|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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|Barbara Hanno||RE: Brookins|
Hi Janet, Yes, I do assume that Ithamar is buried beside Judith. But I meant in the written vital records of New Marlborough I didn't find any entry about any Brookins or any Morgans, such as a birth, marriage or death, other than the entry for Cyrus and Lois Brookins. I'll go look again sometime when I have more leisure. Thanks for all your help!
|pkarchs||RE: Three children of John Ray (1802-1868) | North Russell Cemetery; Plot 43|
Citations forwarded via separate email. As mentioned there, I seek information related to ANY SMITH/RAY marriages, period – especially male Smith to female Ray in NY, VT, MA around 1790 or so. In searching for the parents of my 3x gr-grandfather, George Ray Smith (1813-1878, F-A-G No. 62999220), I’m banking on his middle name being maternally derived. I'm scouring every RAY and SMITH, et al. text this summer with special focus on the collections of the NYG&B at NYPL and the Rare and Manuscript Collections at Cornell U as they were given a huge cache of church records across New England by a collector of "religious treatises" -- entirely off the genealogical radar. I found my George R. Ray's wife's church membership there entirely by accident, of course. NYS Library, Albany in September.
In your Vermont travels, send any/all SMITH/RAY discoveries my way.
Philip in NYC
Added by pkarchs on Jun 23, 2016 6:22 AM
|Barbara Hanno||RE: Cyrus Brookins|
Hi Janet, It is an entry from Births and Deaths, so not marriage. But thought you might like a photo of the original entry. I always try to find the primary sources rather than recapitulations. The children are Reuben and twins, Luther and Calvin. Wish I had found Ithamar and Judith, but nice to see Cyrus and Lois.
|Kevin Mullen||Stephen Long|
Hi Dr. Stephen Long Married Susanna Little.
|pkarchs||Three children of John Ray (1802-1868) | North Russell Cemetery; Plot 43|
Friendly notice: I created specific tab edits for each of the three children of John Ray and wife Diadama Lawrence (1807-1880), each of whom are identified in the recollections of Orin Linden Ray (nephew of John and Diadema) as published by William G. Ray, Grinnell Iowa, 1919. You manage memorials for two of them and Harlow in particular is incorrectly linked; bios for children and parents need correcting. The children were:
Harlow H. Ray (1827-1869)
Sarah H. [Ray] Smith (1830-1895)
Alanson Gilbert Ray (1834-1897)
Philip in NYC
Added by pkarchs on Jun 19, 2016 4:00 PM
|Barbara Hanno||Cyrus Brookins|
Hi Janet, Thought you might be interested. I went to New Marlborough last week and looked at the old town birth and marriage records. I did find the record of Cyrus and Lois Brookins with the births of three children. There were no other Brookins mentioned and no Morgans. Would you like me to send the photo of the entry for Cyrus and Lois? I can't use your aol email, though, because I have no connection to it and don't know how to make one. Otherwise I can post it on his Findagrave profile.
|KNC||RE: Jane Frances Stanton|
According to the Bement Township Cemetery Records she was born Sep. 4, 1816 in Sharon, Ct. and died on Jan. 9, 1892. She is buried with her husband, his other wife (Mary Beach Stanton, her sister) and one of the children, James in plot SW-64.
Added by KNC on Jun 15, 2016 5:49 PM
|Michael Noyes||RE: John & Marh McCollam|
I am no longer a member of Ancestry.com. As a result, I cannot give you a link to the documentation of John's birth country.
|Maggie O||Simon Clark|
please send a documented resource to add the parents of Simon Clark. happy to add them to the bio if you don't have one
thank you :)
Added by Maggie O on Jun 11, 2016 5:48 PM
|D. Larocque||Sunderland, VT|
If you could send me the list of those residents from 1765 of Sunderland, that would be great! I am also working on my RAY family line, and I have found a bonafide connection to Sunderland there as well, possibly locating a lost Warren child previously unassociated with any Warrens that I know of- Sarah (Sally) Warren Ray (#98973429), second wife to my ancestor, Abel Ray.
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