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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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RE: Julia C. Geel Huntley
Thanks, Tim. I would always prefer to transfer rather than have duplicates. Keep up the good work.
Added by Lin on Jul 01, 2015 11:00 AM
RE: Therese Blanche (Gagnon) Lepage in Deltona Memorial Gardens
You're very welcome. Glad I could help!

Added by Lisa on Jun 26, 2015 7:50 PM
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William Wear
I apologize for being so late in doing the transfer. I am out of state due to a family illness and have no records with me. I will try to go through my edits soon.
Added by Record Keeper on Jun 26, 2015 7:13 PM
Sheila LePage
Thank YOU !!!!!
Tim & Grace you two are so gracious when you do the foot work , the picture taking and all that you do for ALL of us on !!! You are my NEW cousins and most likely I found you BECAUSE of YOU & your hard work in as well !!! Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart !!!
And also for allowing me to use your pictures! I love having a picture for an ancestor because it makes me feel more connected to the loved ones I never knew! So thank for the pictures, the information and the blood , sweat, and tears you shed so I don't have to !!!
Love you both !!!
Sheila Adams LePage
Added by Sheila LePage on Jun 19, 2015 5:57 PM
RE: Bowman Cemetery in Sidney
Have a great time in Nova Scotia! I didn't realize you were so close to Bowman Cemetery. I understand about the cropping of the photos, which is why I ask. I'm not the most proficient photo editor (or taker for that matter, which is why I don't take photos!) and I request permission. I'll just wait until you have a chance to go there in the future-that's not a problem. It there are markers present, I'd love to see them. Have a great vacation!

Best Regards-
Added by SusanG on Jun 13, 2015 8:46 AM
Re: Bowman Memorials in Bowman Cemetery
Hi Tim and Grace-

I am a family member of the Bowman's in Bowman Cemetery (Harriet M., Christopher C., Cora B., George, Jennie, Frederick, and Henry) . Would it be okay if I added the cemetery records to their Memorial's? I didn't see that you oppose it in your profile,but I wanted to make sure just in case I missed it.

Best Regards-
Added by SusanG on Jun 13, 2015 8:04 AM
Jack Davison
CDR Frank slattery
I actually like your cenotaph for Frank better than the 2008 memorial.He was in my company a year after me at USNA. With abit of effort his Lucky Bag (yearbook0 photo can be downloaded from the scanned archive at the Academy's Nimitz Library and posted to your memorial. It is free of copyright restrictions.

My Dad's big sister married a Maine man Wesley Rich Brinton and is byrued with him at Sullivan in Hancock County, if the Brinton family is of any interest to you. My own younger brother has traced our Davison line together with our Dad's Mother's Risley lin all the way back to 1620, also together with our mother's maternal line. Cousins have received details of her paternal line from the village records in France where it originated, all the way back far earlier than 1820. It is amazing what one can learn when one digs. We still have distant cousins in Provence, we learned.
Added by Jack Davison on Jun 08, 2015 3:15 PM
RE: Jones/McCarty Children
Thanks for information. Guess I might be calling Boston, Mass. again and hopefully speaking with someone different this time.
Regards, Debbie
Added by ForgetღMeღNot on Jun 01, 2015 8:23 PM
Jones/McCarty Children.
What sources were you able to find confirming
Althea Antoinette Jones (1875 - 1875),Charles Augustus Jones (1876 - 1880), Albert Selden Jones (1879 - 1880) are all buried in Cambridge Cemetery
in Boston, Mass. I believe they are in Mass., but not in Cambridge Cemetery as the office has no record of them when I called several months ago. Perhaps they overlooked them?
Thanks for any information you can provide.
Debbie Perkins
Added by ForgetღMeღNot on Jun 01, 2015 4:02 AM
RE: Was it Verenus Hiram Ryder in Forest Hills Cemetery and Crematory?
I have been holding off linking Helena with her father until I could find the final resting place of her mother. Now she is linked to her half brother as her brother.
There were two marriages and children with both wives.
I had the information on Helena's burial. I held off making the link until it could all be put together accurately.
Added by TOY on May 29, 2015 8:09 PM
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