|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
| || member for 7 years, 4 months, 20 days|
| [Add to MyFriends]|
|Bio and Links|
Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
|Messages left for Janet Muff (1051)||[Leave Message]|
|Jonathan Laing||RE: Titus Lyon Family|
|Jonathan Laing||Titus and Phebe Family|
Awesome. I can create the memorials. If you have the pictures that would be great.
|Jonathan Laing||Titus Lyon Family|
Ok, Here are the kids.
Eliza Jennie Lyon Francis (Wells Town Cemetery)
Margaret Lyon Kelly (Scottsville)
Martha Lyon Wiley
Charles Lyon (Scottsville)
Frank J. Lyon and Edith Sherbono?
Unknown Male Lyon (Scottsville) died young
George Lyon (Scottsville) died young
Mary Lyon (Scottsville)died young
Myra Sabina Lyon Warner (Scottsville)
Seems like Scottsville is a good place to start.
|Jonathan Laing||RE: TItus Lyon|
Good to hear from you again. It has been a while. If you run across Titus and Phebe in your journeys. Can you keep an eye out for Titus' mother, Thankful Mattison. Her husband Jacob Lyon is in Mettawee with his second wife Anna.
Thankful was the daughter of Ishmael and Deborah Parris Matteson. They have to be up there someplace. Last I knew Ishmael died in Danby area. He had quite a few kids.
I found a mention of one daughter married a John M. Bishop. She was a daughter of Ishmael and Deborah.
Thanks for your help. Maybe this year, I will make another trip up to the area.
|Sheila Larson||RE: headstone photo|
OK, Janet, will do. :)
|Sheila Larson||RE: headstone photo|
Cool! Maybe your husband's ancestors and mine were neighbors! I'd love to go back to Vermont. I was there 5+ years ago but was concentrating my effort on southern Vermont. Never made it up to Rutland County. Anyway, I do so appreciate it, Janet. Seeing the photo made this little girl real for me somehow.
|E.S. Hinckley||Mattocks marker|
Thanks for the efforts in getting a picture, your work is always appreciated.
|Sheila Larson||headstone photo|
Thank you so much, Janet, for taking the photo of little Carolina. I live in California, so it would be quite a trek for me. I really appreciate your trudging out there to take the photo!
|Jaycie Smith||RE: Satterlee Miller|
The source for Satterlee's middle name came from the book, "God's Strange Work: William Miller and the End of the World" by David L. Rowe.
And actually, he lists Satterlee's name as Ebenezer Satterlee Miller.
|Don & Mary Cavender||RE: Joseph L. Vose|
I couldn't be sure if it was a typo or what is on the stone, so I sent the request and posted the certificate.
If it is what the headstone shows, I have no problem with you changing it. The posted certificate is enough to show that there may be a mistake about the exact date. As to which is incorrect we may never know unless other documentation is found.
|[View all messages...]|
Privacy Statement and Terms of Service