|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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|Glenda Barry||RE: Walter William Warren|
No, I'm sorry, I don't know anything about the family. I decorate memorials randomly at times and usually don't know the people involved. Good luck finding the answer, have a nice day!
|Stephen Payne||Binghams - Central Cemetery Cornwall, VT|
I see that you've listed the children of Jeremiah Bingham (42822188) as having the mother Abigail Ives. All of my family information (Jeremiah is my 5th great-grandfather) show her name as Abigail Hawkes instead of Ives. She is buried here as well (74293877).
I'm going to go ahead and attach her children with the new edit that allows this...but would still love to know if there is evidence of her maiden name being Ives rather than Hawkes.
Thank you! I am so glad the snow is nearly gone so I can go do some more cemetery visits.
|MaryJo Tresenriter||Inda Warren|
I am leaving a public message, because I want to thank and commend you for denying my edit request. It's nice to know that someone is paying attention! Your denial has caused me to search Fessenrider on ancestry.com and now I know why I have been unable to find my Tresenriter/Tresenrider relatives in certain censuses, so I thank you! I will gather my documentation and email you again with my edit request once I know I can provide documentation that will satisfy you! Thanks again for being so particular, as it does mean a lot!! You are definitely as findagrave STAR, IMHO!!
|Barbara LeClaire||Enjoyed your message|
Really hits to the problems. Thank you. I am of same clothe I think. I also have taken thousands of pictures, good, bad and unreadable. The tone of people has changed as evidenced by my e-mails. Also not mentioned is spelling and vocabulary. I get e-mails from people (wit i want this it is a name i am researching... dah!) The idea that someone will take something that I painstakingly researched add or remove parts with no understanding of how to write makes me cringe.
My soap box, sorry.
I was wondering, the source of cemetery listings without pictures?
On two sources I have
Samuel Howard III
Birth 12 Jul 1731 in Hartford, Connecticut Death 21 Aug 1783 in Hartford, Connecticut
buried next to wife Anne(Seymour)Howard. Could this be someone overlooked, or another fanciful idea?
It maybe some time before I make the 3000 mile trip to take pictures in that area again, but proud that you are doing so. Respectfully, Barbara
|A AAA American at Find A Grave||TNX|
Dear Mrs. Janet Muff,
Thank you for all your doing, have done, and shall do. It is well done!
Are you Springers English and AKC/UKC ?
One of my favorite breeds.
Please add me as a friend. Also here on Find A Grave too now.
Jonathan Robert De Mallie
|Barnard/OConnor/Wolford||RE: Allen Richards|
No problem. Now and then new records are uploaded on the various sites so even if it isn't there now, someday it could be so keep checking those sites ever-so-often. Good luck!
|Barnard/OConnor/Wolford||RE: Allen Richard|
Have you looked up his death certificate? The cemetery is usually listed in the bottom corner. I can't remember the dates you had on his memorial but familysearch often has certificates that are viewable in their original form.
Thanks for adding the Goodriches in Old Benson Cemetery. The information is valuable as I have entered Allen Goodrich connections in Bloomington Cemetery in MN.
|FournierJillson||RE: Ella Lord 104007584|
I have added a photo to your memorial for this girl. She is buried in Berrien Springs Michigan at Rose Hill Cemetery. The stone reads that her parents were of Ludlow VT and her age was 16YR 2MO. Cemetery record says she was daughter of Phillip and Sadie. So many of the older stones are very eroded but this one is still pretty good. Sincerely, Kathy (Fournier) Jillson, a beginning but enthusiastic graver
Thank you ever so much, for setting the record straight on Ira Austin - Memorial# 95387786. I've updated his memorial page.
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