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Nancy Jean {Wolf} Ostrander (#46862375)
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Bio Photo THIS PICTURE IS OF MY WONDERFUL HUSBAND, I LOVE YOU JERRY BENNETT OSTRANDER............notice he is standing next to a headstone. We spent a lot of time, together, in cemeteries.

I haven't done much on Find a Grave for quite a while. My husband, Jerry, and I have been crafting bird feeders and attending craft shows. That in its self takes up a lot of a persons time.

Last year in May (2011) we went to California, Colorado & Oregon for two months. Our granddaughter was getting married in Ft. Bragg CA. After the wedding we had family and friends, we hadn't seen in a very long time, to visit. We have a son and his wife in Oregon, another son who just happened to be visiting in Oregon while we were there, one daughter and husband, three grandchildren and two g-grandchildren in CA, youngest daughter and husband and two grandsons in Colorado. It was the most wonderful trip we had every taken together, every thing was perfect. I think this trip was a gift from God so that we would all have wonderful memories of each other. And I thank You God for that.

You see my husband of, not quite 47 years, died on 12 May 2012. We were tearing down an old house and the front porch roof came down sooner than it was suppose to and fell on my Jerry. There was a friend of ours who was, also, trapped under the roof but, thanks to God, he was spared. God wasn't ready for our friend yet, but he needed Jerry. I sure hope he needed my husband more than I did, because I needed that man of mine a whole lot, God knows I wasn't ready to let Jerry go, but we are on God's time table not ours. There were a lot of things we still had in our minds to do yet.

Please, please don't waited to realize how important your loved ones are to you. Once they are gone you cannot bring them back to tell them how you feel about them. Tell them now and tell them every day how much you love them and how much you depend on them.

Jerry and I were lucky, we were together 51 years, high school sweethearts. Jerry knew how I felt about him because I told him I love many times a day. For no reason, at all, I would just go up to him, give him a kiss and a hug just because of who he was and what he ment to me. My arms are so empty now. What hurts the most is that I had no idea how much I depended on him until he was gone from my life. He made our crafts, I decorated them. We went on long rides around our county, together. We talked to each other every day. We cooked together, we cleaned house together (he was a much better housewife than I am), we researched and took pictures of cemeteries and stone for Find a Grave together, everything we did was together.

Now people tell me I have to learn to do all of this by myself. I'm not at that point yet, I don't even know how to tackle all of these things without Jerry. It's like starting a new life all over again, but alone. I wasn't ready for this I don't know if I ever will be.

The only thing I am doing for Find a Grave right now is corrections. I can't make myself go out right now without Jerry to do the research and take pictures. Maybe someday I will be able to start taking pictures again.

I'm really glad Im not writing on paper, it would be so full of tear stains and hard to read. This was really hard to write to all of you. In Gods name, I love all of you. Thank you for being my friends.

18 Sep 2012
Clark County, Missouri

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Tom Fagart
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Please add a child to Pvt. George Trump Find A Grave #29395401. His child is Henry Warren Trump Find A Grave #8015710.

Tom Fagart
Added by Tom Fagart on May 23, 2015 5:47 AM
J Alden Rogers
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I hope the pain has lessened a bit from when you wrote about your husband Jerry. You were so very lucky to have had him as long as you did. Yes, it is important to tell loved ones that they are indeed loved. You did it right. The pain never leaves, but it does come less often with time. My heart goes out to you.
Added by J Alden Rogers on Dec 30, 2014 6:56 PM
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Added by Norma Faller on May 20, 2014 1:55 PM
Dave & Kristi Bruner
RE: RE:M Wahrer Kirchner
I'm sorry you've lost the "fun" of this. Thats what keeps me going back. Love posting pics and pieces that may help others. I would be happy to take as many transfers as you'd like to be free of. Clark county area holds many pieces of our family trees and I'm happy to care for those until they are requested by family. I believe I have sent many changes for Peaksville, Revere and Kahoka after taking headstone photos. I'd be happy to take any/all that may be overwhelming at this time.

