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HJ (#46937296)
 member for 8 years, 2 months, 15 days
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Bio Photo 1. SEND SOURCE INFO!!! When sending info for inclusion on memorials I have entered, please include your source (where you found it, or how you know it). This is important. If I think the info is questionable, I might not add it, or will note who sent it to me. I decline to perpetuate errata and will NOT post anything from an unreliable source.

2. MANNERS COUNT. I appreciate POLITE requests and corrections. If you don't know how to use the words, "please," and "thank you," or can't be bothered, then please don't bother at all. If you send extremely rude, or threatening messages, no matter how subtle, I will forward them to the Find A Grave administrators, without exception.

3. I TRANSFER. Aside from my own family, and close friends, I do not hoard memorials. POLITE requests for your family (close, OR distant), and close friends will all be considered. If I am even remotely related, I will not transfer. I will keep my friends, unless your relationship is significantly closer. If you are prone to entering sloppy memorials with incorrect info, I will think twice about a transfer.

4. YOUR PHOTOS: Please don't add bad photos to memorials I have entered, i.e. photos where you can be seen reflected in the stone, your car is in the background, the stone is covered in bird poop, or leaves, or dirt, your dog, or kid can be seen, or photos taken at a carelessly crooked angle, or ones with more "white space," than gravestone (NO need to crop ALL the white space out, and photos of entire family plots are the exception). Please do not add photographs of new graves in their entirety, with no grass growing on the freshly up-turned dirt. Please do not add photos of the temporary plastic grave markers placed by the funeral home, or photos of the gravestone, prior to inscribing of the DOD for new burials--if you do, please anticipate that I will request a removal when a photo of a fully inscribed gravestone has been posted. I spend a lot of time to make attractive, respectful memorials. Your help with that is appreciated.

Note: If the persons grave has no marker, please at least add a photo of the area where the grave is located.

5. MY PHOTOS, those of gravestones and cemeteries, may be used without my permission, EXCEPT on, or any site which requires an exchange of money. There is no need to give me credit and in fact, I would prefer that you don't. However, please do not post one of my original photos to a Find A Grave memorial yourself. Politely make a request and I will gladly add, if appropriate.

6. CAUSES OF DEATH are a matter of public record. If you are related to an individual who has a cause of death posted in their memorial, and you are disturbed by the posting of that cause, I will remove it, upon polite request.

7. I VOLUNTEER. As another member has noted on their profile, I'm not getting paid to do this. Nope, not a penny. I sometimes get behind in doing corrections, updates, etc. Your patience is appreciated. Please remember that edits take time, no one is entitled to my time, and demands are wholly unappreciated (please refer to point #2 above). If you can't wait, you may send the edit request to Find A Grave.

8. LIVING PEOPLE: Please don't add memorials for them, especially, if you haven't yet entered a memorial for YOURSELF. Not only is it against policy, but it's just a horrendous thing to do to someone, without their consent.

9. LIVE & LET LIVE. I am all for receiving and sending updates, corrections, etc. I appreciate notification when I have added a duplicate and will notify others of duplicates. Beyond that, I do not consider myself to be on the Find A Grave police squad, and neither should you. Please allow me to tend to the memorials I have entered. If I add something you don't like to a memorial you have entered, or to that of a family member's, please point it out to me POLITELY. Vague references to Find A Grave policies are not helpful in specific instances--I have entered hundreds of memorials and manage hundreds more. Above all, please remember that Find A Grave IS NOT REAL. The internet is NOT TANGIBLE. What does that mean? In the grand scheme of life, this is small stuff and could go "poof" in an instant.

10. To those who are all about the numbers: THERE IS NO END TO DEAD PEOPLE. Just because I might enter a memorial you wanted to enter, doesn't mean you can't enter one for someone else. There are plenty for all.


In Honor of Our Fallen Brave . . .

In Flanders Fields, 1919, by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.


THANK YOU to everyone who sends info and corrections for memorials I have entered. Time does not permit me to thank everyone for each individual contribution, but please know that they are appreciated!

In case I have missed anyone, THANK YOU to the PHOTO VOLUNTEERS who have fulfilled my requests--much appreciated!

MANY THANKS to those MEMBERS who have entered memorials for members of my family and who have had the kindness to transfer them to me--you're the BEST!


PRIVATELY OWNED CEMETERIES & PHOTOGRAPHY Privately owned cemeteries may regulate the taking of photographs by persons physically within the boundaries of the cemetery property. Please refer to the laws of the relevant state. More discussion may be perused here: (Courtesy of Find A Grave Member Diehard, profile # 46809256)


Finally, when I die, please no one euphemistically assert that I have "passed." It sounds so impolite, as though a catastrophic gastric feux pas has occurred, and won't fool anyone into thinking I have done something other than dropping DEAD. Geesh, we all do it, so I don't think it is taboo to say it. Furthermore, I shall haunt anyone designating my date of death as an "angel day," or similar nonsense. How presumptuous it would be for anyone, except God, to make such an assumption.
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Irene Cattani
Researching my son-in-law's ancestry brought me to this lady's family, where I learned of the extreme hardships and the many coal mine disasters from this area and time period.

