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Tom "Homer" W. (#46801357)
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Bio Photo I discovered Find a Grave by accident soon after the death of our precious daughter, Marjorie. She was my first entry. I have added family members, friends, and others that I have no connection with but simply wanted to add them on these pages. I will have more of my family entered in the future. My wife and I are retired and we love it! I love riding the back-roads on my Harley and can't seem to ride past an old cemetery.....I love walking through them and find peace and quiet in them. Thanks so much to everyone that has placed notes, tokens, and have sponsored my memorials. God bless you all.

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Anne Beckman
Hi Tom,

HAPPY WINTER! I pray you are keeping warm!

I must tell you: during the last weekend of

January, I went on something I'd never thought

I'd go on: a religious retreat! Since November,

I had been thinking of going on this. It is done

by our parish. It is called CHRP: An acronym for

Christ Renews His Parish. My husband Bill went on

them, but they were NOT for me. I was trying to

get my life to go FORWARD, not talk about things

that happened to me, in the past. (Yes, they

were faith-building, but they HURT to talk

about. That is a BIG part of any religious

retreat: sharing one's faith, through telling all

about the way Christ has helped you with your

difficulties, during life. It is defined as a

testimonial. I was LOATH to that, until the

end of 2015: I did not know the other women my

age in our parish and was LONELY! I prayed a lot

about it. Finally, when I made a "find a grave"

prayer to The Virgin Mary, the glorious new

graphic I was using, which portrays her as

the Queen of Heaven (just one of the many titles

the Catholic church has for her) with a big,

beautiful, gold crown, said, "COME TO ME!"

As soon as I walked into the church that Saturday

morning, I KNEW I'd made the right decision!

All the ladies were so welcoming and did so much

for us! (Those who were leading, and those who

were just helping.) YES, it was DRAINING to

talk about my life, BUT it is always a good way

to get the yuck out. WOW, when I heard of other

women's problems, I thought, "Mine are not that

much!" (Remember the story of everyone taking

their problems, standing on a hill, and trying

to catch someone else's, as they roll the problems

down the hill...only to realize that other

person's problem is WORSE, so they go looking for

their own, to keep as long as they live?) There

was SUCH a feeling of friendship, that I've been

very hungry for! I have made 30 new pals!

We have CHRP Evenings once a month: being back

with my buddies was WONDERFUL! The next one is

on the 17th. CAN'T WAIT! One little problem:

the FOOD!!! OH MY LORD, did we eat WELL!!!

Every meal was a FEAST! I knew it would be,

from the speech a woman made, during Mass, years

ago, about her CHRP experience. She said, "We

ate like queens!" Bill, bless his soul, told me

"Don't worry about your weight, this time."

I didn't! No out of control pigging out, and I

did not eat dessert, but I CERTAINLY enjoyed it,


As one does, during a retreat, (I knew this, as

I went to my Catholic high school's Senior

Retreat), every person receives supportive letters

from family and friends! Also, from those who

have been on CHRP retreats. WELL, did I ever

get A LOT!!! All the family knew, of course, so

I got ones from them. Also from my very dear

friend Yopi, who has shared the cancer experience

with me. Sooo many women from church who know

full well of my bipolar disorder and cancer

struggles, whether they are in CHRP or are only

members of our parish, wrote me wonderful letters.

Finally, our parish's first grade class made

the most darling and meaningful cards for us,

using construction paper and crayons. WOW...

I received so many, I still had 5 to read, by

the time the next activity began! Oh, yes...

Bill, (As I STRONGLY suggested, LOL!) sent me

FLOWERS! Two red roses, with baby's breath!

Only one other woman, I think, received the same

from her husband...I AM BLESSED! Did I nearly

CRY while all this was given to me? YES!!!

I have long NEEDED it, as you must know, for

2014 and especially 2015 were so hard. Yes, it was

VERY tiring for me...EXHAUSTING!!! However, my

SPIRIT was SO RENEWED!!! I was snapping at Bill

to just let me get into my nightie and get into

bed, by the time it ended and I got home (which

was only about 4pm!) but then I immediately let

him know how WONDERFUL it was for me!

2016 has been a GOOD year, so far! As Bill put

on the card that came with the flowers, "Those

who sow in tears, shall reap in joy." PSALM 126.

I am bitterly disappointed that we don't have the

$$$ to go on a cruise for our 25th wedding

anniversary, but if we just don't have any

problems this year, that would be a GREAT gift

from God! For Valentine's Day, we're having a

romantic dinner at home. I'm sure I'm getting

red roses again :) and a beautiful box of

Russell Stovers chocolates. (I love the pretty

boxes more than the chocolate! I've kept some of

them, to decorate with.)


Added by Anne Beckman on Feb 11, 2016 1:55 PM
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Thank you for leaving a flower for Andrea Harris. I left 2 flowers for your daughter I hope you like them. I had a friend Cynthia 75864427 she loved Betty Boop when you can please leave a flower for her and check out my sponsors and memorials added. Thank You
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