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sticksandstones (#46888135)
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Bio Photo BIO: Interested in genealogy, cemetery art, historical preservation, Colonial, Civil War, and present day history of the Eastern North Carolina and South Carolina low country regions, plus visiting historically significant cemeteries in the United States. My interests have lately focused on the Baynard, Barnwell, Bailey, Burrows, Elliott, Jenkins, Mikell, Jones, Smith and Whaley families of Beaufort, Edisto Island, Charleston, Columbia, Orangeburg, Port Royal, South Carolina.

Why Sticks and Stones?

I have to take a moment to express appreciation for a book I found about year 2000 in an independent bookshop on the 2nd floor of a building in Wake Forest, North Carolina. That book was ' Sticks and Stones: Three Centuries of North Carolina Gravemarkers (Richard Hampton Jenrette Series in Architecture and the Decorative Arts) by M. Ruth Little'. It spurned my interest in the historical and cultural aspects of cemeteries, and lured me into exploring the backwoods, and not so backwoods cemeteries of North Carolina and South Carolina, and eventually led me to join Find A Grave to help document and photograph stones for others to see.

I've stood in amazement looking at wooden gravemarkers over 300 years old, learned of the stone carvers trade, dominated by the Italian stone artists of Connecticut and Massachusetts, that were first imported to the south, and later done locally by stonecarvers who moved to the South. I learned about the distinct regions of distribution of peoples in NC,from many places; the Scot-Irish of the mountains, the Germans and Czechs(Moravians) of the piedmont, the English in east central NC, and the French Huegenots and Irish who settled along the coast. Many of the settlements were influenced by early Indian trade routes. I encourage you to get a copy for your taphology library.


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I will no longer do additional information/links etc from this message area... Please use the EDIT tab on the far upper right of each memorial for that.

Transfer are typically done by FIND A GRAVE Rules and Guidelines and with-in the generations noted..PLEASE read the rules carefully..... and do not expect to get transfers automatically, just because you state they are in your FAMILY lines. Please clearly state your relationship to the deceased.

Transfer requests should be your siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

I am more than happy to add detailed biographical information to memorials. Please upload it using the EDIT tab in the upper right, pasting it into the box in 'Make A Suggestion'.

You are free to use any of my photos for personal genealogy and family tree work. It would be much appreciated if you give credit to me as the photographer and be sure to note Find A Grave as the source. Please do not use my photos for any commercial purpose without contacting me. Thanks for assistance in this request.

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Please be aware of the rules when asking for transfers. Guidelines

Transfer requests should be your siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

Please state your exact relationship when you contact me.

You should not ask for transfers of people whom were born and died in the 1700 time frame. MANY OTHERS MAY ALSO BE RELATED TO THESE SAME PEOPLE.

Again: Please use the edit tab on the upper right hand corner of the memorial when wanting additional information added... Please use the suggest a correction link.


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Paul Ruger
Hello, I was wondering if you would transfer 8 memorials that your own to me because they are my family. They are in St. Mary's Cemetery in Ballston Spa, NY. There are 6 Shaeffers and 2 Rugers. My grandmother is Elizabeth Ruger (Shaeffer), her father was Warren Shaeffer and his father Sylvester Shaeffer. As for Karl Ruger, he was my grandfather. In all, here are the numbers I am asking you transfer to me: 117645476, 117645477, 117645479, 117645482, 117645483, 117645485, 117645373, and 117645372. Thank you very much!

Paul Ruger
Added by Paul Ruger on Jul 30, 2015 11:44 AM
John Motil

I've taking photos of graves at St. Mary's Cemetery in hanover. I don't think John Motil is buried here. I read his obit again and it says that he was buried in St. Mary's Church of the Maternity cemetery. That's a different one than the one you have him listed in.
Added by Christina on Jul 30, 2015 5:30 AM
RE: Senior or junior
Thanks for your response. I am descended thru Senior and his daughter Delilah. I love finding pictures of family and their homes. THANKS.
Added by margaret on Jul 22, 2015 8:53 AM
Charles Asche
Albert Charles Asche married again in 1951 and his second wife was Ella Maude Madera. The name Madera is the surname of her first husband and I am not aware of what her maiden name was.
They were both older when they married so I doubt there were any children. It seems that although she was originally from New York- as was her first husband,(Italian descent) that they apparently were in Indiana at one point.
At some point they moved to Dade County , Florida and there is a record of them living in "The Redland" which was a VERY rural farming community at that time ( and still is ). In those days it was a VERY long drive from downtown Miami.
I do not know where they are buried.
My grandfather, Charles Frederick Asche was cremated and his ashes are in the Mausoleum at Flagler Memorial Park in Coral Gables(Miami) Florida.
I do not know where Ethel(Asche) Schley is buried.
Unfortunately, her daughter Isabelle has also passed away and I imagine she might have known.
What I DO know is that she could NOT have been buried in Brooklyn @ 1931/32
Added by Charles Asche on Jul 20, 2015 4:18 PM
Charles Asche
Regarding Schley and Asche
Ethel Asche Schley was the daughter of Charles H. Asche. Her two brothers were Albert Charles Asche and also Charles Frederik Asche.
I think some of the confusion here may be that Albert Charles Asche was married twice. His first wife was Ethel Asche ( not Schley - ). Together they had a daughter Muriel.
It seems apparent that , at some point between 1930 and 1940 , Ethel Asche ( not Schley ) passed away. I am wondering if THIS could be the Ethel Asche ( Albert's first wife) that you are inquiring about and which records show that was buried there in Brooklyn/Greenwood around 1931/32.
Ethel Schley, whose husband Herbert Schley died relatively young did NOT pass away @ 1931/32 but lived a very full life and was alive in the 1960's as I remember getting presents from her every Christmas when I was a child.
She lived in Winter Park , Florida in a little house right behind her son - also Herbert Schley(JR.).
Added by Charles Asche on Jul 20, 2015 4:09 PM
Family Tree Maker
George Hoyt, Find A Grave Memorial# 69586544
May I ask, what was your source for this bio of George Hoyt? Thank you very much.
Added by Family Tree Maker on Jul 18, 2015 10:10 PM
Senior or junior
I am confused. Is the Theophilus Hunter who is bio'ed in the Find A Grave Junior or Senior. Which one built the house.
Added by margaret on Jul 02, 2015 9:08 AM
bill preston
Ralph & Edna Pempel #117645141 & 142
Thank you for updating their profiles. Bill Preston
Added by bill preston on Jun 26, 2015 10:25 AM
Jessica Lee
Catello Pagano Grave Memorial #122022113
This is my Father and I would like to manage his grave site.
Jessica C. Lee (Pagano) - daughter
Thank you.
Added by Jessica Lee on Jun 24, 2015 9:55 AM
MERCER Memorials in Briggs Cemetery, Ballston Spa, New York
Your kindness in creating Find A Grave Memorial No. 118063070 and No. 118063071 for David and Edith Chamberlain Mercer, respectively, is greatly appreciated. David Mercer is my husband's grandfather. I started searching for his grave more than 20 years ago. His death certificate (issued in Washington, D.C. in 1953) indicated that his remains were removed, and no cemetery or crematory was listed. You might imagine what joy you brought to me when I found your memorial for him and his second wife. Thank you!
Added by FirstRate on Jun 02, 2015 7:13 PM
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