This was a fascinating story of her short life and the relocation of her husband and children to Detroit.

Unfortunately, I later learned that my son-in-law's father had actually been adopted and was totally uninterested in his genealogy!

This didn't distract me from the family's history or the interesting articles that I discovered about this area.

Thank you so very much for all your efforts, and especially for answering my photo request.

Added by Boog101 on Nov 19, 2015 10:24 AM
Marianne Morfoot
RE: Thomas Morfoot
Thomas Morfoot or Thomas R. Morfoot's ashes are buried in the Locust Grove Cemetery in Locust Grove, Georgia 30248. His ashes were interred during a graveside service on Saturday, February 21, 2015. The cemetery was formerly called the Locust Grove Baptist Cemetery, but when the Baptist congregation moved from the church building in front of the cemetery, they gave the cemetery to the town of Locust Grove, Georgia to maintain.
Added by Marianne Morfoot on Nov 18, 2015 12:39 PM
Randy Watkins
RE: Memorial # 106396012
I have removed my comments. I would also suggest that you place "Unmarked Grave" in the plot field. One of the major problems with Civil War burials in a National Cemetery is that the original grave markers were made of wood and in a lot of cases, the information was written in pencil. This did not last long and a lot of markers were stolen and used for firewood. It was not until around 1920 that the wooden markers were changed to marble markers. Record keeping was not the greatest during that timefrome, so if the wooden marker was unreadable or had been stolen, it may have not gotten a marble marker. These are mysteries that will never be solved
Added by Randy Watkins on Nov 15, 2015 9:41 PM
Randy Watkins
RE: Memorial # 106396012
The reason that I placed this item on Find A Grave is that there had been a couple of requests for a grave photo and I had replied to both individuals that there was no record of him being buried in that cemetery.

I worked for the Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery in St Louis and we oversaw the operation of the Mound City National Cemetery. During my 20 years there, I performed two complete audits of the headstones on the grave against the hardcopy paperwork maintained by the Veterans Administration. There is no record of him being buried at Mound City.

You made the comment that his body "now lies in a grave marked "Unknown Soldier, killed at the Battle of Belmont." There is no headstone in that cemetery that has that inscription.

Your bio also states that "his body will be taken to Washington for burial" and then you also show his wife as being buried in Congressional Cemetery in Washington. It was standard Army practice at the time of her death that she would have been interred in the same cemetery as her husband, Congressional Cemetery.

Your memorial was not the only one that I place this comment on. There are numerous memorials at the Mound City National Cemetery where the individual makes the comment that "he died in a field hospital in Kentucky" and then he makes the comment that "he assumes his body was brought to Mound City for burial". Again, no record of those burials, but individuals were requesting photos.

I was just trying to let individuals know that there is no way of taking a headstone phone as his grave site is not known
Added by Randy Watkins on Nov 15, 2015 8:44 PM
RE: Wallace Family
No problem.... good luck with your research!
Added by JSOrorke on Nov 15, 2015 7:12 AM
RE: Wallace Family
I've transferred Mathew and John Wallace to your care. Interesting how you developed a connection to them. Something similar happened to me when I discovered a "lost" ancestor of my husband, who had died in the Civil War and been forgotten by the family. Once I had him securely documented in the family tree, I made up by mind to try to document the rest of the members of his unit. I didn't realize what an undertaking it would be, but I find that people will transfer memorials of these men without even asking me... which is nice, but not really my intention. I think that many of us who randomly create memorials like the idea that someone who cares about the people will manage their pages, even if they are unrelated.
Added by JSOrorke on Nov 14, 2015 12:04 PM
Wallace Family
I added the parent's information to Mathew's memorial page. The information on John Wallace's birth probably came from a Hitt descendant, as I don't recall doing the research myself. I just did a quick search for the family and I see that on the 1850 census, John listed his birth state as being Delaware. (Of course census data is always suspect....!) His wife Sarah is from KY, the four older children on the census from OH, and the 3 younger from PA. I don't mind making corrections, but would it be easier for you if I transferred these memorials and any others that I manage from this family to you?
Added by JSOrorke on Nov 14, 2015 9:29 AM
RE: Photo of Gen. Wallace on eBay
Interesting...will check it out...thanks for letting me know...

Added by BJ on Nov 13, 2015 12:36 PM
Betty Judy
RE: Israel M. Cross
Dear HJ,
Thank you so much for this web site and for posting the picture to 100473789, Israel M Cross.
Added by Betty Judy on Nov 13, 2015 7:30 AM
Matthew Wallace
Added by JSOrorke on Nov 13, 2015 6:13 AM
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