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Shirley Goingღ (#46913836)
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Bio Photo ~ ~ If you'd like a family memorial TRANSFER just ask. I'll transfer it to you if they are not my blood relation. ~ ~

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"THANK YOU" To Everyone Who Stopped By And Left A Kind Note And/Or Flower On one of My Family Memorials. They are greatly appreciated.
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So many people have said to me "don't you have better things to do with your time then drag up the past?" I tell all of you now, I do, but I don't.

My father, Duel Glen Going, was only 5 years old when he lost his father, Alonzo Stubblefield Going, to Typhoid. My grandmother, Pearl Cathern Holt-Going Phillips, then took her 4 children and moved to Oklahoma and there was very little contact between her and the "Going" family. Therefore, I never knew this family and very little was ever spoken of them.

My feelings are, in each family, someone is called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again. To tell the family story and feel that somehow the "old ones" know and approve. To me, doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before me.

I feel I am the story teller of the "GOING"(plus many more surnames)tribe. I feel I have been called as if it were by my genes. Those who have gone before me cry out to me: "Tell our story." So, I'm trying. In finding them, I somehow find myself.

For me, it started on a beautiful November day in the 1980's. I stood in front of my Grandfather Alonzo Going's grave in the Masonic Cemetery, Pocahontas, Randolph County, Arkansas, and asked him, and all the other family gravestones around him, "Who were you? Where did you come from? Why didn't I get to know you?" With tears streaming down both of my eyes, I looked up into a cloudless sky of blue and vowed, at that very moment in time, I would not stop until those questions were answered.


If you have time to visit one of my family members, it would be greatly appreciated.



Georgia Lee Cox Going

Duel Glen Going


Betty Jane Going Kelso

Helen Yvonne Going Wilson


Janice Elaine Kelso Olsen

Donna Yvonne Kelso

Cheryl Ann Kelso Clark

Joel Tavis Coffey


Alonzo Stubblefield Going

Pearl Cathern Holt-Going Phillips

John Avery Cox

Lucinda Eveline "Eva" Widener-Cox Johnson

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Fleet family headstone photos
In April, you answered my request for photos of 6 Fleet family headstones at Macey Cemetery, Craighead Co., Arkansas. I am sorry it has taken me so long to thank you. I appreciate it very much! As a result of your work, I am able to continue research of my Fleet family.
Added by Find AL Graves 2 on Jun 01, 2015 10:05 AM
Sarah Stead
obit for Sallie Purcell, FAG 37136429
I saw your note that she was related to you, so I thought I'd pass this along in case you didn't have it.

Waxahachie Daily Light; July 30, 1938;
Funeral services were held in Ennis yesterday for Mrs. J. W. Purcell, 37, who died Thursday at her home in that city. Interment was made in Myrtle Cemetery, Ennis. Mrs. Purcell, formerly Sallie Evelyn O’Neal, was born in Ennis Dec 10, 1900, and had lived there all her life. She attended the Ennis schools and was married there Nov 16, 1918, to J. W. Purcell who, with six children, survives, five daughters, Helen, Dorothy, Martha Lee, Alice and Sallie Jane, and one son, Jack Purcell, all of the home address; also her parents, Mr. and Mrs. T. D. O’Neal, four brothers, Fred O’Neal of Ennis, Stanley O’Neal of Houston, and Oram and Wayne O’Neal, and three sisters, Mrs. Charlie Daniel, Mrs. H. Flowers and Miss Cleo O’Neal, all of Ennis.
Added by Sarah Stead on May 19, 2015 1:26 PM
Shirley, we communicated some time ago. I've been in touch with your family members for years.

If you use findagrave and go to my father Troy Benson Stevesn, only one by that full name and go back to his father Olen, his father Henry and his mother Mary Susan Robinson.

Added by Merle on May 13, 2015 3:28 PM
He's also my 4th great
Added by Merle on May 12, 2015 8:14 PM
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Lt Walter Lyons
Thank you for sponsoring the Memorial
Added by Victor Vilionis on May 09, 2015 9:51 AM
Marie Ann Dubus Garrett
Luther LLoyd Fraser
Thank you so much for posting the picture of his memorial. I appreciate all your hard work!
Added by Marie Ann Dubus Garrett on May 03, 2015 8:23 PM
Linda Albrecht Maret and Gary A Maret
reba vail
Shirley, Thank yo so much for the picture for Reba. Sorry it has taken so long to get back to you but we have been traveling in midwest geting pictures for family members and doing some things for find a grave. Thanks again. Linda Maret
Added by Linda Albrecht Maret and ... on Apr 25, 2015 2:52 PM
RE: Mitchell
You're very welcome. If there's anything else I can do for you do not hesitate to ask. I was in Masonic Cemetery recently and noticed a few Goings there but I'm sure you're aware of them.
Added by asimov on Apr 24, 2015 6:24 AM
A simple thank you:)
I greatly appreciate your dedication to Find A Grave and the time you give to help those of us who cannot travel.
Added by JohnRandolphPrinceWmVa on Apr 13, 2015 5:41 PM
Hall graves
Thanks for the photos, Shirley. I appreciate these very much.

Added by Ray on Apr 12, 2015 8:29 PM
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