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Janet Muff (#46951416)
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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Doris Miller
RE: Stella A (Miller) Streeter
Everyone really appreciates all your work!
Added by Doris Miller on Jul 18, 2014 4:14 PM
Doris Miller
RE: Stella A (Miller) Streeter
That's so nice. I will be looking forward to seeing the photos. Have a good trip!
Added by Doris Miller on Jul 17, 2014 7:01 PM
re: your message about Aaron Orr's wife
Aaron Orr
Michigan, Marriages, 1822-1995
Name: Aaron Orr
Birth Date: 1793
Age: 57
Spouse's Name: Charlotte New
Spouse's Birth Date: 1808
Spouse's Age: 42
Event Date: 25 May 1850
Event Place: Barry, Michigan

Indexing Project (Batch) Number: M51824-2 , System Origin: Michigan-EASy , GS Film number: 1008320
Citing this Record

"Michigan, Marriages, 1822-1995," index, FamilySearch (, Aaron Orr and Charlotte New, 25 May 1850; citing reference ; FHL microfilm 1008320.

This marriage would have been after Mary's death on Aug. 30, 1847.
Added by drbuck on Jul 09, 2014 6:54 PM
Gayle Harmon
Thank You
Again, for your contributions to findagrave. I appreciate my fellow cemetery walkers,photographers for their time and efforts. I was up in the New England area last summer and had the chance to walk Old Bennington and Rupert St. in Vermont, as well as in Suffield, Ct and in Massachusetts. Such a beautiful area. Thanks for the so many Harmons that you have included in your ventures. Happy 4th!
Added by Gayle Harmon on Jul 04, 2014 9:43 PM
Joe Gibbens
Ruth Hollister Smith
Hi Janet - You just sent me information that Ruth Hollister Smith was the mother of Asa Smith. Thank you very much. She is my g-g-g-g-g-grandmother. I had no idea where she and spouse, Isaac, were buried. I am not asking for her memorial as I don't have anything I could add to it anyway. In fact, I agree hardily with your assessment of the rudeness of the recent requests for transfers. I attribute it to the Ancestry people moving in and thinking they own the place. I have left one particularly rude person's messages up on my page for everyone to see. Thanks again.
Added by Joe Gibbens on Jul 03, 2014 7:13 PM
Liz Burdick
Smith and Porter headstones-Hebron
As I've said before - you ladies do a super job - thanks again for all your work. Thank you Thank you! Some notes are forth coming.
Added by Liz Burdick on Jul 02, 2014 9:09 PM
Electa Smith, Harvey Smith, Cordelia Smith
Hello Janet, thank you very much for adding the photos for the Smith headstone at North Hebron Cemetery.
Added by Melissa on Jul 02, 2014 8:19 AM
Thanks so much for all the headstone photos you post!! Sure appreciate your effort and time.
Added by mommycita on Jun 29, 2014 2:50 PM
Thompson family line
Hi Janet, I am searching for the Thompson side for Minnie P Edgerton. I see that she is the wife of Frederick Edgerton and they settled in Wallingford. The Thompson family is originally from Starksboro, Vt. We know great information on her parents, William Thompson and Sarah Minerva Smith. I am really searching for the family tree going back to Samuel and Diannah Melcher Thompson which would be Minnie's great-great grandfather. Thank you for any help.
Added by bviens on Jun 24, 2014 6:15 PM
Annis Jean Hite Patee
RE: Relief (Clark) Bent
Sorry it has taken so long to respond. I do not know Dorcas Clark's maiden name. I wish I did. I am working on 2 lines for a very good friend of mine that both came back to Rutland and Windsor counties in Vermont. These lines are her paternal grandparents lines. Inez Martin is the grandmother and direct descendant of Icabod and Dorcas Clark through their daughter, Obedience (Relief's sister). Some of the names in this line are: Martin, Davenport, Trask, Bailey, Clark, Graves, Horton, and Richardson. Her grandfather, Joseph Bell, has been the difficult one. His line is Bresett and Wood. I will be working them next. I had to take a short break for my grandchildren, but I will be back working on them tomorrow. If I find anything out, I will let you know. My friend and I both live in Indiana. My private E-Mail is: if you have any questions or ideas.

Added by Annis Jean Hite Patee on Jun 22, 2014 11:25 PM
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