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heavensdelight (rhonda bruce) (#47578333)
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Bio Photo “The Golden Rule trumps the guidelines, and hoarding is just stingy and small."

Don’t even get me started on the self-appointed FAG police who trawl this site looking for the slightest reason to terrorize other FAG members. For Pete's sake, get a life!!!
FAG rules do not command that you CAN'T transfer outside of guidelines; only that you are not REQUIRED to transfer outside of guidelines. It is at your own discretion to decide if you wish to transfer or not. The time and effort that each FAG contributor puts into creating memorials is greatly appreciated; however, family belongs with family. If you are not related to the deceased or never even knew them, why on earth would you want to deny a family member the privilege of maintaining their loved one's memorial?

Public or written slander and any defamation of character is a crime in the USA, be careful what you say about someone in public or written, you can and probably will get sued

I have temporally taken over my cousin's (Rhonda Bruce) accounts so that they would not go in-active because of the harassment from some FAGravers..

Our grandparent lines: Bruce, Brooks, Childress, Holsonback, Hulsey, Kirby, Davis...

Ancestry DNA proven: Robert DeBruce (Bruse) of Scotland
Kirby and Hulsey into the Charlemagne Kingdom

There are many myths floating around out there in the world of genealogy, making it harder for genealogists. Don't derail your research by becoming a victim to the following false myths.

The 1890 census burned. It is true that more than 99 per cent was burned in a fire at the Commerce Building on Jan 10, 1921. However, when the fire broke out firefighters flooded the basement with water and the flames didn't spread to upper floors. The 1890 records were piled outside a records storage vault and were soaked. They set in storage for a while and sometime between 1933 and 1935, the records were destroyed. Fragments of the 1890 census with 6,160 names from the states of Illinois, Ohio, Alabama, Georgia and North Carolina later turned up and are available on microfilm.

You can find your whole family history online. It looks so simple on the show Who do you think you are? A few clicks on the keyboard and you find your family history but genealogy research is a lot more complicated than that. You can get lots of actual records online but there are also lots of errors in these records, including family trees. To adequately document your family tree, you need actual documents that often requires visits to Libraries, Courthouses and Archives.

Your ancestor came over on the Mayflower or George Washington is your ancestor. Lots of families have these stories and they became embellished over time, so be sure to do your research to validate. Nor everyone with the same last name is related. DNA evidence today has disproved many long held traditional family stories about ascendancy.

Your ancestor's name was changed at Ellis Island. Passenger lists were created at the port of departure and Ellis Island officially checked the names on the list. However, immigrants often changed their own names in an attempt to sound more American.

The Courthouse burned and all the records are gone. You may run into a courthouse fire. (and this is a good argument of why we need to digitize all court records but that's another story) If you run into this situation, remember....the vital records, naturalization's, deeds, wills and other records weren't always completely destroyed. Sometimes records survived or copies were sent to another office or agency.

You can buy your family crest. Actually, families don't have crests....individuals do. Coats of arms must be granted and you must prove descent through a male line of someone to whom arms were granted.

There were three brothers who came to America. One went north, one went south and the third went west. Oftentimes, this is an excuse for lazy genealogists who cannot explain why the same surname exists in different places. Many times, the families were not related at all. This story is now so common that if you hear it......consider it a red flag that other data may be false or not well-researched.

Good genealogy research takes time. There is just no way around it. I wish it was possible that with a few clicks on your computer keyboard, you could find your family ancestry but that is not the case.

Granted, research by others is always helpful and saves you considerable time but always remember to follow up and document the research with actual supporting records. It need not be expensive. Sometimes this data can be obtained for free online and many courthouses, archives and libraries provide copies of documents for a small fee.

Your tombstone stands among the rest;
Neglected and alone.
The name and date are chiseled out
On polished, marbled stone.
It reaches out to all who care
It is too late to mourn.
You did not know that I exist
You died and I was born.
Yet each of us are cells of you
In flesh, in blood, in bone.
Our blood contracts and beats a pulse
Entirely not our own.
Dear Ancestor, the place you filled
One hundred years ago
Spreads out among the ones you left
Who would have loved you so.
I wonder if you lived and loved,
I wonder if you knew
That someday I would find this spot,
And come to visit you.

We are searching for the grave's of James Jim Bruce and Sarah. 1820-1840 they lived in Marion County, TN, by 1850 Sarah Teague was in Dekalb County, Alabama with our 3rd great grandfather Francis Marion Bruce, Sr and living next to Memply (Murphy) Bruce, Marion's brother. James Bruce died between 1840-1850 for he is not with Sarah in 1850.

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Gary Mull
Holsomback Family
I would very much like to contact you regarding Allie Holsomback as he shows in the 1920 census as being born in Georgia. I think I may have a connection I would like to explore. Thanks
Added by Gary Mull on May 08, 2015 11:03 AM
Ricky Edward Terrell
Your Appreciation
Like others, I appreciate your interpretation of those who create empires from the final resting place of our beloved families. I too, appreciate their work, but don't deny someone of the right to write on their loved ones page. The alternative, multiple memorials for the same loved one. I am one who has discovered in nearly forty years of searching that my name, via three brothers, thought to be, coming to the new world is spelled in no less than a dozen ways today. One consideration is what the census marshal or Ellis Island agent heard or not liked about the spelling and hastily wrote it, The pronunciation of my family name is Tar al, not Te rail. In 1842 my 3rd great grandparent married in DeKalb County Georgia and were record by the County Clerk as Joseph Ferrell and Nancy Davis, the letter T was script and it crossed the body of the T. In 1900, the same grandmother is listed as Nancy E. Tearl in Marshall County Alabama. Thank You
Added by Ricky Edward Terrell on May 01, 2015 7:09 AM
Sharon Frank Patrick
Juliet Cox
Thank you for the info.

I love your profile and seems like we have the same opinion on the self-appointed Find A Grave police

Have a blessed day,
Added by Sharon Frank Patrick on Apr 21, 2015 8:45 AM
Reuben Glen Davis Sr
Putting them in CORRECT Place
Ronda Thanks so very much on correcting my errors, I would have corrected it myself, but I have never did that... Reuben
Added by Reuben Glen Davis Sr on Apr 11, 2015 3:12 PM
RE: Luther
Lillie Thomas is my sister, she is the wife of Charles Thomas,son of Luther and Mary Thomas
Added by GLADYS ROEBUCK-HENSON on May 19, 2014 4:24 AM
Lynn Marie Vint
Ancell - Starkey memorials
Hi Rhonda,

Thanks for the information regarding Raymond Starkey and Flora Starkey. I have updated the memorials (and bios) for them and for Lee Roy Starkey at Wanda Cemetery in South Roxana, Illinois.

I appreciate you taking the time to send the additional information and links.

Kindest regards,
Added by Lynn Marie Vint on May 18, 2014 10:40 PM
Iriss Hill
Clifton Ancell
Thanks for the additional data I added! I'm still attempting to link IL Ancells (Lance & Sylvia Ancell) to MO ones.
Added by Iriss Hill on May 18, 2014 10:07 AM
RE: xanders photo
Rhonda, your very welcome, glad I could help. By the way love your avatar.

Added by Hoby on May 13, 2014 12:29 PM
mfb59Margaret Bagwell
Thanks for your unsuccessful efffort in getting this photo. It takes people like you to help.
Added by mfb59Margaret Bagwell on Mar 24, 2014 8:40 AM
Ray and Marty
Addition to bio
Have added first husband Anderson Moore Tidwell to bio.

Marty Lindsey
Added by Ray and Marty on Mar 22, 2014 2:46 PM
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