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TomKat (#46805778)
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Bio Photo FindAGrave, as I understand it, is a graves registration database. That means that memorials listed as 'Burial Unknown' should not be on the site longer than 30 days past D.O.D. The site isn't called 'Find the Name of a Deceased Person.' It seems that some are confused about these things. If you are one of those, see the FAQ's.

If I have made a demonstrable error of fact on any of my postings, please let me know in order that I may correct it. As many of the stones are old, worn, and weathered, I have done my best to interpret the information thereon. If I'm not reasonably sure of the information, I won't post it.

With very few exceptions, all my interment data comes from photographs of the individual's gravestone done by me in the field.

If you see an image you would like a copy of, let me know and I'll be happy to provide one. There is but one proviso however. Any image provided must be for your personal use only and is not to be uploaded to another web site.

On the subject of 'Relationship Links' and 'S.A.C.'s', please read the following carefully. And use the correct procedure!!! I will be happy to make links and corrections.

Please double check your suggestions for accuracy before submitting them. Hopefully you will have a reasonably reliable source for the information, AND HAVE PROVIDED IT!!! BTW, most web sites are not sources. For the most part, they contain information somebody uploaded. The source is where the information came from. For example, if someone on a web site claims to quote from the New York Times, the NYT is the source (along with date of publication, edition, page number, etc.), NOT THE WEB PAGE. If it helps, try thinking of this as if you were writing a term paper. (Does either 'MLA' or 'CMS' sound familiar???)

I have been deluged recently with suggestions and requests to make relationship links which simply cannot be possible. When you ask me to link a child to parents who would have been 3 years old at the time of the child's birth, something's very wrong somewhere. Of course, if you wish, I can easily post anything you submit and attach your name to the erroneous information. There is enough bad data on the internet as it is and I really don't want to be adding to the problem. But if you insist... Please keep in mind, just because it's on the internet doesn't make it true.))) Since FindAGrave rules prohibit the use of external links (they can go dead or change over time), I won't create them.

I have 'isolated' the bulk of the 2 preceding paragraphs with ((())) because the current 'Edit' system no longer provides for the submission of documentation and has thus made them irrelevant. It seems that now the addition of any data is more important than the addition of accurate data which has been properly sourced. Previously, when someone submitted an edit, it was via a message which provided a text format for submission of documentation which I could then 'copy and paste' to add the data, along with the documentation, and the name of the member who submitted the information. As it stands now, I would have to message everyone who submits a change with a request for a source and wait for a reply. That reply might never come and the data would automatically be added after 21 days anyway. I.M.O.

Please do not ask for transfers solely for the purpose of adding biographies and making links. If you submit information from a reliable source, a source you have provided, I will add it. Keep in mind you can always create a virtual cemetery.
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Rebecca Herman
RE: David Hafer
You are mistaken - is not against Findagrave guidelines to transfer a memorial if it is a reasonable request.

I don't understand why you won't transfer my great-great grandfather's memorial to me. It may not be required, but it would make more sense than you holding on to it, since you are not related to him at all.
Added by Rebecca Herman on Jul 19, 2014 5:29 PM
Jennifer Peterson
Me again
Looking back - This Cemetary is all one location in New Haven. But there are different sections within the Cemetary. Beth Israel Orchard St. Shul is one of the sections. It looks like there are other "Cemetaries or Sections" set up for this same location. I am going to add the Map location and call it a night.

Sorry to bug you!
Added by Jennifer Peterson on Jul 18, 2014 8:02 PM
Jennifer Peterson
Beth Israel/Orchard St.. Shul
Hi! I came accross 4 memorials you created in "Beth Israel/Orchard St.. Shul" in New Haven.
Memorials are:
Please shift them over to Beth Israel Cemetery in New Haven/New Haven County/Connecticut. Then the Beth Israel/Orchard St.. Shul Cemetery to be deleted.

Added by Jennifer Peterson on Jul 18, 2014 7:33 PM
Middle Name Added
What evidence supports the middle name "Harvey" recently added to James H Young memorial at ? Thanks in advance.
Added by Sherri on Jun 28, 2014 5:26 PM
Mary Ann Bumgarner
RE: Valentine Hollingsworth
Well its a good thing that you are old and angry. Perhaps I'll be visiting your memorial website soon.
Added by Mary Ann Bumgarner on May 16, 2014 9:35 AM
13811871 & 13811873
I wanted to thank you so much for photographing Stephen & Agnes Pangborn's stone and for sharing your information with us. I know how much hard work goes into family tree research.

I noticed a discrepancy in dates and added the following note to these Find a Grave pages: & .

The linked child, Margaret Pangborn Church (1778 1860) Find A Grave Memorial# 37998855, can't be the child of Stephen and Agnes Pangborn.

Stephen Pangborn (____ - 1882) - Find A Grave Memorial# 13811871

Agnes Pegg Pangborn (1821 - 1907) - Find A Grave Memorial# 13811873

Per Stephen's stone, he was born July 28, 1808, and Agnes was born in 1821. They could not have given birth to a daughter, Margaret, in 1778.
Added by Dirgni on May 07, 2014 3:58 PM
Rebecca Herman
RE: David Hafer
Just curious to know why you refuse to transfer the memorial for my father's great-grandfather to my care. Are you related?
Added by Rebecca Herman on May 02, 2014 7:48 PM
Mary Ann Bumgarner
RE: Valentine Hollingsworth
I'm asking....
Added by Mary Ann Bumgarner on Apr 23, 2014 5:43 PM
Rebecca Herman
David Hafer
Your Message follows:
"If you would like to have a memorial moved to another cemetery, please submit the request in the appropriate manner, along with a link to the cemetery to which you wish the memorial moved, and reliable documentation, such as an obituary, which indicates the 'correct' cemetery.
As to the transfer of management of the memorial, that would be outside of F.A.G. guidelines."

Dear sir,

I don't believe it's outside of guidelines for you to transfer my relative's memorial to me.

Also, I am unfamiliar with the "appropriate" manner you refer to for correcting your error in the location of his grave. Can you be more specific, please?

Thank you for your consideration.

Added by Rebecca Herman on Mar 22, 2014 7:21 PM
John Brake
Photo of John Grandin

I'm writing to let you know that the photo you have posted of John Grandin (1792 - 1884) is actually that of his son, John F. Grandin, MD.

John Grandin (1792 - 1884) was a farmer. It's his son that was the doctor. (note, actually the father of John Grandin, John Forman Grandin (1760 - 1811) was also a doctor.

Kind regards,

John Brake
Added by John Brake on Mar 22, 2014 4:11 PM
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