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CryptoGram (#46897564)
 member for 9 years, 5 months, 17 days
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose, change names &/or places of burial to make originals look like duplicates, &/or put deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

Sad to have to point out that I have posted NO pictures on, but some members there and elsewhere online lifted pictures I DID add to FindAGrave ~ ESPECIALLY of KINFOLK ~ & reposted them as their own with no credit given. When you see a picture on identical to one I've added to FaG, mine is the original; if included posting dates, I would not have to explain this. It's also quite silly that when I/others have made family trees there from personal information, they're noted as having no sources, but then when others copy same, their "source" is US!

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

Why I got on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My head-smacks in research are people assumed to be kids of step-parents when the bio-parent (usually mother) died too young & seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly called "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of restoring ladies' kids &/or maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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David Laughlin
Mary A. Blackall Woods
Thanks so much for the tombstone photo for my relative, Mary A. Blackall Woods.
Added by David Laughlin on Aug 30, 2016 4:16 PM
Jon P Czarowitz
RE: Lost contact
Thank you. I got the connections from the lady I asked you about. She sent me the birth and marriage details without the complete sources. I had nothing at the time, but in adding them to Wikitree checked FindaGrave,
Bingo I don't have the church records to back up her info sent me, But much is on FG.
I will make the connections here as well as Wikitree.
Trying to clean house before going to nursing home.
39 years of that, much unsourced by today's standards,
Added by Jon P Czarowitz on Aug 30, 2016 12:07 PM
Diane Whitney
RE: Photos
Thanks for the reply. Note taken on what you stated. I have rewritten my bio and would love for any comment if necessary. I truly did appreciate your response.

Have a great day and thank you for all your hard work. Diane
Added by Diane Whitney on Aug 29, 2016 10:28 PM
Jon P Czarowitz
Lost contact
I met a lady years on line but before email.
Because of time gone by I ask you if you know her.
Her info is

Louise Anne Hayman Van Ultert
1470 Sandpiper Cr
Salt Lake City, UT 84117

IT has been a long time. She was researching Johann Christian Hempel family that you created the memorials for.
Please contact me at

Jon P Czarowitz
Added by Jon P Czarowitz on Aug 29, 2016 6:44 PM
Harold Chaffee
Thank you for the picture of his headstone
Added by KChaffeeB on Aug 29, 2016 5:17 AM
Diane Whitney
And just so you know, I was ignorant years ago about looking at bottom of photo of grave not knowing I should cut and past that when posting the grave photo. I know that now. I am sure many were not doing it intentionally just not aware. Just for your info. Me, I don't need credit for a photo of someone else grave. If it brings joy and love to their life, that is what God intends for us to do without getting credit. I am pretty sure God is not on a credit system. Just saying.
Added by Diane Whitney on Aug 28, 2016 6:26 PM
Diane Whitney
Photo of cemetery
Just curious. You wouldnt have a problem of someone using that photo you took of the front of graveyard and putting it on their tree right? I guess I am asking because I am tired of all these other people creating memorials having like 25,000 graves, and then refusing to transfer but then threaten everyone when they want to put the headstone photo on their tree of copy right laws. These other people are ruining it for the rest of us. :(
Added by Diane Whitney on Aug 28, 2016 6:23 PM
Zoe Tom
See FAG #: 169015124
You already have that picture.

You are doing a great job.
Thank you.

Added by Zoe Tom on Aug 28, 2016 1:29 AM
Virginia D
Sarah Haight/Hannah Herrick
Thank you so much for your very crisp photos of memorials 69448266 and 130101199 at Angelica Cemetery. I truly appreciate that you took the time to fulfill these requests.
Virginia D.
Added by Virginia D on Aug 27, 2016 6:31 PM
Jay Warner
Angelica cemetery
Thank you for the Great Photos

Very Much appreciated
Added by Jay Warner on Aug 27, 2016 10:24 AM
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