Nov 2015: A bit about manners and rudeness. We all make mistakes. Sometimes people like me who adds thousand of names just to be helpful can only go by the info on the tombstone. A couple of e-mails I have gotten in the recent past went like this:
Kathleen, I'm writing to ask you if you would kindly delete this memorial for -------. I had checked to see if one was made shortly before you made yours and there was none. So I did extended work on his whole family here in Connecticut then returned to "Henry" and made his a few weeks later. When "Bulldog", the photographer who took the gravestone photos for my memorial pointed out today that there was another one already made, I didn't know what to do but write and explain the situation. I hope you understand. Thank you and God bless you for all your work on findagrave.
Another went like this: I recently created a FAG link for my family. I see you created a link 2 years ago. You will remove your "duplicate" immediately so that I can keep mine.
Guess which request I honored?
Pictures: I am sure it is safe to say that the majority of us picture takers are amateurs. This means that sometimes we don't always get the best pictures--- Weather, bad stones, bad timing, just plain bad luck. If I get a picture that is better than yours please don't be offended as I am not offended if someone gets a better one than mine. To me it is just like editing a name or date. We want the best we can get. I don't set out to duplicate pictures. I take hundreds of pictures at one time and worry about duplicates after I get home.
This is a hobby, I don't think anyone gets paid (If you do--let me know how!) This is suppose to be fun. Too much griping, insults, etc. will only discourage people from doing this. Newbies will make mistakes. I will check a person's profile to determine how to respond. I need this service and hope you do, too.
I was was born and raised in Marshfield, WI. I have been deeply involved in genealogy for over 25 years. Along with research, I also work in a Family History Center and teach classes, do demos, etc. I am willing to do research for most requests. I am well located for Wood, Clark, Marathon and Taylor counties. Lincoln and Portage are also near by.
This is my system for doing cemeteries. I have a government job that has strange hours and erratic appointment times. I have learned to carry a camera and area cemetery maps with me at all times. I may have minutes or hours in between things so that may determine how many pictures get taken. I take a picture of every stone as time allows including cleaning up the really nasty ones. I do look over the requests but do not "claim" them because I don't know when I will get them downloaded so that may explain why "requests" are filled "hit and miss". (It's also really to hard to see all those tiny photos in my program to pick and chose certain ones!)I have taken as few as 200 pictures to 800+ per cemetery visit depending on time and the size of the cemetery. I multi-task in front of the TV at night.
Please feel free to use my photos anyway you want. I believe in sharing. No special request is needed.
Also I do not care if you use my personal e-mail to contact me about edits but PLEASE include the name, cemetery and FAG number. I have been getting too many e-mails without this info and since the majority of my contributions are complete strangers to me, it is hard to respond properly with out this info. Feel free to ask for transfers. Except for my own family I have no special attachment to the 1000's of photos I have taken. I think the comedian Rodney Dangerfield said "Take them, PLEASE, they're mine!" Recently, I made an observation--Delete and Deliver both begin with "de" which explains why when I am tired I may hit the wrong one so if I don't respond or make an edit try again. I also noted that other words begin with "de" like dementia, demented, delusional and delirium, which explains the rest of me.
Senior Moment Hi Kathleen, I just had a senior moment when I wrote thanking you for the 4 transfers. You didn't transfer any, which is okay with me, since all are outside Find A Grave guidelines. But there is one I would like to see transferred. Sarah Leone Kelly Sindberg # 98450040. She is the wife of my granduncle, George Christian Sindberg # 98450181.
James Christensen Sindberg # 98331294 Hi Kathleen, Thank you for the 4 transfers. I hope you will also transfer my grandfather and his 2 brothers, James Christensen Sindberg # 98331294 Christian Christopher Sindberg # 98392891 George Christian Sindberg # 98450181. I hope to get all my Sindbergs linked together. Respectfully, Jim Sindberg # 47899232
Bentley/Petrzelka Surname Concerning Annie, Erwin, Eugene, Helen, Madeleine, Ralph and William Bentley and Frances Petrzelka you have listed being buried in St. Wencel’s Cemetery in Neva Corners, Langlade County, Wisconsin. There burial took place in the Bohemian National Cemetery in Neva Corners Wisconsin.
