|Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)|
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PLEASE DO NOT USE THE MESSAGE BOARD TO REQUEST TRANSFERS USE EDIT FOR EACH MEMORIAL YOU WOULD LIKE A TRANSFER. IF YOU USE THE MESSAGE BOARD I WILL NO LONGER COMPLY WITH YOUR REQUEST. IT IS WAY HARDER TO HUNT THE MEMORIAL YOU WANT TRANSFERRED DOWN.|
Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.
**** PLEASE FOLLOW FINDAGRAVE GUIDELINES FOR TRANSFERS. ****
I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.
NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.
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|avmschneemann||Harriett Aurelia Post Remick|
Good Morning, Cheryl
I appreciate you contacting us with our gg-grandmothers death certificate info. Are you related to her as well? Best ~ Anna
|Darcey Gartrell||Thank You|
Just wanted to take a minute and say thank you. Looks like we're related through the Zumwalt line (I'm Great Great Granddaughter of CN Zumwalt through Leonard Guy). Anytime I see your name listed I know the information is solid. If you have any pics/docs not listed that you might be willing to share I'd be grateful. email@example.com - Darcey (Zumwalt) Gartrell
|Betty||RE: Re: Hilma Bruner|
Unbeknownst to me I fixed it. Sorry for the note.
Added by Betty on Sep 11, 2016 11:45 PM
|Boiler_81||Ida May Miller|
Your information is absolutely correct. I was working from data which was incomplete. I asked my wife if she remembered anything about her grandmother having half siblings and she confirmed that she did. Thanks, I learned something today.
|N J Martin||KATIE C PARSON ADKINS|
Seems you missed a marriage for her to Chester John Kirkwood on Dec 21, 1929 Grant Co IN. They must have div bec he didn't die until 1947 and you say she mar this other guy in 1938.
|Robin Toms||Eleanor's Smith|
Updated her page. Thank you for the information!
i am looking for any relation to my grand father raymond legg and great grand father hugh lawson legg they are buried in Princeton cemetery and that part of my family has been lost to me and i would like to connect with them. thanks
|Terry Wulff||RE: Re: Alvin Z Ayers|
I guess I need to wear my glasses more as I didn't notice the spelling difference. Thanks for the clarification and again thanks for the great work you are doing with this.
|Terry Wulff||Alvin Z. Ayers|
Hello Cheryl. Are you related to Alvin? He was married to my Great Aunt Helen. Always great to meet cousins. Your doing a fine job on here. Terry
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