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HJ (#46937296)
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Bio Photo 1. SEND SOURCE INFO!!! When sending info for inclusion on memorials I have entered, please include your source (where you found it, or how you know it). This is important. If I think the info is questionable, I might not add it, or will note who sent it to me. I decline to perpetuate errata and will NOT post anything from an unreliable source.

2. MANNERS COUNT. I appreciate POLITE requests and corrections. If you don't know how to use the words, "please," and "thank you," or can't be bothered, then please don't bother at all. If you send extremely rude, or threatening messages, no matter how subtle, I will forward them to the Find A Grave administrators, without exception.

3. I TRANSFER. Aside from my own family, and close friends, I do not hoard memorials. POLITE requests for your family (close, OR distant), and close friends will all be considered. If I am even remotely related, I will not transfer. I will keep my friends, unless your relationship is significantly closer. If you are prone to entering sloppy memorials with incorrect info, I will think twice about a transfer.

4. YOUR PHOTOS: Please don't add bad photos to memorials I have entered, i.e. photos where you can be seen reflected in the stone, your car is in the background, the stone is covered in bird poop, or leaves, or dirt, your dog, or kid can be seen, or photos taken at a carelessly crooked angle, or ones with more "white space," than gravestone (NO need to crop ALL the white space out, and photos of entire family plots are the exception). Please do not add photographs of new graves in their entirety, with no grass growing on the freshly up-turned dirt. Please do not add photos of the temporary plastic grave markers placed by the funeral home, or photos of the gravestone, prior to inscribing of the DOD for new burials--if you do, please anticipate that I will request a removal when a photo of a fully inscribed gravestone has been posted. I spend a lot of time to make attractive, respectful memorials. Your help with that is appreciated.

Note: If the persons grave has no marker, please at least add a photo of the area where the grave is located.

5. MY PHOTOS, those of gravestones and cemeteries, may be used without my permission, EXCEPT on, or any site which requires an exchange of money. There is no need to give me credit and in fact, I would prefer that you don't. However, please do not post one of my original photos to a Find A Grave memorial yourself. Politely make a request and I will gladly add, if appropriate.

6. CAUSES OF DEATH are a matter of public record. If you are related to an individual who has a cause of death posted in their memorial, and you are disturbed by the posting of that cause, I will remove it, upon polite request.

7. I VOLUNTEER. As another member has noted on their profile, I'm not getting paid to do this. Nope, not a penny. I sometimes get behind in doing corrections, updates, etc. Your patience is appreciated. Please remember that edits take time, no one is entitled to my time, and demands are wholly unappreciated (please refer to point #2 above). If you can't wait, you may send the edit request to Find A Grave.

8. LIVING PEOPLE: Please don't add memorials for them, especially, if you haven't yet entered a memorial for YOURSELF. Not only is it against policy, but it's just a horrendous thing to do to someone, without their consent.

9. LIVE & LET LIVE. I am all for receiving and sending updates, corrections, etc. I appreciate notification when I have added a duplicate and will notify others of duplicates. Beyond that, I do not consider myself to be on the Find A Grave police squad, and neither should you. Please allow me to tend to the memorials I have entered. If I add something you don't like to a memorial you have entered, or to that of a family member's, please point it out to me POLITELY. Vague references to Find A Grave policies are not helpful in specific instances--I have entered hundreds of memorials and manage hundreds more. Above all, please remember that Find A Grave IS NOT REAL. The internet is NOT TANGIBLE. What does that mean? In the grand scheme of life, this is small stuff and could go "poof" in an instant.

10. To those who are all about the numbers: THERE IS NO END TO DEAD PEOPLE. Just because I might enter a memorial you wanted to enter, doesn't mean you can't enter one for someone else. There are plenty for all.


In Honor of Our Fallen Brave . . .

In Flanders Fields, 1919, by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.


THANK YOU to everyone who sends info and corrections for memorials I have entered. Time does not permit me to thank everyone for each individual contribution, but please know that they are appreciated!

In case I have missed anyone, THANK YOU to the PHOTO VOLUNTEERS who have fulfilled my requests--much appreciated!

MANY THANKS to those MEMBERS who have entered memorials for members of my family and who have had the kindness to transfer them to me--you're the BEST!


