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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

This new edit system is pretty good. It makes it possible to edit memorials belonging to "Fallen Gravers" , whether they be deceased or just gave up. the problem though is that since memorials now show up as "hints" on, many novices are submitting edits based on unverified sources. It takes time to verify edits when they are submitted. It would be great if source information could be attached to the edit request. In the meantime, it would be helpful if people could submit edit "other" with source documentation along with the edit.
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Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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Stone Finders
I still stay with the 4 gen for transfer.
Added by Stone Finders on Sep 24, 2016 3:42 PM
Connie Lagasse Russell
Desrosier requested transfers of Desrosier to add some edits...just send me the edits and I can certainly make them...the Desrosier family is in my tree
Added by Connie Lagasse Russell on Sep 24, 2016 2:34 PM
Samuel Oscar Pierce
Thanks for the photo and for filling the request so quickly! Much appreciated.
Added by GenieQueen on Sep 22, 2016 6:54 AM
Barbara Samans
Stephen Warren
Thanks so much for the great photo of Stepehn's grave much appreciated!

Added by Barbara Samans on Sep 21, 2016 4:26 PM
Gail Kelly
RE: Vallieres in North Cemetery
Hi Tim,
Glad to do it. At least this way they are getting "fleshed out", so to speak. My concentration has been to photograph the stones before they are no longer readable or gone completely. That is a real possibility in some of the cemeteries I tromped around in this summer, sadly. I make cursory connections, but do not have the time to do anything in-depth. No need to transfer them back. My family is not from Maine, so none of those you requested are related.
Have a great weekend!
Added by Gail Kelly on Sep 15, 2016 5:39 PM
RE: Silas W. Loomis in Benton Township Cemetery
I would also love to go back before Windows 10. Hate it. Don't worry about when you get it updated as I have no connection to this family was just photographing.

Added by miran on Sep 09, 2016 3:20 AM
nita stolns
A bit of humor goes along ways
Hello I find your Bio a little humorous and we all need abit of humor now then. I'm not asking for a transfer but I may need some information on the ROAGK site which I also a member at sometime in the near future. Keep up the good work on Find A Grave
Added by nita stolns on Sep 08, 2016 10:33 PM
Country Mouse
RE: Danahys in Saint John the Evangelist Cemetery in Hopkinton
Hi Tim,
There are quite a few Danahy's in St. John's Cemetery in Hopkinton, MA. I think I will need make a few memorials for some of them.
I love Maine, I vacationed there as a kid at my grandparents cottage in Washington and I still get up there, once a year, to York Beach. I would rather head north than to Cape Cod.

I always liked the Country Mouse/City Mouse fable. It is certainly easier to visit country cemeteries than city ones so I thought that "name" would be appropriate.
Yours truly, Gail "Country Mouse"

Added by Country Mouse on Sep 06, 2016 3:05 PM
Richard Bragg
Thomas Bragg
Thank u so much Tim for finding Thomas! Great pics!
Added by Richard Bragg on Aug 31, 2016 11:42 AM
deanna french
Sauk Co. Daniel Colburn C.W. Soldier
I am a Vermont Civil war buff, and am working on a project to locate the last resting places of many of our "old soldiers" that had ties to Vermont. Daniel L.C. Colburn is one such patriot. May I use the photo of his grave marker that you contributed to his Find A Grave memorial page, to post on the (

You will receive credit for this.
Thank you for your consideration.

Deanna French
Added by deanna french on Aug 31, 2016 8:30 AM
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