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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 13 years, 10 months, 18 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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Carol Hopper Bader
Mamie Zumwalt, Henry Sigler, & Joseph Dias
Thank you for taking and sharing the pictures of the headstones for Mamie Zumwalt and her husbands Henry Sigler and Joseph Dias. We appreciate your time and talents.
Added by Carol Hopper Bader on Jan 28, 2015 1:06 PM
RE: Myron and Mary Reid
Thank you so very much for the photos of Myron and Mary's grave markers. Please know that your time and efforts are so very much appreciated. Being a volunteer photographer myself I definitely understand the problems you can encounter and although I usually carry a brush and rags with me, its that time when I forget them that they're needed the most.
Kindest regards, mshunter
Added by mshunter on Jan 23, 2015 11:49 AM
Robert Norton
Doug & Marilyn
Added by HBE on Jan 23, 2015 8:57 AM
Marsha Heaston
MIllie A Cohun
Thank you for posting the picture of Millie A Cohun's grave site. She is my husband's 3x great grandmother.
Added by Marsha Heaston on Jan 23, 2015 7:40 AM
Elam / Modesto Citizens Cemetery
Thanks for taking the photos! And for posting the photo for Nora!
Added by E F on Jan 17, 2015 2:26 PM
John Winning
Louis A Turpen
Hi Marilyn,
Happy new year!! Thanks for taking Louis's headstone photo.

Added by John Winning on Jan 16, 2015 12:09 PM
Frances and Mabel
Edler photo
Thank you so very much for the photo. It'll help a lot in my research. Thank you again.
Added by Frances and Mabel on Jan 10, 2015 9:47 AM
Ada May Doughty Gilstrap
You really went above and beyond to find the buried marker. Thank you so much for your time and dedication!
Added by Mary9 on Jan 10, 2015 1:04 AM
Sara and Harvey Causey
Gruenig photos
Thank you for taking and posting these photos.
Added by Sara and Harvey Causey on Jan 09, 2015 7:47 AM
Alice Raven
Thank you!
Thank you so much for the photograph of Delbert Johnson's unmarked burial plot and the explanation of that area of the cemetery - so very interesting. I am working on a friend's family history and I think this may actually explain something. I promise to fulfill a photo request to pay your kind favor forward!
Added by Alice Raven on Jan 08, 2015 7:50 PM
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