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Janet Muff (#46951416)
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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Edie G
RE: Catherine (Wood) Brainerd
Yes, Catherine Wood was born in Malone NY on Jan 25, 1823, daughter of Araunah H Wood and Emeline (Bartlet) Wood


Edith Haltigan Geraci
Added by Edie G on Sep 16, 2014 5:17 AM
Richard Boutwell
RE: Nancy Boutell
Margaret E Sherman was his spouse. She filed for civil war pension # 83713 as Amos L's wife. She's buried Wallingford Find A Grave # 63809390

Amos's father was another Amos...born Amherst NH 1782 & died Danby 2 Feb 1863..5 spouses?
Clarissa Johnson, Nancy____, Rebecca Bowen m. 1805 Milford, Mary Ann Braley m. Marshfield 1840, Sarah Ferguson m.Pawlet Feb 1863
Added by Richard Boutwell on Sep 15, 2014 6:56 PM
Richard Boutwell
RE: Nancy Boutell
I would greatly appreciate any help you can provide. Multiple Amos B.,s lived in Danby. One Amos l enlisted for 3 years in Co F 4th Vt Regiment 29 Feb 1864 ( H. of Danby by Williams pg 312, also in H. of Wallingford by Thorpe pg 148)
He was taken prisoner and transferred to Andersonville where he died from disease 1 Oct 1864...

When I contacted Anderson National Cemetery for info on his grave location, his records had been mistranscribed a century ago. His unit was noted as Vi, not vt..They thought the soldier they buried was from Virginia, not Vermont. They assigned another name to his grave.. That person survived Andersonville prison and died decades after the civil war!
Added by Richard Boutwell on Sep 15, 2014 6:36 PM
Johnnie Zollinger
RE: Abigail W. Howe
I went back to see if she had any ancestors with a last name Woster but no, I bet it is suppose to be Newton after her mom Avis Newton. Since it is your memorial, you do what you feel comfortable with.
Added by Johnnie Zollinger on Sep 15, 2014 5:20 PM
Johnnie Zollinger
RE: Ruth Stevens Cross
Let me see if I can find any other reference for her middle name.
Added by Johnnie Zollinger on Sep 15, 2014 4:10 PM
Brent Benson
Mary Witter
I was looking for more information on Mary witter and i found on ancestry a Vermont vital record that says she died February 23 1772 which is what you have and her stone says but then i found a family data collection record that says she died February 21 1740 i was wondering if you could help with this problem.

thank you
Added by Brent Benson on Sep 15, 2014 2:28 PM
Johnnie Zollinger
RE: Ruth Stevens Cross
Hey Janet,
Thanks for all your help!!
Added by Johnnie Zollinger on Sep 15, 2014 1:18 PM
Richard Boutwell
Nancy Boutell
Thanks for your time & efforts in getting her tombstone picture...Greatly appreciated...Did you notice any other stones near her as amos had several wives
Added by Richard Boutwell on Sep 14, 2014 8:51 PM
Jody Smith Fearon
RE: How about Spafford?
thanks for the response, you have already been a big help.
Added by Jody Smith Fearon on Sep 14, 2014 1:45 PM
Johnnie Zollinger
Ruth Stevens Cross
Hi again Janet,

Thank you so much for sending me a link message for Achsah Stevens with her mother, I did not know that she had remarried. I would have never found her. I suppose you don't know where her first husband Samuel Stevens is?

Thanks again,
Johnnie Zollinger
Added by Johnnie Zollinger on Sep 13, 2014 7:43 PM
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