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CryptoGrammy (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The above is thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

While Google-ing along roads we biked over 50 years ago, I've noticed some homes, buildings, and even streets in my elementary school neighborhood missing while others are basically unchanged...made me think I should keep add/linking together those families I grew up with...sure wish my home-town newspaper archives were online so I could find the details of a murder that involved the Green Wing Grocery!

Obviously FindAGrave is like any other pyramid-type as the membership increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

The picture "request" function started around mid-2007, and pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed; at first there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Fodder is running lower, but there are still helpful and personally-rewarding "angel" tasks to be done...2015 is bringing FaG-ers the ability to upload pic from onsite, and then others to help with the transcriptions.

ANY information on privately-owned and defunct burial places is still ALWAYS appreciated by those seeking the trails of their ancestors...are they still there lying unmarked and disrespected? Were they moved elsewhere? Are they near other family and/or friends? I was gladly able to do this for the cemetery nearest to me in kidhood that I never knew about way back then ~ when I held my breath in passing cemeteries ~ as it was already defunct...altho' one of my brothers once found a toppled headstone while bike-riding (him, not the headstone) dirt roads there.

Those who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I myself have encountered snakes and Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter. Which reminds me I did visit one cemetery that had a houseless person living in it...not home, but I didn't want to bother his belongings.

You many kind, prolific contributors might try adding people from their death records found online...including from where you got the data and that they probably have no marker so the living don't get false hope for a picture.

Other Less-Important Stuff:

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes the memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one laughable rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post DUPLICATE wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose &/or put burials/cremations willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require rules for the rest of us in the neighborhood barrel while supplying some inappropriate comedy to those who see through them ~ :).

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

I found including biographies & obits helpful, but they are against site rules unless I/you own the copyrights so do not ask me to add any to memorials unless you can include ownership assurance.

My Reasons for Being on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My biggest peeve in research was seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly referred to as "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities* up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of finding and posting ladies' maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

*Since transcribing others' photos on FindAGrave, gotta note it's been delightful to see cemeteries in Canada that almost ALWAYS include ladies' maiden names on tombstones.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!🍹

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(Bobby Goldsboro, 1960s)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Dave Lehman
Louise Merial Rutz (#5607431)
Thank you so much for your time and effort in obtaining and sharing the grave photo for Louise. Words cannot fully express the gratitude felt for your efforts. Thank you for all you do!
Added by Dave Lehman on Jul 28, 2015 11:42 AM
Dee Steele
Thank you so much for the picture of her stone.
Added by KChaffeeB on Jul 27, 2015 5:56 AM
RE: Martha Bennett
Added by LINDA JOYCE OLDENBORG-SMI... on Jul 25, 2015 4:48 PM
Martha Meyers
Ethel and Fred Willard
Thank you so much!
Added by Martha Meyers on Jul 25, 2015 3:33 PM
Marilyn Washburn Boyles
Carrie Bennett Headstone photo
Thank you so much for your time in obtaining and uploading the headstone photo for Carrie Bennett. Your generosity is appreciated. Marilyn
Added by Marilyn Washburn Boyles on Jul 25, 2015 8:54 AM
Irene Dowling
Thanks very much for getting these photos for me. I really appreciate it.
Added by Irene Dowling on Jul 25, 2015 7:23 AM
Brenda Sunday
Thanks so much for taking the time to get these photos for me! I really appreciate it!
Added by Brenda Sunday on Jul 25, 2015 7:17 AM
Tammy Ezakovich
McLouth photo
Thank you soooooooooooo much for the photo. I have been trying to find the dod for years and was hoping it was on the headstone. Best Regards,
Added by Tammy Ezakovich on Jul 25, 2015 6:25 AM
Robert Chaffee
Thank you so much for the picture of his headstone
Added by KChaffeeB on Jul 25, 2015 5:20 AM
Eva Pippin Flowers
Earl A Evans
Thank you for taking the time and effort to get a photo of the memorial for Earl A Evans and place it on his site! You do nice work! May you be blessed for blessing others!
Added by Eva Pippin Flowers on Jul 24, 2015 8:41 PM
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