First, Annie (Lynn) and William Bentley are my Great Grandparents; Helen (Petrzelka) and Erwin Bentley are my Grandparents; Madeleine (Devicques) and Eugene Bentley are my Aunt and Uncle. Frances (Nika) Petrzelka was the wife of Jerry Petrzelka; Helen (Petrzelka) Bentley’s brother.
Confusion in these cemeteries came long ago. To explain. My parents Carol (Bentley) and Robert Allord; Carol is the daughter of Erwin and Helen and the sister to Eugene; are buried on the southwest end of the Bohemian National Cemetery having purchased plots next to the tree line separating these two cemeteries because my Dad loved trees. Pre 1997 when my Dad passed away this tree line was cut down taking away the only landmark separating these two cemeteries; though there is a sign marking the Bohemian National Cemetery.
Actually I’ve been attempting to resolve this confusion in the two cemeteries for some time now. Having moved to this area in 1970 and having so many family members buried there; not to mention friends buried in St. Wencel’s, I can understand how easy it is to think this is one cemetery and not two.
Please let me know if you have any additional questions
Duplicates Greetings! I noticed you have wrongly entered a number of duplicates to St. Wencels Cemetery of graves that are already correctly entered to Bohemian National Cemetery. These are two separate cemeteries. Will you please review your entries and delete the duplicates? Thank you very much!
Sindberg family of Denmark - transfer To: Kathleen Englebretson From: Jim Sindberg 47899232 Hi again. I have several requests for transfer. They are for the wife and children of Andrew Sindberg (98315852). As I mentioned before, I am Andrew's great grandson. Here is some history on Andrew. He was christened "Anders Christen Christensen" on 13 April 1843 in Heltborg. If you know the Danish on-line records, you can easily verify. When he was 2 years old, his father, Christen Christensen, died. (BTW Christensen is a patronymic name, not a surname.) The next year his mother married Christen Sorensen Sindberg. After becoming an adult Anders (Andrew) went wandering South, married Kirstine Lund of Vejrum. They had Ana in Hjerm, Christen in Holstebro, Mette in Holstebro, Jens in Aarhus, and Nelsene in Ginnerup before emigrating to USA. All their children were christened with the surname, Sindberg. Why? It has been said that Anders's step-father was well loved by Anders. Also this was the time of what I call "The Great Name Change" where wives took husband's last name and true surnames were substituted for patronymic last names. When the family traveled to Copenhagen in 1881 in order to emigrate, the officials recorded them all with the last name of Christensen. But when the settled in USA, they all became Sindbergs. And some of their names were Anglosized. Jens became James. Anders became Andrew. Their last child, George was born in USA. I'm new to managing Find-a-Grave accounts. Some of my ancestors do not show up here, even though I know where they died. For example, My father, George, gave his body to science and is not yet listed in Find A Grave. I need to create a record so that the family line is complete. How do I do that? Thanks, Jim Sindberg Andrew (Anders) 98315852 Kirstene 98315743 Her name, Kirstine, is misspelled on her stone. Annie (Ane) 5914143 Different account owner who has locked communication off!!! Christen 98392891 Mette 15439264 R Boesen owns her account. James (Jens) 98331294 Nelsene has been transferred to me. George 98450181
Andrew Sindberg (1843-1915) Hi Kathleen, Andrew is my great grandfather. I have been to his birthplace several times when I lived in Germany and Denmark 1986-98. I respectfully request you transfer management of his account to me. Thank you, Jim Sindberg
Thank you so much for taking a photo of Martin Carey's headstone for me. I just sent the request yesterday! I never expected to get a photo so soon! You are absolutely awesome! I read your bio on manners and have to say that it blows my mind that anyone would dare complain when you are volunteering your time and energy to provide a vital service to those of us who are too far away to get the photos ourselves. Without wonderful, caring people like you we would be lost. Please keep up the good work and know that most people really appreciate you! Once again, thank you for the amazing photo!