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CryptoGram (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose, change names &/or places of burial to make originals look like duplicates, &/or put deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

Sad to have to point out that I have posted NO pictures on, but some members there and elsewhere online lifted pictures I DID add to FindAGrave ~ ESPECIALLY of KINFOLK ~ & reposted them as their own with no credit given. When you see a picture on identical to one I've added to FaG, mine is the original; if included posting dates, I would not have to explain this. It's also quite silly that when I/others have made family trees there from personal information, they're noted as having no sources, but then when others copy same, their "source" is US!

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

Why I got on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My biggest peeve in research was seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly referred to as "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of finding and posting ladies' maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Benjamin Carlson
Beatrice and David Dalager grave pics
Thank you so much for taking and adding the pictures of David Dalager and his wife Beatrices graves. They are members of my family from way way back and I am just researching my family history to find out about them. Thanks again!

Added by Benjamin Carlson on Feb 07, 2016 3:52 PM
Zoe Tom
LeSuer memorials
I fixed the names, thanks to you.
But you didn't take pictures of all of them.
If you get back to Allegany County, maybe you
can look for the rest of them or let me know there is no tombstone.

A good picture taker, like you, is a real treasurer!!!

I won't make the picture request now. I learned my lesson on that. One lady used some not so pleasant words to tell me she wasn't going out
of her --- house, much less take some --- pictures. (It was kind of funny.) Wintertime is not the time to make requests in NY State, I learned, except maybe in Brooklyn or something, where it warms up now and then.


Added by Zoe Tom on Feb 07, 2016 12:36 PM
Zoe Tom
Alfred Rural Cemetery
Do you still take pictures at this cemetery ? There are people at that cemetery, who are not recorded on the regular on-line records.
I added a lady who might be there, but I don't know if she is or not. She was a professor at Alfred University. Her name is Clara K. Nelson.
When the weather is nice, I would be very greatful if you would take a picture for me. You could maybe check with your county recorder's office to see where she is buried, before you go out.
The lady who manages those on-line records, tried to charge me to look-up people in her REAL records. She was trying to make money off genweb. Can you believe that?
And thanks for all your pictures. You do a great job !!!


Added by Zoe Tom on Feb 07, 2016 2:50 AM
sharon grose
RE: Matilda and John Wilkins
Yeah, you've done a lot of work. I'm trying to find the grave again, Matilda and John Wilkins, grave location in Canada. Born 1894 or something like that.
Added by sharon grose on Feb 05, 2016 12:34 PM
Sorry, hit enter or something on that first one. I just wanted to say thank you for your extensive work on Find A Grave. I read your bio as I wanted to use one of your photos in my tree. I always read to see where the person stands, and always give credit. I see a lot on ancestry that don't and wanted to let you know that I go in and edit those shared photos if I use them to add credit where it is not given. I can see they're obviously from Find A Grave too. I also feel an obligation to find all the unknown female maiden names and link them to their families. My father's family came from Canada and I love that I very often see they have their maiden names on their stones!
Take care!
Added by KUber on Feb 02, 2016 5:33 PM
M L Sample
Henry J Harrison
Wow, I just posted my request this morning. Thank you so much.
Added by M L Sample on Jan 29, 2016 1:55 PM
RE: Russell Ausderau
They really botched the name in the paper...not that I'm not used to it nobody ever gets it right. You did some great investigative work to make the connection. I contacted the cemetery last week and they are going to check their records. I will also call the funeral home. BTW the head of the Olean cemetery is a Spink so it must be the same person connected with the funeral home. I will call them tomorrow because I do want to add a memorial. I have a list of almost 80 markers to get to for various cousins, but as this is my father's brother (my dad being the George referenced in the paper) I will bounce him to the top of my list and try to get it done as soon as I can get documentation of the correct dates. It won't be anything flashy but I do want to put something before I go and he is lost to the ages. Thanks for your good work! With Hackworth as well, my father who was career military was a great admirer of his.
Added by sukiyhtaky on Jan 26, 2016 2:30 AM
Many thanx for posting the pix to the memorial page - much appreciated!
Added by Adrienne on Jan 25, 2016 11:29 AM
Ronald Montague
RE: So many thanks...
Ahh...good!! In the middle of some football now, will visit the memorials very soon!!
Added by Ronald Montague on Jan 24, 2016 7:11 PM
Ronald Montague
RE: So many thanks...
That's interesting about the sisters. I will note that. I'd sure like those obits. Will look for them.
Added by Ronald Montague on Jan 24, 2016 5:07 PM
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