|James Bellert (#48157908)|
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I was born at St. Vincent's Orphanage in Chicago. I spent most of my adult years and much money and time trying to find my biological mother. Finally, in 1996, Catholic Charities SOLD me a redacted biography of my birth mother. I had also obtained a copy of the Decree of Adoption in which her name was listed. I was able to use her name and the redacted bio to focus my search and finally locate her and her other children, both legitimate and illegitimate. When I made that discovery I was in the town in which my grandparents raised my mother and other kids and the town in which my biological grandparents were buried. It was the microfiche of the obituaries which led me to the discovery of my birthmother and her family.|
Unless you are an adoptee, I don't think you can fully understand the feeling of connection and authentication as a member of the human race I had when I visited the cemetery in that town and saw the graves of my grandparents to whom I was actually biologically related. I went on to do a lot of genealogy research, now made so much easier by websites like Find A Grave and Ancestry.com. I traced my mother's side back to England, Scotland and Northern Ireland, in some cases back to the 1000's!
All that knowledge obtained because I found the graves of my grandparents! If I can help another person find that feeling of connection and authentication by posting a photograph of a marker or creating a memorial on Find A Grave to go with it, I couldn't be happier.
All is not warm and fuzzy, though. Not in my case. But mine is unusual as over 92% of all birthmothers welcome a reunion with the child they "adopted out." Illinois enacted a law in recent years allowing adult adoptees to obtain copies of their original birth certificates (but not their adoption records). I had always wanted a copy of my original birth certificate because I somehow felt it would give me authenticity as a human being. Maybe that sounds ridiculous, but it's a feeling shared by many adoptees. We weren't born, we were adopted! Well, virtually ALL of the entries about my birthmother on that certificate were falsified by Catholic Charities! Her married name was shown where it required her maiden name, her marital status was false, the number of previous births was wrong, and the address given as her place of usual residence was the address of the ORPHANAGE! The father's name is "Legally Omitted." That was legal lingo for "Bastard."
Learning about my genetic physical and mental health was only one of the reasons I needed to search for my birth families. It was less a reason for searching and more of an excuse to give to non-adoptees for why I wanted to search. At least non-adoptees might understand the need to know your medical history as a reason to search.
And the discoveries you make about health issues, both mental and physical, are not always what you hope to hear. My biological mother's family is rampant with diabetes and alcoholism, two afflictions I am fortunate enough not to suffer. And I discovered that mental traits may very well be genetic. Many of my biological relatives are reclusive to an extreme. And, that is one of my traits, I do admit.
I would do all the searching again, though. The greatest experience was seeing actual living people, and photographs of people, that I actually LOOK LIKE!!!
By the miracle of DNA studies, I found a genetic link to my biological father (on 23andMe.com). I was linked to a man who is my predicted second cousin. This second cousin gave me enough biographical information to enable me to determine the man who was VERY probably my biological father! Without going into all the details, I am about 99% sure that this man is my father! I've explained all the reasoning to my wife (an extremely brilliant woman) who agrees that he is in all likelihood my father. Unfortunately, he died in 1977 and left no other children. Also, I'm not sure how I can verify with 100% certainty that he is my father. The second cousin has clammed up. If I had just a little bit more information from him, I could be absolutely certain.
My father died at age 58 of a heart attack. He had two brothers who also died in their 50's. My grandfather died in his 70's of heart disease. It seems heart disease may be an inherited malady. I've already outlived my father and uncles. It sure would be helpful to know for sure, wouldn't it?
My quest for my heritage has been rekindled! Any suggestions are welcome!
PLEASE NOTE: In the spirit of being helpful, I had been posting obituaries to the memorial I created, and people often suggest I add an obituary to a memorial. But, I discovered a response by Find A Grave in their "Help With Find a Grave" section that obituaries may NOT be copied from websites or newspapers and posted to memorial unless you get written permission from the source to do so. I admit the wording to that response is a bit ambiguous, so I emailed Find A Grave to ask them if they can rewrite the response so it is more clear (they're considering it), and also to verify that I was interpreting the response correctly. Find A Grave replied that we may NOT copy and paste an obituary into a memorial unless we have WRITTEN permission from the souce. The written permission need not be posted but should be kept in case a problem ever arises. If you DO get written permission, then the rules in the FAQ response should be followed. So, this is why I will not post obituaries to memorials unless you have written permission from the source.
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|Jay Wade||Rollin & Marie Peterson|
Would like permission to use tombstone photo. If allowed how would you like photo credit given? My usual line is: photo credit belongs to and used with permission of Find A Grave member, then your name.
Added by Jay Wade on Aug 20, 2016 9:44 AM
|James Odland||RE: Carol Meyer|
|Louise Taraba||James Taraba, Jr|
Thank you for your efforts to try to locate a stone for my cousin. Even tho one could not be located, I certainly appreciate your walking the cemetery.
|Mayflower Pilgrim 332||SSGT Ronald Lester Traub|
Thanks so much for the beautiful photos on the above memorial as well as your edit with the plot location. I appreciate you time in visiting and photographing Ron's gravesite. Also, thank you for the writeup on your life experience with adoption & finding your biological parents. Richard
Thank you very much for the photo. I appreciate your contributions to Find A Grave.
|Christopher Ware||photo requests in Westlawn Cemetery|
Thank you for the photos!
Thank you for your input, I do understand.
I am contacting her to see if she might reconsider and try to straighten this out..Have a Happy and Safe 4th.
Added by MLR on Jul 04, 2016 11:04 AM
Carolina Wilhelmine Henriette Klemz Prehm...
Please remove "Wilhelmine Henriette Klemz" from Carolina's name. Leaving "Carolina Prehm"
Reason: There is a family from Sauk Co, Wis. that think that their Caroline Manthey is this Caroline Prehm. They can not find a death for their H W Manthi/Manthey or his wife Caroline after the 1880 Census and think that their Caroline then married H Prehm. This (145961254) Carolina Prehm married Heinrich Ludwig Prehm 9-14-1873 in Palatine, IL and appears on the 1880 Census in Palatine, IL with her husband Henry Prehm and her daughter Emily from a previous marriage and Henry's children, Otto, Herman, Dora and William Prehm. The Wis Caroline appears on the 1880 Census for Westfield, Sauk Co, Wis along with her husband H.W. and children William and Amelia. I am trying to contact the family tree members with this error to reconsider their information out there on Ancestry.
I thank you for all your hard work and helping all us researchers out here that rely on others for their contributions to Find A Grave.
Added by MLR on Jul 04, 2016 9:20 AM
|Kathy||RE: Henry R. Groves at Windridge|
Thanks for adding the photo of the whole mosaic. It makes a great addition to the memorials and to the whole mausoleum. It is really nice. Add any photos you like to my memorials. In fact a guy asked me about Crystal Lake Mem. and I told him I photographed the whole thing in 2012, but I haven't been back since. If you live closer, feel free to go take photos of those that died 2012 or later. I'm 25 mi. away. It took me 5 days last time. Kathy
Added by Kathy on Jul 04, 2016 8:11 AM
Added by Tanya on Jun 30, 2016 5:33 PM
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