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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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RE: Jones/McCarty Children
Thanks for information. Guess I might be calling Boston, Mass. again and hopefully speaking with someone different this time.
Regards, Debbie
Added by DAP&DAW on Jun 01, 2015 8:23 PM
Jones/McCarty Children.
What sources were you able to find confirming
Althea Antoinette Jones (1875 - 1875),Charles Augustus Jones (1876 - 1880), Albert Selden Jones (1879 - 1880) are all buried in Cambridge Cemetery
in Boston, Mass. I believe they are in Mass., but not in Cambridge Cemetery as the office has no record of them when I called several months ago. Perhaps they overlooked them?
Thanks for any information you can provide.
Debbie Perkins
Added by DAP&DAW on Jun 01, 2015 4:02 AM
RE: Was it Verenus Hiram Ryder in Forest Hills Cemetery and Crematory?
I have been holding off linking Helena with her father until I could find the final resting place of her mother. Now she is linked to her half brother as her brother.
There were two marriages and children with both wives.
I had the information on Helena's burial. I held off making the link until it could all be put together accurately.
Added by TOY on May 29, 2015 8:09 PM
Gail Kelly
RE: Randalls in Southside Cemetery
No problem. Glad they are being taken care of :)
Added by Gail Kelly on May 29, 2015 4:49 PM
Russ Pickett
PFC Ivan W Caler
Hi Tim & Grace, Thank you very much for the update and the photo. I appreciate it very much. :-)

( He is also noted on the below webpage with a link to his grave )

Thanks My Friend,
Russ Pickett Find A Grave # 46575736
( Army Veteran - Sergeant )
Added by Russ Pickett on May 27, 2015 2:42 AM
Genealogist Searching New Hampshire
Thank you!
Thank you so much for the photos of Edwin Doten's headstone. I really appreciate all your work for others. Please keep it up!
Added by Genealogist Searching New... on May 17, 2015 10:15 PM
Kelly Ann Dowd Reilly
Thank you Thank you Thank you
Tim & Grace. Thank you so much for taking this photo of my 2nd great grandfathers Grave. I can not tell you how much I appreciate it.
Kelly Reilly
Added by Kelly Ann Dowd Reilly on May 15, 2015 2:50 PM
Farrar and related families
Sorry to ask.
Other person who was anaging memorial for Celia Whitehouse Farrar transferred memorial to me without the edit I had sent, containing their marriage info. Celia Whitehouse Farrar and Joseph S. Farrar. Could you send me that info as an edit suggestion to Celia's memorial, please? Greatly appreciated. (I cannot find that marriage record in other source, I am looking presently.)
Added by Farrar and related famili... on May 14, 2015 10:44 AM
Annabelle ONeill
Donahue family
Sorry - forgot to tell you the cemetery - Flagstaff Cemetery in Eustis, Maine. -Annabelle
Added by Annabelle ONeill on May 10, 2015 11:29 AM
Annabelle ONeill
Donahue Family
I see you have added a picture of a monument at Flagstaff cemetery. I have memorials for Edward Donahue &his wife, Helen Churchill and would like to request photos of their headstones. Do these people have separate gravestones, or is the picture you entered the only stone for those who were transferred? - Annabelle
Added by Annabelle ONeill on May 10, 2015 11:28 AM
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