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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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Linda Lane
Gerard and Therese Lepage photo requests
I'd be glad to take these photos for you; however, this cemetery has thousands of interrments and will not look them up for me. If you are a loved one perhaps you could call them at (386) 775-4260 and get a location. Otherwise, I will walk around over there when time permits but cannot make any guarantees.

Linda Lane
Added by Linda Lane on Feb 27, 2015 7:50 AM
Stanley Edward Hakala #48438480
Stanley Edward Hakala was my wife's uncle. He was born 24 November 1922 (SSDI) and passed away in South Paris, Oxford, Maine on 25 July 1984. Would you be able to update his record? I may have more information as time goes on; still looking for an obituary.
Added by ccdesan on Feb 06, 2015 9:26 PM
Rick Rollins
An obituary
Do you remember what your source was for the John W. Crockett obituary you have on his memorial page?
Added by Rick Rollins on Jan 30, 2015 11:21 AM
Stan Arnold
Thanks so much for the transfer of Susanna (Fisher) Bailey. Would you like the memorial back when I'm done editing?--Stan
Added by Stan Arnold on Jan 25, 2015 10:43 AM
Linda Hiross
RE: Perley Benjamin Faunce in Buckfield Village Cemetery
I couldn't find William Berry's death record either. For Agnes, I have m. 1)Lazarre Victor 26 Aug 1905 in Lewiston (ME/MR), and 3) Louis Champagne in Lewiston 7 June 1926 (ME/MR). Agnes' father's name was Ignace b. 1877 Quebec, not "Agnes" as on her 2nd marr record. Her mother was Anastasia Rivard, both living Rumford, ME in 1930-40. This was obviously a big French Canadian population where surnames Victor and Girardin were not uncommon. I believe Agnes is buried as "Agnes Champagne". That's all I've got so hope it helps save u some time! Linda
Added by Linda Hiross on Jan 16, 2015 2:04 PM
Marcia Shears
RE: Betsey Orson Bessey Farrar
Sounds good. I am related to the family (distantly)so I was not aware of the Besse/Bessey name spelling issue. I have several other families in my tree that had spelling changes, even among siblings or cousins. I guess before social security etc., it just wasn't that important.
Added by Marcia Shears on Jan 07, 2015 11:32 AM
Mardrey Swenson
Addison Parker Tirrell
I just re-checked it and have thisnformation on his death certificate so it would actually be 1836, not 1837.

Addison P. Tirrell
28 Dec 1836 in Auburn, Androscoggin, Maine, United States
21 Oct 1904 in South Paris, Oxford, Maine, USA
Added by Mardrey Swenson on Jan 06, 2015 10:45 PM
Mardrey Swenson
Addison Parker Tirrell
Sorry!! It's after midnight and I reversed his dates. He died in 1904 so it looks like he would have been born in 1937.

Mardrey Swenson
Added by Mardrey Swenson on Jan 06, 2015 10:41 PM
Mardrey Swenson
Addison Parker Tirrell
I'm wondering if there was a transcription error for this man who is the Great-grandfather of my cousin's husband, Edward Tirrell Gerry.

His death certificate says he lived 67 years, 9 months and 23 days. He was born in 1904 so he would have died in 1837, not 1873.

Thanks for all the work you've done!!! My father is a native of Maine and I'm very interested in Maine families.

Mardrey Fish Swenson
Added by Mardrey Swenson on Jan 06, 2015 10:33 PM
Gary Bonney
RE: Thomas Bonney, Jr. in Sumnerfield Cemetery AKA: Chaffin Yard
Hi Tim:
Thanks. I knew you would have the info
Added by Gary Bonney on Dec 17, 2014 6:05 PM
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