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Bonita Olmer (#46798970)
 member for 10 years, 11 months, 1 day
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Bio Photo When I was young, my mother had a shoe box and a shirt size gift box full of photos that she kept in the linen closet. Every so often, I would ask if we could get them out and go through them. We would sit at the kitchen table with the photos in a heap. My sisters and I would ask who the people were, and Mom would tell us about them. That was probably what first sparked my interest in genealogy.

I began actively digging for information to put my family tree together in 1981. My Aunt Frances Herbold had been at it for decades by that time. A lot of time and legwork was involved when she was doing her work. There was no Internet. She wrote scores of letters to people, asking for information. She must have spent hours and hours looking through old rolls of microfilm, which could easily cause a person to go blind or insane, or both. Aunt Frances, God bless her, furnished me with a bare bones genealogy to start with. When she passed away, my Uncle sent all of her genealogy materials to me.

Many years passed, and little by little my family tree grew. Then one day I was watching the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina on CNN. I was horrified to see the devastation, but what struck me most was that so many people had lost every picture, every slip and scrap of paper they ever had. I thought of all the family photos, letters and documents I had accumulated over the years. It was hard for me to imagine I could experience such a loss, but it got me started looking for a way to preserve and share these things with others who might be interested.

A short time later, I discovered findagrave. While I haven't posted everything, a large part of my family tree is here. Findagrave is a wonderful place to preserve and share information and photos and to honor those who came before us. That is the reason I do what I do here. I have also met a lot of new cousins here.

My husband and I live just north of Seattle, Washington. I have adopted Holyrood Catholic Cemetery as the one I work on almost exclusively now. I finished entering the names, burial dates and grave locations (from the Catholic Cemetery website) for all of the burials there in late February, 2012. Now I'm working on taking and posting grave photos. As of

May 21, 2013, 29%
August 29, 2013, 37%
September 14, 2013, 38%
October 2, 2013, 39%
October 18, 2013, 40%
November 9, 2013, 41%
December 1, 2013, 42%
January 8, 2013, 43%
January 25, 2014, 44%
February 10, 2014, 45%
February 28, 2014, 46%
March 10, 2014, 47%
March 21, 2014, 48%
March 31, 2014, 49%
April 10, 2014, 50%
April 20, 2014, 51%
April 28, 2014, 52%
May 8, 2014, 53%
May 16, 2014, 54%
May 26, 2014, 55%
June 6, 2014, 56%
June 22, 2014, 57%
July 7, 2014, 59%
July 23, 2014, 61%
July 27, 2014, 62%
August 4, 2014, 63%
August 11, 2014, 64%
August 21, 2014, 65%
August 30, 2014, 66%
September 5, 2014, 67%
September 14, 2014, 68%
September 25, 2014, 69%
October 3, 2014, 70%
October 12, 2014, 71%
October 19, 2014, 72%
October 27, 2014, 73%
November 4, 2014, 74%
November 13, 2014, 75%
November 21, 2014, 76%
November 29, 2014, 77%
December 7, 2014, 78%
December 24, 2014, 79%
January 3, 2015, 80%
January 15, 2015, 81%
January 30, 2015, 82%
February 11, 2015, 83%
February 19, 2015, 84%
February 28, 2015, 85% *
March 18, 2015, 86%
April 19, 2015, 87%
May 10, 2015, 88%
May 18, 2015, 89%
May 25, 2015, 90%
May 31, 2015, 91%
June 9, 2015, 92%
June 17, 2015, 93%
June 25, 2015, 94%
July 2, 2015, 95%
July 7, 2015, 96%
July 14, 2015, 97%
July 29, 2015, 99%

of the memorial pages at Holyrood include grave photos or, when there is no visible marker, an area photo.

If you have suggestions or requests for transfers, please contact me using the "Edit" tab toward the top right hand corner of the person's memorial page. Making your request this way gives me all the information I need to fulfill your request. Please keep in mind that I will add any information or corrections you send me, but I will also credit you as the contributor of that information. I do this because I don't have time to confirm all the information people send to me, and the question, "Where did you get your information?" is answered right there on the page. If you don't have a findagrave ID, I will use your email address when crediting you as contributor of information.

I love taking grave photos at Holyrood. You can contact me directly if you would like for me to get a grave photo, or you can make your photo request from a person's memorial page. If you see an inferior grave photo that I have taken, feel free to ask me to try to get a better one, and I will.

For me, this is not about collecting a huge number of memorials. It is about trying to help people find their loved ones. I hate to think anyone is forgotten. It is, as I said before, about memorializing and honoring those who have gone before us. I would like nothing more than to see all memorial pages in the loving care of family or friends.

