|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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Barb Destromp, Brent Benson, Carol Page Tils..., Clint Dunn, George Falk, J.K.Erickson, Jen Snoots, John Arsenault, Laura Stevers/ ..., Marilyn Solari, Michael Buye, Rebecca Bromley..., Steven Smith
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|MJ_MW||RE: One last thing|
Yes that's where I found them as well as the marriage record, thanks! Sad to say they don't list the burial locations.
Added by MJ_MW on May 23, 2016 5:29 PM
|MJ_MW||RE: One last thing|
Hi Janet, yes I meant Wells Vermont, I make that confusion often.
Good thought on what to do with her memorial, I wasn't sure what the best solution was. She is probably buried with her first husband but still not recoreded.
It seems her second marriage and death date had slipped through the cracks as it's not mentioned on any trees online that I've reviewed.
I'll let you know if I locate the Perry's and thanks!
Added by MJ_MW on May 23, 2016 4:42 PM
Betsey Reynolds Howe married Jabez Downer Perry Jr on 02 Sept 1882 in Wells Maine.
I haven't found a burial location for her so one could assume she is buried next to her first husband but, on her death, she was Betsey Perry.
I haven't located Jabez's burial location yet either.
Added by MJ_MW on May 23, 2016 12:15 PM
|Darlene Sreca Nodecker||Photo permission|
May I use your headstone photo of
Hezekiah Clift. Thank you.
|Sue Stahr||RE: Lauretta (Prouty) Dickinson|
Janet, the info on Lauretta L. Prouty Dickinson came from the 1850 US census for Kalamazoo and from ancestry.com - a book titled North America, Family Histories, 1500-2000. Specifically Ransom family, beginning page 185.
|Scott Sprague||Ralph W. Ketchum|
I received your email and wanted to thank you for your diligence. I rarely receive a request for additional information. It doesn't bother me to provide it. I am glad that you received it and that the requested name change was accepted. I was very confidant in requesting the name change before requesting it.
|Scott Sprague||Ralph W Ketchum|
I sent the information you requested using the suggestion feature on his memorial. Thank you very much for taking another look.
|Susan Seacord Jackson||RE: Mary (Johnson) Lincoln|
I edited it and put the death date in as a birth date. I fixed the edit. I do not have information on the birth date.
|Don Blauvelt||RE: Philena (Ranney) Norton|
You sent auto corrections for Philena. Did you also request a transfer?
|Don Blauvelt||Philena (Ranney) Norton|
Thanks for finding her in Michigan
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