Thanks again!
Added by Dave & Kristi Bruner on Apr 22, 2014 10:37 AM
Dave & Kristi Bruner
Mary M Wahrer Kirchner
Thank you so much for the transfer! After photographing many headstones for Find A Grave, I can truly say Zion Cemetery is one if my favorites. I love the generations of family we have there and the peacefulness I feel with each visit. Thank you again for the transfer and for your huge contribution to this site!

Kristi O'Day Bruner
Added by Dave & Kristi Bruner on Apr 22, 2014 7:12 AM
Carole Lee Alexander
Infant Alexander
Hi Nancy, You were kind enough to transfer my Alexanders from Bethlehem Cemetery. One turned out to be a duplicate. I cannot delete it as the original entry was made by you folks. I just transfered it back to you. Would you please delete it. Thank you very much, Carole
Added by Carole Lee Alexander on Apr 07, 2014 11:04 AM
Johnnie Walker
RE: Oakland Sand
These are yours, all with duplicates in Oakland Sand. When you move any that we have duplicated, please let us know and we will delete our copy. Thanks. Lucy (Mrs. Johnnie)

John J Anthony 16168432
Melissa Anthony 16168444
Ollie Anthony 16168456
Oren Anthony 16168453
Robert E Anthony 16168449
Russel Bales 16168472
Terry L Clark 16168789
Charles Harrison 16168729
Ellen Harrison 16168721
Lily A Harrison 16169047
Rose "Belle" Harrison 16164013
Vernadene Harrison 16168915
William M Harrison 16163820
Linda K McKinney 16168650
Alma Nye 16168491
Bessie Nye 16168754
Charles M Nye 16168680
Clara Nye 16168697
Henry Nye 16168482
Hugh Nye, Jr. 16168744
Hugh F Nye 16168764
James M Nye 16168659
PFC Leland R Nye 16168636
Pvt Phillip Nye 16168463
Ralph E Nye 16168897
William E Nye 16168868
Ben F Parsons 16168846
Martha A Parsons 16168835
Martha M Parsons 16168807
Hazel Nye Tallman 16168709
James Taylor Wolf 16168397
Loma Frost Wolf 16168404
Mabel Wolf 16168415
Otho B Wolf 16168411
Added by Johnnie Walker on Mar 27, 2014 11:50 AM
Johnnie Walker
Oakland Sand
Hi Nancy. I sent an email to you but it must have been caught by your spam filter. I have a list of 34 memorials you added to Oakland Cemetery in Keokuk back in 2006, if I recall correctly. They should have been entered into Oakland Sand in Vincennes, also in Lee County. Oakland Sand is the rural cemetery next to the river. Oakland Cemetery is in Keokuk and has thousands of graves. If you would like a copy of the list please let me know and I'll get it right to you. Thanks. Lucy (Mrs. Johnnie)
Added by Johnnie Walker on Mar 26, 2014 5:54 PM
Carole Lee Alexander
Bethelem Cemetery
Hi Nancy, I am tracking and linking my Alexanders. George Washington Alexander has children buried at the Cemetery. I can add additional information and links. Would you like me to sent you the information or would you like to transfer the Memorials to my account? You did transfer George to my account which I really appreciated it. PLease let me know what you would like to do with the children?

Thanks, Carole Lee Alexander #47288670
Added by Carole Lee Alexander on Mar 21, 2014 1:31 PM
Teresa D
Helen Marie Eichelberger (39530056)
Thank you for accepting the update I submitted for her. I only have one more update that I (unfortunately) can't submit to you for approval. When you get a chance, can you link her to her parents. Then I will be able to check her off my list of updates that I have found during my research.

Father: 39530055
Mother: 39530054

Happy First Day of Spring!

Best Regards,

Teresa Dorey
Added by Teresa D on Mar 20, 2014 11:17 AM
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