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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Donald Roddy
Revisions To Nita Franklin Memorial
Hi Cheryl,
Thanks for your prompt action approving the updates to my great aunt, Nita Elizabeth Franklin's, memorial.
My son and I are in the planning stage for contracting to have a family plot grave marker for her and her parents (Reuben & Della Franklin) and her brother, Lewis Adelbert Franklin.
Don Roddy
Added by Donald Roddy on May 26, 2016 4:22 PM
Mary Anderson Goodwin
RE: Re: Blooming Grove
Thank you so much.
Added by Mary Anderson Goodwin on May 26, 2016 2:28 AM
Donna Hardey
Richard Edward "Dick" Lee
Thank you so much for the updated information about my grandfather. His family line is a great mystery to me, so if you come upon any further information, I'd appreciate it. Donna
Added by Donna Hardey on May 25, 2016 6:05 PM
Donna Lynn Guire
RE: Re: Transfers
My point of view....I have been with Find A Grave A Lot longer than you think Dear...I could not be any closer than I am to all my distant family. These rules seem kind of odd and I do know all the rules...To me it just seems odd that we can post 1,000's of graves of people that aren't even related to us and they are NOT even FAMILY..All I request are FAMILY...Just seems odd that is to me.....I know you didn't make the rules and hats off to you for going along with the RULES...But my opinion is why not have a few graves of your FAMILY instead of 1,0000 of graves I see others maintain and don't know squat about them....all the graves I request I have BOOKS on all MY FAMILY.....Just seems ODD...Keep The Peace....Yours Donna
Added by Donna Lynn Guire on May 24, 2016 2:02 PM
Donna Lynn Guire
Miller Memorials
Thank-you so very much for the prompt reply...Have a GREAT DAY...Donna
Added by Donna Lynn Guire on May 24, 2016 10:39 AM
Re: Max H Hull
I re-did the photo to show the correct relationship. Also, I noticed that I had Bertha Hull's birth year as "1975" instead of "1875" on the photo.
Added by Watersprout on May 21, 2016 11:41 AM
Re: Francis R Hull
I agree. Even his death notice shows his age as 46, which would make his birth year 1863. He probably lied about his age at enlistment because - at that time - the military wasn't taking any first-time enlistees who were 35 or older.
Added by Watersprout on May 21, 2016 11:24 AM
RE: Frank R Hull
Got it. Thanks. Also, thank you for the link to Oregon newspapers.
Added by Watersprout on May 20, 2016 3:25 PM
RE: Frank R Hull
I am working on my maps of those older sections, so I will go out there in the next few days to confirm the location of his headstone. I'll send you an update.
Added by Watersprout on May 20, 2016 2:03 PM
RE: Frank R Hull
Wow, that's a great find! I wonder where he was initially buried in Kelso in 1909 and if he was later moved to Cowlitz View in 1937. Thank you!
Added by Watersprout on May 20, 2016 1:27 PM
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