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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

This new edit system is pretty good. It makes it possible to edit memorials belonging to "Fallen Gravers" , whether they be deceased or just gave up. the problem though is that since memorials now show up as "hints" on, many novices are submitting edits based on unverified sources. It takes time to verify edits when they are submitted. It would be great if source information could be attached to the edit request. In the meantime, it would be helpful if people could submit edit "other" with source documentation along with the edit.
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Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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Janice Erickson
Magdalena Selig Elwell
Wow! What terrific service! The picture and the information you added to Magdalena Selig Elwell's Find A Grave was most helpful. Thank you so much! I had no idea where I would find her last name. And then you also gave her parent's name and her first marriage as well as children! You helped me complete the record for Clarence Dumont Elwell.
Sincerely, Janice Erickson
Added by Janice Erickson on Aug 23, 2016 10:53 PM
Janice Erickson
Clarence Dumont Elwell family
This Elwell family is in my family tree. I read your bio and want to thank you for your work and service helping us find our ancestors. I was compiling Census records for Clarence Elwell and his wife Ida. When I clicked on their FindAGrave memorial, I appreciated so much that you put the plot number on the records. It shows that John E. Elwell was their infant son that died within the year he was born.
The plot number also shows on Clarence's 2nd wife, Magdelena. Thank you so much for this wonderful service. In the cemetery records does it give her last name?
Janice Louise Gildersleeve Erickson
Added by Janice Erickson on Aug 22, 2016 12:24 PM
Caler Cemetery, Centerville, ME

Do you have GPS coordinates for this old cemetery. Some ancestors are buried there and I'd like to visit it. Or perhaps find it on Google maps and send me the link?


Added by NCDave on Aug 21, 2016 1:11 PM
Jan Warren
RE: Madelienne (Russ) Allen in Union Cemetery in Lincolnville
We can imagine the family wasn't impressed by the chiseler's misspelling, either!

Added by Jan Warren on Aug 13, 2016 9:40 AM
John W. Van Dyke
William Morey headstone Photo
Hi Tim & Grace,
Thanks, so much for your efforts to provide Find A Grave and me a photo of William's headstone. Great shot!
John and Bonnie
Added by John W. Van Dyke on Aug 07, 2016 12:50 PM
Thank you for taking the time and getting the headstone photo for Charles Rogers. It is greatly appreciated. Denise.
Added by Denise on Aug 06, 2016 2:38 PM
Mardrey Swenson
RE: Addison Parker Tirrell
Thank you!
Added by Mardrey Swenson on Aug 05, 2016 4:53 PM
RE: Augusta families & Xarelto
Yes, I recall the Hallowell Family search you did in the snow. I never meant for you to search for the actual stone, especially in the snow when you were ill! I pictured you in the library nice and warm seeing what could be found. Hope the Xarelto works well and you will be golfing in the spring with Kevin & Arnold. :)
Added by ForgetMeNot on Jul 29, 2016 1:05 AM
RE: Minnie Estelle (Jones) Shaw - Memorial# 121540077
Thank you again for the transfer of Minnie's memorial and understanding the nature of her relationship to my mother. Will be digging into the family records to fill in as many missing pieces as I can on her memorial. As always, much appreciation for all you do.
Added by ForgetMeNot on Jul 27, 2016 11:55 PM
Memorial# 121540077
Thank you for the recent transfer of Minnie Jones Shaw's memorial. The 4 gen. rule by Find A Grave is, well, very limited and unreasonable at times. For folks like myself, both my parents were raised by other family members rather then their bio. parents. When my mom called Aunt Minnie Momma and kept in contact with her cousin Muriel (Peggy) for over 70yrs. - I should hope you would understand my interest in maintaining her memorial. I will update the bio section ASAP. Thank you again for all you do here. :)
Added by ForgetMeNot on Jul 25, 2016 10:55 PM
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