! Because of you we found one of our long lost relatives. Earl L Howe, born 1889 in Kansas that was raised by his half sister and elderly father because mother passed away.He was a poor farmboy and later became a well to do business man in Lewiston, Idaho. He passed away in 1966 in Seattle.
Thank you again !
Heike Howe
Added by Heike Howe on Jun 18, 2015 8:27 AM
A leaf on the Jenkins/Payne tree
A big Thanks for all of your work.
It's greatly appreciated.
Added by A leaf on the Jenkins/Pay... on Jun 16, 2015 2:14 AM
Deena Gibson
RE: Judson P Sexton
His wife was Betty Jean McClintock, born Sep 2 1916 in Spokane, Washington. It is possible she remarried to Eugene Appel.

Someone posted on that she died in 2013 at the age of 97 in Ft Worth, Tarrant, Texas, but no Source was given.

Just thought since there was a blank spot on Judson's headstone, that maybe she was buried there. She may be still alive for all I know.

Thank you for your help.

Added by Deena Gibson on Jun 12, 2015 10:36 PM
Deena Gibson
Judson P Sexton
I see the photo of Judson's headstone done in 2011 & I take it that the 2015 photo still shows nothing for his wife. We had information that she died in 2013, but that must have been in error. Thank you for taking the time to take an updated photo of this headstone.
Added by Deena Gibson on Jun 12, 2015 9:40 PM
RE: Thank You & a request
Thank You again Bonita, it isn't essential I maintain his site,in some way not sure what good that does anyway. I just thought I'd ask while writing to you,wanted to be in touch with you for the nice job you did with Margaret C. Loos site. It looks as if you both have been very busy recording for FindaGrave and I am grateful. I haven't tried to put too many of my family on myself as I came to this later and have found so many already in, so just don't want to do a duplicate, rather add if there is something I can add.
Added by MaryG on Jun 12, 2015 10:55 AM
Thank You & a request
Bonita: Thank You for creating the page for Margaret C. Loos who in turn had created the page for my Father's brother Benjamin H. Eilar on Find A Grave #86154414 in Pines Cemetery, Spokane, WA. I paid respects there several years ago, we live in Central NY State so we don't get out to WA State very often but have made it to visit Cemeteries where much of my family lived and died, also visiting friends and family in both Pend Oreille & Stevens Co., where the family originally came from Indiana to Homestead in late 1800s and early 1900s.
Might I request a transfer of my Uncle I am MaryG on Find A Grave # 47091129
Thank You for this consideration
Added by MaryG on Jun 12, 2015 8:26 AM
Hunter Moore
RE: Bette Callan Marker
Thanks for trying, hopefully it is back soon.
Added by Hunter Moore on Jun 10, 2015 4:59 PM
Maud Harmon
Thanks for the photos and additional information.
Added by Lin on Jun 08, 2015 10:29 AM
Bev Hofmann
Family Links
Thank you for making the Hyneman family links. And thanks also for the fantastic work you have done for Find-A-Grave.
Added by Bev Hofmann on Jun 08, 2015 7:47 AM
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