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Nancy Jean {Wolf} Ostrander (#46862375)
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Bio Photo THIS PICTURE IS OF MY WONDERFUL HUSBAND, I LOVE YOU JERRY BENNETT OSTRANDER............notice he is standing next to a headstone. We spent a lot of time, together, in cemeteries.

I haven't done much on Find a Grave for quite a while. My husband, Jerry, and I have been crafting bird feeders and attending craft shows. That in its self takes up a lot of a persons time.

Last year in May (2011) we went to California, Colorado & Oregon for two months. Our granddaughter was getting married in Ft. Bragg CA. After the wedding we had family and friends, we hadn't seen in a very long time, to visit. We have a son and his wife in Oregon, another son who just happened to be visiting in Oregon while we were there, one daughter and husband, three grandchildren and two g-grandchildren in CA, youngest daughter and husband and two grandsons in Colorado. It was the most wonderful trip we had every taken together, every thing was perfect. I think this trip was a gift from God so that we would all have wonderful memories of each other. And I thank You God for that.

You see my husband of, not quite 47 years, died on 12 May 2012. We were tearing down an old house and the front porch roof came down sooner than it was suppose to and fell on my Jerry. There was a friend of ours who was, also, trapped under the roof but, thanks to God, he was spared. God wasn't ready for our friend yet, but he needed Jerry. I sure hope he needed my husband more than I did, because I needed that man of mine a whole lot, God knows I wasn't ready to let Jerry go, but we are on God's time table not ours. There were a lot of things we still had in our minds to do yet.

Please, please don't waited to realize how important your loved ones are to you. Once they are gone you cannot bring them back to tell them how you feel about them. Tell them now and tell them every day how much you love them and how much you depend on them.

Jerry and I were lucky, we were together 51 years, high school sweethearts. Jerry knew how I felt about him because I told him I love many times a day. For no reason, at all, I would just go up to him, give him a kiss and a hug just because of who he was and what he ment to me. My arms are so empty now. What hurts the most is that I had no idea how much I depended on him until he was gone from my life. He made our crafts, I decorated them. We went on long rides around our county, together. We talked to each other every day. We cooked together, we cleaned house together (he was a much better housewife than I am), we researched and took pictures of cemeteries and stone for Find a Grave together, everything we did was together.

Now people tell me I have to learn to do all of this by myself. I'm not at that point yet, I don't even know how to tackle all of these things without Jerry. It's like starting a new life all over again, but alone. I wasn't ready for this I don't know if I ever will be.

The only thing I am doing for Find a Grave right now is corrections. I can't make myself go out right now without Jerry to do the research and take pictures. Maybe someday I will be able to start taking pictures again.

I'm really glad Im not writing on paper, it would be so full of tear stains and hard to read. This was really hard to write to all of you. In Gods name, I love all of you. Thank you for being my friends.

18 Sep 2012
Clark County, Missouri

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Norilee Williamson
Duplicate Memorial-68847811
Good Morning Nancy -- FYI there is a duplicate memorial for Charles that was created in 2011. Can your memorial be merged with the one that was created in 2011?
Added by Norilee Williamson on Oct 20, 2016 7:41 AM
Joel Cook
Thank you for transferring my 3rd great grandfather, Joel Cook, to me.
Linda Brandt
Added by Linda on Aug 30, 2016 8:26 PM
Oak Hill Cemetery
Take your time Nancy, I have plenty to keep me busy,I appreciate what you've done so far. You Take it easy on yourself.
Added by Teresamae on Aug 30, 2016 4:54 PM
Oak Hill Cemetery
Thank you for the transfers. You wont be disappointed, ​I noticed that you started Wolfe Cemetery and so did someone else. I have began to add interments to your Cemetery. I hope I can help complete it as the other guy seems to have given up. I had to do some weedeating there but Im hoping to get everyone entered, from the list I fetched from the library and do photos over the winter months. I have to assume there are relatives of yours there and I will take special care of them while I am there. Thanks again.
Added by Teresamae on Aug 27, 2016 8:37 PM
Joel Cook
Would you please transfer Joel Cook #29468456 buried at Bethlehem cemetery, Clark county, Missouri to me?

Joel is my 3rd great grandfather. His son, Lindley N. Cook married Mary (James) Cook, daughter of Daniel and Eve (Fifer) James. Joel's wife is buried at Keokuk, Lee county, Iowa where she moved after Joel died.

Thank you.
Linda Brandt
Added by Linda on Aug 26, 2016 11:38 PM
RE: Daniel James & Eve (Fifer) James
Thank you very much for transferring Daniel and Eve (Fifer) James to me.
Linda Brandt
Added by Linda on Aug 26, 2016 6:01 PM
Daniel James & Eve (Fifer) James
Daniel James # 29468344 and Eve (Fifer) James # 29468374 buried at the Bethlehem cemetery, Clark county, Missouri (near Luray) are my 3rd great grandparents. If you are not related to them would you please transfer them to me. Thank You
Linda Brandt # 46632419
Added by Linda on Aug 24, 2016 7:52 PM
RE:Lloyd Wesley
I have a book, Images of America, Keokuk and the Great Dam. theres an article that reads "Accidental death during the Construction" "By the very nature of the power construction there were many hazards involved, and twenty six men met violent deaths during the progress of the work. They met death in many different ways. Four were killed thawing out dynamite, and they all died simultaneously. Several others lost their lives handling high explosives. Several were drowned in the river, one was electrocuted, others fell from high places or had objects fall upon them from high places, one or two were run over by locomotives while on the job. One man was burned to death from a container of gasoline leaking and becoming ignited. we had a battery of cement mixers,which required sand, and a workman in one of the sand bins, who was keeping the sand moving in the proper channels, lost his balance and was covered with sand and smothered to death. And there were many more accidents that were not fatal but incapacitating." __Letter to Gladstone California Dec. 11, 1963, p.2.
Added by Teresamae on Aug 21, 2016 1:05 PM
RE: Oak Hill Cemetery
I just meant that I would take care of any that you want to send my way, I plan on getting a good idea of who they all are. I started with the Hill's because they were the first family buried there. I know a little about everyone really, I dont know much about the Crow, Singmaster, Bogguss, Lane, McKinney, and Barkley families yet, I guess i wanna make a book of sorts for the library . Very interesting, pioneer families, A steamboat capt,a juror for the Spencer trial, the children of a judge, a preacher/tavern owner,the undertakers kids, I did read that the little boy Evermon's dad died on the Keokuk dam project but only one source so far.
Added by Teresamae on Aug 18, 2016 11:06 PM
RE: Oak Hill Cemetery
I will take them all, I am over the moon. I have family links for everyone in this Cemetery and prabably info for 50+ biographies.
Added by Teresamae on Aug 17, 2016 9:00 PM
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