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Kris Gilbert (#46623374)
 member for 10 years, 9 months, 24 days
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Bio Photo An open letter to people who harass me about not adding obits:

Find A Grave specifically states "Do not copy obituary notices from newspapers (or from funeral home notices or web sites) to an individual's memorial record unless you have permission from the newspaper to do so or you are the author of the obituary."

I understand the desire to help someone fill in their family tree, but this is not the place. This is Find A Grave. It's about finding a person's grave. I stopped adding obits when families started contacting me with concerns about insensitivity. I recently started up again by adding only facts and newspaper or funeral home information.

Just this week my cousin's grandfather died. His obituary was copied and pasted from the funeral home into his Find A Grave memorial. His grandchildren spent weeks at his bedside while he was dying and carefully created his obituary for publication in the newspaper for his family and friends. Now their names and home cities as well as their minor children's names are placed on this site without a second thought given to their grief and loss or impropriety. You seem to have completely forgotten about the people you claim to be so eager to help!

Another note from the site rules: "Please do not include the names of living or surviving relatives in the biography, unless you have their permission." I asked my cousin. No one got her permission to put her children's names on this site.

But, who cares? It's all about the numbers, right? Or, who got here first. Or, it's in the newspaper online, so what? I've heard them all. It doesn't make it right.

I've had churches call me and ask what people are thinking. I don't know what to tell them.

In the 10 years I've been doing this, I've only had one person ask to add their names back in to the surviving relatives.

If you don't like the rules, petition to have them changed or go build your own site. It's as simple as that. Here is a site with good information on obituary copyright to get you started: The Legal Genealogist
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Harriet Margaret Mayhew Nichols Bogue
Added photo of Harriet with daughter Mary Clarissa
Added by Derwin on Mar 17, 2015 6:32 PM
Kerry Rae Smith Moser
RE: Joseph Lockhart
it used to pop up a message box saying you can't link people to themselves..
Added by Kerry Rae Smith Moser on Mar 08, 2015 12:42 PM
Kerry Rae Smith Moser
RE: Joseph Lockhart
Oh,, sorry, put the wrong # in the box.. will re-do it..
Added by Kerry Rae Smith Moser on Mar 07, 2015 4:26 PM
Elsie Harmon
RE: Goldie and Amber Warner
I thought you were referring to a picture of Goldie, Amber, Annie and Charles Warner that I have. Maybe other people have it but it was taken at their farm when we visited them. Goldie and Amber took care of the whole farm, milked the cows in a bucket, then carried to the big metal container to be picked up by a driver for the milk place in Dixon. They cooked and cleaned the house. I don't think Charlie was in good health and Annie was just a tiny little thing. Their one brother had passed away so it was left to the girls to do the work. I felt sorry for them.
They had an old organ in the house which Amber or Goldie played for us. I tried it and enjoyed it too.
A wonderful family and great memories there.
Added by Elsie Harmon on Mar 02, 2015 2:02 PM
Elsie Harmon
RE: Goldie and Amber Warner
Yes they were sisters. Is the picture one with their parents?
Added by Elsie Harmon on Mar 01, 2015 9:09 PM
Randy Sue McKeever
If you are a HOFFHINE descendent Kris Gilbert there will be the 100th Hoffhine and Cassill reunion in Wellston, Ohio. Drop me an email at The David Hoffhine family migrated westward and have desendents all the way to Idaho. We would love to have you join us and share your heritage. Sincerely yours,
Randy Sue Page McKeever
Added by Randy Sue McKeever on Feb 25, 2015 1:50 PM
Elsie Harmon
RE: Goldie and Amber Warner
Yes, they were sisters, dtr's of Charles Justus Warner and Annie Mary Miller which I just added yesterday. After their parents died they worked at the Colonial Inn in Grand Detour. I also added their brother Walter Dewitt Warner 1916-1931. Charles and Annie had 5 other children who died young.
Thank you.
Added by Elsie Harmon on Feb 24, 2015 12:31 PM
Elsie Harmon
Goldie and Amber Warner
Hi, There is a cemetery marker in Grand Detour cemetery for Goldie and Amber Warner but I could not find it on FindaGrave. Do you have any ideas?
Thank you.
Added by Elsie Harmon on Feb 23, 2015 10:58 PM
Base Kuhn
Hi Kris
thanks bud for Henry Kuhn and his wife transfers,
Added by Base Kuhn on Feb 14, 2015 9:28 AM
Sheila White Hughes
RE: Arthur, Anna & Hilda Flowers
Your secret is safe with me. Good luck with your edits. :) -- Sheila
Added by Sheila White Hughes on Feb 05, 2015 6:44 PM
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