|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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|Theresa Latimer||Thank You|
Thank you for the picture of my 5x great grandfather Ephraim Fisher - I really appreciate it
|Lori Bell||Thank You!|
I just returned from vacation to find the wonderful photos you took of my 2x great-grandmother! Thank you so much! I live in Washington state so it would be difficult for me to visit the cemetery. I love having a photo for each relative.
|Sabina||D. W. Hodge|
Janet...thanks for another great find and photo! Happy trails.
Added by Sabina on Aug 15, 2014 2:53 PM
|Charles Thompson||Ebenezer Moulton|
Thanks very much for the grave stone photo for Ebenezer Moulton.
|TT||Thank you Janet|
Janet is a kind and generous person who went above and beyond a simple request I made of her.
Thank you, Janet !
Added by TT on Aug 09, 2014 6:50 AM
Thank you very much for taking a picture of my ancestors grave. It is much appreciated.
|MTB||Moses & Lydia Clark|
I would like to thank you very much for the wonderful pictures of their graves. I hope you don't mind if I have pasted them into my Ancestry database. I will attribute you as the photographer.
Again thanks ever so much.
Added by MTB on Aug 03, 2014 10:05 AM
|Mary Davy||Mayo Grave Photo|
Hi Janet == thanks so much for photographing the Joseph and Lucy Mayo grave marker. Wow ! What a beautiful marker it is and in such great shape! They are my 5 G grandparents.
-Mary R. Davy
Thank you so very much for photographing all those that you could find buried there. It was a tremendous help that you made Memorial pages for them. What a wonderful job you did! May I use your photos in my Family Tree (with proper credit)? Again, thank you. Helen
Added by Helen on Jul 29, 2014 9:18 PM
|K. W. Sellew||Re: Tamer Benton|
Janet, I'm sorry you had gone to so much work and decided to delete the memorial.
I will keep the Evarts as a possible surname for Tamer as we have nothing else to go on. There were Evarts living in Cornwall, Addison Co, VT at that time. Are you researching the Evarts name? Possibly that is where the info came from.
Keep up the Good Work!! It is greatly appreciated!
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