|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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|SG||White Family Photos|
Thank you Janet for taking these great photos in such a timely manner. I also want to thank you for all the work you have done for Find A Grave! Keep up the good work!
Added by SG on Oct 20, 2014 11:56 AM
|David Southwick||Spouce for Josiah Southwick|
Hi Janet, Thank you for your work photographing the markers and entering the family information. A question though. How did you link Josiah with Rachael Brown? I have him married to Mary Baker. Of course my information could be wrong. Just courious. Thank you for making me aware of the guidelines for the photos, my first day on the site and already stepping on peoples toes. I am a descendant of Lawrence and Cassandra Southwick through their son John, same line as Josiah.
David E. Southwick
|Bushnell||RE: Doty Cemetery - Holden Burials|
Thanks for the pics. They enabled me to enter the headstone inscriptions except for Jonas Holden since his Rev War marker blocks it.
Added by Bushnell on Oct 14, 2014 7:05 PM
|Sheila Cooper||RE: Jennie (Warren) Glynn|
You're very welcome. If you would like the Glynn family transferred to you, just request. On William Glynn memorial, I used the dates from the City of Saginaw online cemetery listings. I do believe they were transcribed incorrectly. I checked the Saginaw obituary index and it had the dates you gave me. I have changed William's dates accordingly.
|Rebecca Bromley-Guenther||Elisha Bull|
Thanks for the Elisha Bull photo! Best, Becky
|Brent Benson||RE: Martin photos|
Yes They Do I Sent You A Email With A Question
|Brent Benson||Martin Pictures|
I Just Added A Picture For Ernest Lester Martin, Wilbert Ellison Martin, And A Picture OF Wilbert Martin Children On There Profiles
|Rebecca Bromley-Guenther||Barbara Nichols|
Thanks for your note re Barbara Nichols. I will send some info by email to show you what I discovered. I'm so glad someone is interested!
In the meantime, please know that I've learned that Nancy Stafford Bull was first married to Stephen Nichols. Barbara was their daughter. She never married and was living with her step-siblings Joseph and Anna Bull in the 1850 census.
|Alan Lathrop||RE: Those Baslows|
He was born 1942 so I hope he has a lot of milage left. I can't find where I saw him comment not long ago. I don't see a Baslow room so think I have lost him. I do remember him saying that he now lives in Florida but that's not much help
The bad news is I am almost finished with my second recheck of Mount Rest and although I have carefully inspected every nubbin, I have not located Rod's stone. The good news is I now have a contact for the lady who has all of the cemetery records, including plot maps. Once I finish checking the last section, I plan to contact her to look up the long list of orphan graves, including Rod. I should be able to locate where it should be and confirm the burial at the very least. Will keep you posted. I haven't given up yet!
Added by bcfrench on Oct 02, 2014 9:38 AM
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