PRIVATELY OWNED CEMETERIES & PHOTOGRAPHY Privately owned cemeteries may regulate the taking of photographs by persons physically within the boundaries of the cemetery property. Please refer to the laws of the relevant state. More discussion may be perused here: (Courtesy of Find A Grave Member Diehard, profile # 46809256)
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Shelby O'Brien
RE: Pended Edits
Thank you so much for your reply, but the Pending Edits came through just a short while ago.
Added by Shelby O'Brien on Sep 04, 2014 2:28 PM
RE: P.Botetto (Botoletto)
Yes, I am a distant cousin. I have spent the past ten years researching my Italian ancestors who immigrated to the Braidwood, IL area beginning in the 1870s. My Italian clans are from the area of the Piedmont known as the Canavese, which shares a border with the country of France. If you have roots from this area you will find that most are related by blood, marriage, or both! I have no burning desire to "collect" memorials--I only have a couple hundred--but if you would like to transfer his to me I will make the additions that I have corroborated through multiple histories, birth records (Italian), death records, immigration/naturalization records, census records, draft registrations, etc. I agree with you, the Illinois death index is notoriously poorly transcribed, but then so are many of the US Census records I review, cemetery records, obituaries, headstones, family histories (many folks just clone what they find on-line and don't check any of their sources)--even Findagrave! I have found that research is a body of work and not reliant on one document. If I can ever help you, don't hesitate to contact me. Carol
Added by Searchers on Aug 31, 2014 7:30 PM
Memorial# 127856347
"Illinois Deaths and Stillbirths, 1916-1947" reveals the following information:

Name: Peter Botoletto
Birth Date: 10 Oct 1885
Birth Place: Italy
Death Date: 31 Jan 1946
Death Place: Spring Valley, Bureau, Illinois
Burial Date: 2 Feb 1946
Burial Place: Granville, Putnam, Ill.
Cemetery Name: Granville Cem.
Death Age: 60
Occupation: Common Laborer
Race: White
Marital Status: S
Gender: Male
Residence: Mark, Granville, Putnam, Illinois
Father Name: Joseph Botoletto
Father Birth Place: Italy
Mother Name: Dominica Odonetto
Mother Birth Place: Italy
FHL Film Number: 1991234
Added by Searchers on Aug 13, 2014 11:30 AM
Paula Waugamon
RE: Transfer
That would be great. Thank you
Added by Paula Waugamon on Aug 01, 2014 7:26 PM
Lisa Dauk
RE: Paul Bernardi
Yes, the grave sites I have entered are correct.
Added by Lisa Dauk on Jul 23, 2014 8:25 AM
maggie e.
RE: Mary.Trask Memorial# 80670511
Hi HJ,
Mary Emery's birthdate was taken from "A History of the town Of Industry, Franklin County, Maine" by William Collins Hatch. The front page indicates it's in two parts. I'm not sure which part I'm looking at, but page 604 begins discussing the Emery family, and on page 607 it gives the date and place of birth of Mary who married Eben G Trask.

The obituary I was referring to was for her husband-Eben. Sorry for the confusion. Please let me know if I can supply any other information on Mary or the Emery family. And thank you so much for contacting me.
Added by maggie e. on Jul 12, 2014 8:34 PM
maggie e.
RE: Mary.Trask Memorial# 80670511
You've probably already seen it, but I scanned the newspaper clipping for the obituary of Mary's husband. It was cut out and stuck in his diary that my grandmother had. We still have the diary.
Added by maggie e. on Jul 11, 2014 12:14 PM
maggie e.
RE: Mary.Trask Memorial# 80670511
Hi HJ,
You were asking about the source of my updates for Mary. I'm having trouble thinking-I don't remember what the updates were. Would you mind refreshing my memory?

Mary and Eben Trask are my great-great-great grandparents through their daughter Sarepta Florence who married Seth Pearson.

I look forward to hearing from you.
Maggie 48100925
Added by maggie e. on Jul 11, 2014 12:05 PM
Pam Broviak
RE: Transfer
Hi! Thanks, I really appreciate the offer to transfer - it would be great if you could.
Added by Pam Broviak on Jun 20, 2014 7:34 PM
Ken Nagel
It has been deleted.
Added by Ken Nagel on Jun 15, 2014 6:05 PM
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