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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Donna Lynn Guire
RE: Re: Transfers
My point of view....I have been with Find A Grave A Lot longer than you think Dear...I could not be any closer than I am to all my distant family. These rules seem kind of odd and I do know all the rules...To me it just seems odd that we can post 1,000's of graves of people that aren't even related to us and they are NOT even FAMILY..All I request are FAMILY...Just seems odd that is to me.....I know you didn't make the rules and hats off to you for going along with the RULES...But my opinion is why not have a few graves of your FAMILY instead of 1,0000 of graves I see others maintain and don't know squat about them....all the graves I request I have BOOKS on all MY FAMILY.....Just seems ODD...Keep The Peace....Yours Donna
Added by Donna Lynn Guire on May 24, 2016 2:02 PM
Donna Lynn Guire
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Thank-you so very much for the prompt reply...Have a GREAT DAY...Donna
Added by Donna Lynn Guire on May 24, 2016 10:39 AM
Re: Max H Hull
I re-did the photo to show the correct relationship. Also, I noticed that I had Bertha Hull's birth year as "1975" instead of "1875" on the photo.
Added by Watersprout on May 21, 2016 11:41 AM
Re: Francis R Hull
I agree. Even his death notice shows his age as 46, which would make his birth year 1863. He probably lied about his age at enlistment because - at that time - the military wasn't taking any first-time enlistees who were 35 or older.
Added by Watersprout on May 21, 2016 11:24 AM
RE: Frank R Hull
Got it. Thanks. Also, thank you for the link to Oregon newspapers.
Added by Watersprout on May 20, 2016 3:25 PM
RE: Frank R Hull
I am working on my maps of those older sections, so I will go out there in the next few days to confirm the location of his headstone. I'll send you an update.
Added by Watersprout on May 20, 2016 2:03 PM
RE: Frank R Hull
Wow, that's a great find! I wonder where he was initially buried in Kelso in 1909 and if he was later moved to Cowlitz View in 1937. Thank you!
Added by Watersprout on May 20, 2016 1:27 PM
Henry Sook
Thank you for the information, his memorial has been updated.

Added by Msmith on May 20, 2016 12:07 PM
John Runnels
Thank you so much for putting the photos up and taking care of my brother in laws page. I am sending you the links to his father john Runnels Find A Grave Memorial# 64325136 and also his brother Roger Runnels
Find A Grave Memorial# 120865415. Also to ask if there is a Headstone? My mother in law was told he had one.
Added by Runnels on May 16, 2016 12:40 AM
Sharon H. Noyes
Mary Gertrude Toney #138519789
Mary Gertrude Toney memorial 138519789 was the daughter of Marion Gillett Toney who was incorrectly listed as McToney on her Find-A-Grave Memorial 74795076 in Webster Co., KY. McToney was a surname that was used for K. J. mistakenly as his name was Micajah and was called K. J. Mac so it became McToney inadvertently in Civil War Records and some census data plus Marion's memorial. Fannie Parker Toney #138519713 was the step-mother of Mary Gertrude Toney and she did not marry K. J. Toney until 1889 after he first husband Pulaski Liles died in 1885 and his first wife Marion did not die until 1879 after Mary was born. He is enumerated in the 1880 Webster Co., KY census as a widower with his daughter Amy A. who is Amy Alberta Toney and Mary G. Please contact me if more information is needed. Sharon H. Noyes Contributor #47508156
Added by Sharon H. Noyes on May 15, 2016 8:47 AM
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