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Once a Leonard (#47782914)
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Bio Photo After years of family research I finally found Find A Grave! It has helped me so much in answering where many of my loved ones were buried.

And my experience with most other members has been great. Everyone has been more than helpfull. I appreciate all the hard work that many have done in order to help others find loved ones.

So, Thank you Find A Grave and all the participants for all you do!


I used to think that "duplicate memorials" were my pet peeve. They are confusing, tedious, obnoxious bits of information that only serve those who key them. However, they have now been demoted to my second favorite faux pas.

Out with the old and in with the new (unfortunately). Drumroll.......................


Really people? Um, Isn't this site called "FIND A GRAVE"? As a genealogy buff, I am constantly searching for missing information, more commonly known as "Brick Walls". I was overjoyed when searching for info on an ancestor who's burial site had been eluding me for years. Suddenly, there they were on Find a Grave! Oh Joy!

NOT. When actually arriving at the memorial page my hopes were unceremoniously daunted. The name was correct, along with the date of birth & death dates. Even a couple relatives were added correctly. But the location of the grave was "Burial Unknown".

I would like to think that most Find A Grave members understand the purpose of this site and would never mislead a researcher in this way. Letters have been sent in the hopes that this will soon be corrected. Until then, I will be trying to avoid these erroneous records and request deletion when they are unavailable.

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All is taken care of. My bad typing must have caused the problem.

I also have a pet peeve on duplicates. Folks who enter "grave unknown" have caused a real problem for me. I even found the cemetery for one and the person will not make the addition.

Mike Rewey
Added by Michael Rewey on Dec 12, 2014 7:11 AM
RE: Theda Finlay
Welcome :)
Added by lovinlife on Nov 17, 2014 7:58 PM
M Grace Leonard
I've asked the person who added the photo to move it to the original--I will then delete the duplicate.
Added by RobMinteer57 on Oct 19, 2014 9:43 AM
Gerry Jean
RE: Ballardo Photos
Nice folks like you keep me doing this!
Added by Gerry Jean on Oct 16, 2014 4:49 PM
Gerry Jean
RE: Ballardo photo
Mary ... glad to help!
Added by Gerry Jean on Sep 30, 2014 8:05 AM
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Sherry Ann Aylesworth (63780739)
Thank you for providing the link to little Sherry's mother and furnishing her birth & death county. We have updated her memorial.

Joe & Vikki
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Added by 2 Spiritwalkers on Sep 14, 2014 11:49 PM
Cheryl Jensen
RE: Patrick Lynch 112160523
Hello Mary,
You are quite welcome.
My cousin has been quite curious over the years about Patrick, not knowing too much about him & his family. Do you have any info you can share with me so I can send it along to her and "make her day"? Any little 'gem' you could share would be wonderful for her.
Take care…Cheryl
Added by Cheryl Jensen on Aug 24, 2014 10:37 AM
Cheryl Jensen
RE: Patrick Lynch 112160523
My cousin's family is Lynch. Patrick being her great uncle. She did not have the information, but I found it either on or Her grandfather, William Thomas, great aunt, Ellen were also born in Australia before coming to the U.S. Washington State to be exact. They immigrated from Ireland to Australia during Australia's gold rush, I suspect. They then immigrated to the U.S. in 1880.
Patrick finally settled in California while the rest of his siblings and mother/father stayed in Washington State. Unfortunately, both of his sisters, Mary Ann Catherine and Ellen died in Washington, Clark County, in 1883 during the diphtheria epidemic of 1883.
this is the information I got:

Australia Birth Index, 1788-1922 about Patrick Lynch
Patrick Lynch
Father's Name:
Milliam Brassel Lynch (should be William-cj)
Mother's name:
Honora Nash
Birth Place:
Jamieson, Victoria
Registration Year:
Registration Place:
Registration Number:

Source Information: Australia Birth Index, 1788-1922 [database on-line]. Provo, UT, USA: Operations, Inc., 2010.
Added by Cheryl Jensen on Aug 21, 2014 8:18 PM
James Coston
Doyle Coston
This may be a duplicate message. I tried to send an email on AOL and my computer crased, so I don't know if it went thru or not. When I went back to check mail, it told me "not available".
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Good early morning Once A Leonard,
And I thought I was the only one who gets up in the wee hours to do findagrave stuff.
Nice to hear from ya, and by the way, that is a catchy name.
My Hotmail account was giving me trouble so I had to shift to AOL.
Anyway, thanks for contacting me.
Yes, His christian name was Cecil. I interviewed him several years before he passed and I asked him about that. He told me that he changed it on his own. He said that he wanted to keep "Doyle" in the family and not break tradition and that he never "officially" changed it since all the people there knew the Coston past, they just accepted it and went on with their business. That would be easy to do back then but since 911, it wouldn't work since all the T's have to be crossed and the I's dotted.
As to the birth certificate, ABSOLUTELY, YES, I would love to have that in my collection.
I've been to Matagorda Co. 4x doing research, nice area.
As a side note, his grandfather, Doyle from the Civil War era (my grandfather, James' brother) became a musician after the war, hand crafted several musical instruments there in Matagorda Co. and there is one in the museum. The Coston line had a very good reputation in that area.
If U wish to make the name correction, feel free to do so since it is legit. If ya would though, try to make a notation somewhere that he changed it on his own to keep it in the family rather than go thru the legal process, good family story and all. If there is no provision for that type of notation, I'll take care of it.
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I have been to North Carolina 3x doing genealogy research. The Coston, Bannerman, Newkirk and Leonard names are intertwined all over the area and show up in Leon, Anderson & of course Matagorda Counties..
On the trip to Texas, my great great grandparents H.T. & Tabitha had a son, S.B., die along the way. Since the Leonards were friends, they buried him in the Leonard Cemetery in Sampson Co. N.C. `I went there about 20 years ago and had it not been for the goodness of a Leonard who was killing snakes (long but interesting story) an the old Leonard Homestead, I never would have been able to locate and photograph the area.
That area of N.C. was hog country back then, commercial type, and was off limits to people due to our ability to pass disease along to hogs. I told him my story and he took me to the site. The cemetery itself was nicely kept behind a hurricane wire type fence.
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Oh yea, the name O'Hanlon has nothing to do with the Coston line. When I went to the court house in New Hanover Co. N.C. to check the records, I found the tax records and census. As was the custom back then, sometimes people named their children after friends.
The name O'Hanlon appeared next to H.T. Coston in order, so obviously he was a friend of the Coston's.
I was glad to discover that fact because I spent literally years trying to tie them together and that was the connection. I was originally working on the premis that O'Hanlon was a females maiden name, that proved to be wrong.
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I really appreciate your contacting me on this matter and sorry to ramble on so, it's just that it is so rare to find someone with any type of family connection, or at best, the same line of surnames who came to Texas from North Carolina.
Again, thank You and hope to hear from you again ...... If I can be of any assistance on your genealogy search, let me know and I'll try any way that I can.
Later, James Coston
Added by James Coston on May 24, 2014 4:48 AM
I really like the way stated information on obituaries. I had also added a close family member and another contributor sent me a message, saying I "had" to add his obituary. There was no way I would, since his death still upsets our family and the privacy it invades. So I didn't and then she bombarded me with little things- plot numbers, sections, on and on! Finally I had to get rude with her...
And she has been on this site for a long time, but has current full obits and pictures from funeral homes.
Even listed people who are still living- because they have a tombstone with their birth date on it (they are my cousins). WHY do some people do this?? BUT when it comes to transfers, they follow the guidelines completely???

Added by Katie on May 07, 2014 9:09 AM
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