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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 14 years, 11 months
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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B Wernex
What wonderful photos. Thank you so much.
Added by B Wernex on Feb 05, 2016 8:16 PM
Christine F. Creed Hill
Ethel Butler Creed
Thank you for including a photo of my grandmother's headstone. You noted that she is buried between your step-father's family. Can you tell me their names? I will be able to tell you if there is a connection. I think it's random though. Her husband is also buried there and if anything, she should be with him (Jesse Creed). Thank you again :-)
Added by Christine F. Creed Hill on Jan 27, 2016 9:40 AM
Lisa Kennedy
Delia Denny
Thank you for the gorgeous photo of Delia Denny's headstone! You certainly take care with your photos. You captured its color beautifully and it is cropped for maximum effect. It will be appreciated for years to come.
Added by Lisa Kennedy on Jan 25, 2016 3:15 PM
Barbara McStowe
Thank you.
Thank you for the picture of the grave site for my great aunt. I am both happy and sad - happy for the location information, but so sad that she has no grave marker. I can't imagine why.
Added by Barbara McStowe on Jan 13, 2016 9:40 AM
Larry Soward
Parlee Birchfield
Thanks so much for fulfilling my request for a photo of Parlee Soward Birchfield's grave. Larry Soward
Added by Larry Soward on Jan 12, 2016 6:38 AM
Thanks for the wonderful photo of Geo Boen's marker at Modesto Citizens!
Added by mwbowen on Jan 01, 2016 9:10 AM
B. Helmer
Ramona's Photo
Thank you for the Hough photos. Your efforts are very much appreciated.
Added by B. Helmer on Dec 31, 2015 6:04 PM
Lenora Dryden
Thanks for your time and help with this pic. I appreciate all of your efforts in helping all of us figure out or trees!
Added by kellyjh121675 on Dec 19, 2015 1:07 PM
Amber Stone
Thank you!
Thank you for taking the time to photograph Emerilla Matthews' headstone! I apologize for the delay in response.
Added by Amber Stone on Dec 18, 2015 12:08 PM
Bob Wilson
John & Martha Wood grave photo
Thank you very much!
Added by Bob Wilson on Dec 17, 2015 11:41 AM
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