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I am willing to transfer any memorials which are not my ancestors or relatives and will try to help anyone with information or research. I think it is important to identify persons, when possible, so we can know who they are and who their families are, for historical and personal reasons.|
Sixty five years ago I started looking for lost graves as Grandma sent me, at age 8, to find "the indention by the pine tree, near great great grandpa's headstone" so she could place flowers where a baby was buried in 1869 with no "marker". From her, I learned to look for that tiny "frosted" spot when the night before had been chilly (the ground is still warmer at a burial site which has no vault, even after 100's of years!)
I first knew grief when Grandma died, 58 years ago. To honor her, I began genealogy research from her precious family records. Fifty four years ago the death of my young first husband, at the hands of robbers, nearly caused the loss of my first unborn child. Years later, a miscarriage took another son and now, for the past 29 years, we have also grieved for our youngest son, lost to a freak accident. Brad
Writing personal histories has been a passion for nearly 40 years, since I found my relationship to Mormon Battalion soldiers and an early U.S. President.
Being an unpaid cemetery sexton for the past 23 years has required mapping and recording (handwritten) of over 3,000 birth & death locations and overseeing burials and settings of gravestones for some 750 persons. During this time, the birth and death records from 1854 at one cemetery and from 1869 to date, at another, were located and recorded; exact grave locations had never been written down for 155 years! I'm still hand drawing family lot maps for the latter cemetery for all owners.
For about 30 years, I have composed poetry and short stories about loved ones' passing, both for my own and others.
So, am I a "graver" ?, a "griever", a "genealogist", a "historian", a "sexton", a "poet" or just kind of "nutty"?? (We ALL could have, instead of this, been lounging on "sum beach sum where", ya know!)
Anyway, I feel sad when an unkind remark is posted, or it is stated that Find a Grave was designed for one purpose and that "newcomers", who want to use it for genealogy, or some other reason than it was originally intended, should go elsewhere. I hope it is intended to help us all find burial locations, which should include photos, dates, and family links, if possible for proper identification.
Short bios also help identify specific individuals and search data sources can help us verify the positive location. That is why I believe that a gravestone, with poor or misinterpreted information, should be supplemented with the best historical facts available, if possible. After all, it is Find a Grave, not "Find a Stone". Sometimes, nothing else is available, but that is a sad case; unknown, with unknown dates does not tell us much, especially when there is no stone or it is illegible.
I hope to help & will gladly transfer, edit, delete or correct anything I contribute; I'm slow, but I'm OLD, please have patience!
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|Valenciaღ Angel of Mine 💕||Shirleen,|
Thank you for your beautiful message. I opened it today and I totally understand and relate to a lot, I'm ALOT like you. Yes please share the poem with me. I'm always searching for inspiring poems, quotes for myself and to share with others too. Thanks for thinking of Valencia and Asia, you are a Blessing, Shirleen
|Rita Seeley||Thank You|
You have certainly done a lot of interesting work for history and for genealogists. It must have been fascinating and frustrating.
Thank you for sharing with Find-A-Grave and thus all of us.
|Rita Seeley||RE: Chasta|
I found the name Christy Magdelene Olsen on the Millennium birth record on Ancestry.
I just figured Chasta was her nickname. And people born in the 1800's tended to be much more casual about actual names. Even Chasta might not have known. In fact, even the Millennium record could be wrong - it was typed and we don't get to see the original.
It is up to you, of course, if you want to change the name on Find-A-Grave. Especially since Chasta is only a very far removed relative for me.
I think the only way we can be sure is if we find her birth record in Utah. I know that I have found birth records on several of my relatives that come from the Utah archives. Who knows how long it will take to get all of these records online.
|melissa ♥||RE: His health|
Thanks, yes i worry bout his health too. Im sorry about your friends who died recently. My husbands grandpa died of lung cancer and my dad in law had it start in his prostate, then in his bones and was in his kidneys, bladder and abdomen when he died. It runs in both sides of the family. Im glad your husband quit. My dad quit when he found out he had emphysema and copd and it gave him extra yrs to spend with his family and to see 3 of his grandkids. My husband is trying to use the new electronic cigarettes but ive heard they dont know if they are good either. We just keep praying for god to help him quit. We been together 34 yrs and married 27 yrs. : )
|melissa ♥||RE: Prayers|
Hi Shirleen, Thats awesome. All those people praying for him. I told him and he said thank you too and maybe they could pray for him to stop smoking cigarettes too. Hes trying but not having much luck with it.
Thank you again.
|Linda Joyce Bethurum Mc||RE: Bethurum|
Thank you for the transfer....you were really quite fast. We have all over looked emails, myself included. Thank you for all you do at Find A Grave.
Have a blessed day!
|Valenciaღ Angel of Mine 💕||Shirleen,|
No thanks are ever needed for visiting your loved ones. From one grieving mother to another, we know our pain too well. Please accept my sincerest condolences for you and your family. So thoughtful of you to leave the heartfelt message, you had me in tears. Blessings to you and yours always
|Linda Joyce Bethurum Mc||Edit TAB|
Thank you for posting about the edit tab! I knew I could request but never noticed that I had a tab to check! I had five waiting!! Thanks !
|Linda Joyce Bethurum Mc||RE: Thank you|
You are so welcome! I know your pain from what my mother went through and I as a sister....Time does not take the pain or emptiness from your heart it only eases it.Blessings to you and your family ♥
|Dawn Hughes Schrieber||RE: Thanks|
Your welcome. It is an honor to visit Brad and there are no thanks needed. Thank you for welcoming me to find a grave and your offer of help. Really appreciate it.
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