If I'm being honest though, I have to say my least favorite transfer request is: "Please transfer my relative." I have transferred to people based on this kind of request, and the result is less than satisfying. No information or photos are added; no family connections made; they do not respond to edit requests, and I wonder why the person thought they wanted to maintain the memorial page in the first place.

My favorite transfer request goes something like this: "So-and-so was a family friend. We lived next door to her for many years. She was like a second mother to me. I remember when... Birth Date: xxx; Birth Place: xxx; Maiden Name: xxx, etc. I have also added a photo of her." Transfer requests like this will be made in a heartbeat. I love learning something about every person in Holyrood (my adopted cemetery). I smile every time I think about the feisty little lady in Holyrood who stabbed her abusive husband in the neck, and the photo on her memorial page is a mug shot (although you can't tell at first glance). And there are others... so many others.

Names I am working on:

~ Every Herbold group I can find ~
Berardi ~ Nigro ~ Zeek ~ Ellis ~ Edgerton ~
Lytle ~ Olmer ~ Vassar/Vasser ~ Dowell ~
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Messages left for Bonita Olmer (1234)[Leave Message]
Andrew Daft
Thank you!
Added by Andrew Daft on Jun 28, 2016 6:13 AM
Luke M. Herrington
Re: Lapic Memorial
Thanks Bonita! I appreciate it. I have one photo, but I don't yet have permission to use it, so we'll see where it goes. All the best!
Added by Luke M. Herrington on Jun 21, 2016 10:19 AM
Luke M. Herrington
Frances M Lapic (#85260044)
Hi Bonita,

Is there any chance you'd consider transferring management of Frances Lapic's memorial to me? She is my great aunt and our family would be appreciative.

Luke (#49045104)
Added by Luke M. Herrington on Jun 21, 2016 9:21 AM
Linda Monroe
William Edgerton 1797-1836
Dear Bonita,

I took your suggestion and sent a message to the photographer to ask her to remove the incorrect photos. I pointed out to her that the photos belong to a totally different William Edgerton. Hopefully, we will receive a response. Hopefully, between the both of us we will come across some information indicating where was actually buried. I will keep you apprised of what I find.

Linda Monroe
Added by Linda Monroe on Jun 20, 2016 8:23 PM
I can't appear to leave a message because I have left too many messages. LOL. Bonita- just want to say thinks for updates on T. Miller memorial and appreciate all you do on the memorials at Holyrood.

I have had to not fill out subject due to the robot annoying message....


Added by Tami on Jun 19, 2016 8:59 PM
Grant H. Collar Jr
Thanks for tranefer
Many thanks for transfer of Find A Grave# 84702233 for Nancy A Erdelyan.
Added by Grant H. Collar Jr on Jun 17, 2016 5:09 PM
Linda Monroe
William Edgerton 1797-1836
Bonita, A while back I sent you a message advising you that the photos on the Memorial page do not belong to William, but to another William Edgerton b: Nov 25, 1845, d: Nov 25, 1912 and was buried in Utterback Cemetery, Riverton, Fremont Co., Iowa. Please have these incorrect photos removed from the Memorial for William Edgerton b: Nov 28, 1797 Wayne, NC; d: 1836 Wayne,Wayne Co.,NC which we both are related to, as they will confuse other descendants. Find A Grave photographer did not know our William died in North Carolina.

Linda Monroe
June 16, 2016
Added by Linda Monroe on Jun 16, 2016 7:21 PM
Mary Lee
W Robert Abbott
Thank you, Bonita for the transfer of Bob to our family's care.

Mary Lee
Added by Mary Lee on Jun 15, 2016 11:45 AM
Linda Monroe
Sarah Lavina Edgerton Hess Green
To Bonita,

May I ask you or someone who is closer, to drive to the below cemetery:

Burial: Forest Lawn Memorial Park (Glendale)
Los Angeles County
California, USA
Plot: Whispering Pines

Please check to see if the above individual is interred. Since her daughter, Lavina Hess Ashby is already interred, there might be a possibility more relatives including Sarah might be there as well. It's worth a trip to research. Sarah passed away in Glendale, so maybe she might be buried there too. Please consider this as I would like to find out if she is buried there too. I assume that you must be apart of the Edgerton Family as well. Thank you. 06-08-16

Linda Monroe
Added by Linda Monroe on Jun 08, 2016 9:41 PM
Please remove inappropriate "photo" - the grave site is not abandoned as he was buried on April 4, 2016
Added by Sonia on Jun 04, 2016 10:55 AM
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