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Huffman, Ervin Wesley Jr. "Sonny" (#6061365)
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Bio Photo I was diagnosed with Stage 4 lymphoma in July 2013 and am now in remission. This experience has taught me to leave good records for future generations. I try to only list family members and people that I have known. Quality is much more important than quantity. My great aunt got me started on this when I was in high school. She kept very accurate records and traveled all over the country doing research.

This site has one big major problem I have found. Retired people or hobby seekers will walk cemeteries or scan obituaries without even knowing the person. You can usually tell these people by the quantity of listings they have. It is first come first served on whoever gets the listing and while families are still grieving, taking care of funeral home details, and going through their loved one’s belongings, someone is HIJACKING THEIR FAMILY MEMBER on this site. People are being remembered with a name and date many times and that is it. Many will not give up their listing to a family member’s control. That is a very sad fact of Find A Grave. I learned the hard way. Immediately put a name and date in before an obit comes out or you may be out of luck. PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS WITH LIVES, NOT NUMBERS TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD.

I have several family members listed with just a name and a year. I have family members who are listed in the wrong cemetery. I have family members with misspelled names, wrong dates, no biography, no photos, all because someone wanted to jump the gun and grab that listing. I was very lucky to have known personally my grandparents, most of my great grandparents, and even a great great grandma. I still have a quilt my great great grandma made for me. My great grandma had 13 kids and I am literally amazed that one was entered before I got to it and after asking was told “NO” transfers. The person didn’t even know my uncle’s middle name and the thousands of listings in their name made me sick to my stomach. I am sure these people think they are doing a good deed, however, wrong information is the same as no information at all. Most of these "get the number" people only list a name and dates and nothing else. This is also bad for people trying to find their relatives.

Nobody knows your family like you do. They talk about having to be a parent, grandparent, etc. to get a listing transferred, however, if they are deceased, you are basically out of luck and John Doe Lister can say just about anything he or she wants.

I have made it my mission to fight if need be to get my family member’s information corrected in the very least. I will continue to fight if necessary for each and every listing I find that is wrong.

I have boxes of photos and have been adding things to listings as I come across them. If you get a note from me, please update the listing in the very least. The people that are no longer with us deserve to be remembered as accurately as possible.

My family: Huffman, Smith, Reinholdt, Brown, Hulvey, Garrett, Oltman, Darnell, Berkley, Siders, Mariner, Frahm, Fuchs, Pearson, Strickland, and other extended family members I have records for.
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Elsetta
Edward Dray memorial
I did contact the other memorial owner and ask them if they would consider deleting theirs. Mine not only has many things on it, I paid to have the adds removed and it is a part of an extensive tree. There is a chance the poster may not even be related. If they do not delete it, then I will contact Find A Grave since the difference in the amount of data here is obvious. Mine is helpful to researchers. I worked a long time on this line sine I joined the DAR on him and they made me prove everything about Edward. They did not except the old proofs but made me redo it all from my Charles/ William line. They were not easy either. This sort of thing has happened before, actually with my Alex McCready (also connected to this line) and they will most likely keep mine and delete that one. I also did ask if I could keep their grave photo as it is better!
Added by Elsetta on Aug 19, 2015 6:07 PM
Glenn Wallace
Lenny "Batman" Robinson
Technically, mine is the original...150859025 comes before 150893514.
Added by Glenn Wallace on Aug 18, 2015 11:48 AM
memories live on
RE: Bowcott
you are very welcome. Sorry there was no visible headstone.
Added by memories live on on Jul 23, 2015 6:48 PM
macso
RE: James W. Gattis
You have a good weekend too. Chris
Added by macso on Jul 17, 2015 4:42 PM
macso
RE: James W. Gattis
There are two ways I would approach Rosella. First, get her death certificate and hope the person who filled it out knew her parents names. Secondly, hopefully she had brothers or sisters, trace them in records (hopefully, they are older so you can find them in census records). Hope this is helpful to you. Chris
Added by macso on Jul 17, 2015 12:56 PM
macso
RE: James W. Gattis
That's why I go to all these local cemeteries and try to list as many people as I can. The cemetery where you aunt is has over 80,000 burials as do others in the area. As you see, I have barely scratched the surface with my entries. However, over the years I have heard from many how they have looked for a loved one for years and only found it because I had taken a section of a cemetery that they were in. Receiving messages like this keep me going although as I grow older, I am slowing down a bit. By the way, send some of the rain this way, we could really use it. Chris
Added by macso on Jul 17, 2015 8:40 AM
macso
RE: James W. Gattis
You're very welcome. If you a related, I have no problem transferring the Gattis' to you. Just request through the Edit feature on each memorial. Chris
Added by macso on Jul 16, 2015 1:23 PM
macso
James W. Gattis
Your Aunt is correct. When I am mass entering graves the program sometimes just fills in a previous name I have typed that started with the same letter (W). I don't catch all of those. Thank you for pointing my mistake out to me. I have corrected it and added birth and death information for him. Chris
Added by macso on Jul 15, 2015 9:37 PM
Jeanette
RE: Bowcott
Thanks for your kind words. I enjoy working on here and communicating with people like you, who are cooperative and want things to be correct. You have an awesome day, too!
Added by Jeanette on Jul 09, 2015 1:57 PM
Jeanette
RE: Patrick James Bowcott
Hi! This particular Sidney Bowcott is actually Patrick's grandfather. I found an obituary for his father and his mother in my library's website and created memroials for them added links to Patrick's memorial.

I also linked Sidney R. and Sophia to Sidney Miles Bowcott's memorial as his parents.

Added by Jeanette on Jul 08, 2015 7:00 PM
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