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CryptoGram (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

For 2014, we should welcome the obvious: FindAGrave is like any other pyramid-type as the membership increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

The picture "request" function started around mid-2007, and pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed; at first there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Newbie & younger FindAGrave members aside, there are more of us Boomers retiring with time to dedicate to genealogy and actually traveling around, stopping to visit and photograph cemeteries...MANY times we'll discover there're already pictures on memorials we INTENDED to either make or add to...but we also take and exchange pictures to help our old-fogey networks fulfill requests far away from themselves so our foot/finger/brain exercises are not all for naught.

Fodder is running lower, but there are still helpful and personally-rewarding "angel" tasks to be done. Oak Hill in DC used to not allow pictures or much record sharing, but is now pretty complete...YAY to whomever was able to supply this good deed! Maybe some of you with button cameras and smartphones can start furtively snapping up & down the rows of Mount Olivet in DC, Rosehill in Chicago...and I'm sure others...that still do not cooperate with picture-taking.

ANY information on privately-owned and defunct burial places is still ALWAYS appreciated by those seeking the trails of their ancestors...are they still there lying unmarked and disrespected? Were they moved elsewhere? Are they by other family and/or friends? I was gladly able to do this for the cemetery nearest to me in kidhood that I never knew about way back then ~ when I held my breath in passing cemeteries ~ as it was already defunct...altho' one of my brothers once found a toppled headstone while bike-riding (him, not the headstone) dirt roads there.

Those who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I myself have encountered snakes and Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter. Which reminds me I did visit one cemetery that had a homeless? person living in it...not there, but I didn't want to bother his? belongings.

You many kind, prolific contributors might try to add more links...such function was NOT allowed/available on FindAGrave until the last few years...of families whose memorials you manage. And "Mrs" was not listed as a "prefix" option ~ just as "Mr" still isn't ~ so it was used as a first name when else was not know, but might need to be repositioned we'd remember all those, huh?

I'm still glad to help with the research part however I'm able.

Thank you all for helping and understanding each other.

Other Less-Important Stuff:

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >> ONLY post photos for which YOU hold the copyright (meaning photos you took)!!!

The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.

No photos taken from any website, including Find A Grave!!! <<

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

I found including biographies & obits helpful, but they are against site rules unless I/you own the copyrights so do not ask me to add them to memorials unless you can include ownership assurance.

My Reasons for Being on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died while my husband ~ who, BTW, hates cemeteries and has much more important things to do, like saving the lives of over 3000 people striving for a mid-east democracy, than be on FindAGrave ~ was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors ~ at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my "hanky-panky in the palace" people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My biggest peeve in research was seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly referred to as "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of finding and posting ladies' maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have two maiden names in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up. May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(Bobby Goldsboro, 1960s)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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L Chavez
RE: RomeroFamilyPlot
Please do send me the memorial for son Carlos ROmero. Thank so much!!!!!!!
Added by L Chavez on Jul 08, 2014 10:44 AM
L Chavez
I saw that headstone would have been between the two family member markers. Now I understand the problem. The picture show where the maker once stood. Thank you so much.
Added by L Chavez on Jul 08, 2014 8:42 AM
L Chavez
I asked for Clara Pauline Mirabal Romero head stone and you put a Jose Romero headstone instead.
Her husband was 16547538 Jose Placido Romero

Find A Grave Memorial# 132084003
Please Explain. It is the wrong Headstone.
Added by L Chavez on Jul 07, 2014 3:21 PM
RE: Manuel Montoya site pic
Ok, that's MORE than fine -- appreciate your getting so much info for them!! Seems like the more 'graving' we do, we're surprised less and less by such things too....'shrug' ;-)
Added by SWM on Jul 06, 2014 4:53 PM
Rain Brings Rainbows
Thank you!
Your photos and placement are so appreciated!
Also, I read every line in your profile which at moments along the way brought quiet smiles! Continue to spread sunshine and share sunshine...
certainly a gift from one to another which brings a feeling of a gentle breeze beneath my wings lifting me up a bit more at the end of the day!
Thank you again for your good work and sharing!!
Added by Rain Brings Rainbows on Jul 05, 2014 9:40 PM
Michael Sena
Thanks for the pic of Michael Sena's stone! Much appreciated!!
Added by SWM on Jul 05, 2014 8:37 AM
Manuel Montoya site pic
Thanks so much for looking for Manuel's gravesite. I guess if all the cemetery could give you was the area, then that'll have to work! Thanks again for the picture and info!!
Added by SWM on Jul 05, 2014 8:35 AM
Michael Sandoval
RE: gravers
Amen. As time passes, I will try to connect people by mentioning business relationships, etc.

Years from now, all of this information will be fun for relatives (and perhaps historians) to read.
Added by Michael Sandoval on Jul 03, 2014 12:25 PM
Michael Sandoval
RE: Mary Alarid
Being a "graver" has been a rewarding experience for me. A great opportunity to link people...not just relatives, but friends as well.
Added by Michael Sandoval on Jul 03, 2014 8:51 AM
Michael Sandoval
RE: Mary Alarid
You are a "world class graver." :)
Added by Michael Sandoval on Jul 03, 2014 8:11 AM
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